How did you get your partner to participate? Stories?
 

I got my wife into it, by slowly introducing her. Holding her hands above her head, using my body to restrain her. Then soft fuzzy handcuff, fuzzy blind-fold. It was all about making her enjoy sex/playtime MORE when restrained in some way, so she started to crave t. Now its a bit rougher, actually got a ring-gag in her mouth a week ago.

I told my partner that I wanted him to get more rough with me... and I started scratching and biting him more. It took him awhile to open up, but eventually he started getting into it. We bought a whip and a flogger, and he really enjoys pulling my hair/choking me.

And I recently got him to really yell at me in a derogatory manner during sex. It was kind of hard for him to call me a dirty little fucking whore.