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inBOIL · 04-08-2008, 06:34 PM

I can agree with women asking men out in principle, but I don't think I'd want that to happen to me. Sure, it would be great to be asked by a woman I want to go out with, but what if I didn't like her? Getting rejected is bad, but to do the rejecting is something I don't think I could handle with anything approaching grace.

Mugzy6 · 04-23-2008, 09:42 PM

Lately I've taken to making the first move. I just can't stand waiting for a guy to notice that I'm not just interested in being his friend. I am, by nature, not very subtle and when a guy can't tell even with how obvious I am it drives me crazy. Probably the most forward thing I've ever done was pushing a guy into his room and just taking off his pants. He told me later he loved it.

ItWasMe · 04-27-2008, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by allaboutmusic

All over the world, there are millions of single men in exactly your position, many of whom will likely remain single until they die. Pretty sad, but the fact is that as long as women feel that the responsibility for making the first move lies with men, shy men are much more likely to remain single than shy women simply because they are less likely to get asked out.

Simple statistics tells us that a sample of one is a poor indicator on which to base an entire philosophy of something, but the human mind is a strange thing!

I did end up going out with him many years later, when he asked me. In fact, we've been married now for well over a decade. But that's still the only time I've asked a guy out.

Makia · 04-27-2008, 06:35 PM

Frankly, my self-esteem was so low until only a few years ago, I never would have expected anything but a no (in high school, I was that loner kid that everyone hated), so I never saw the point in asking.

Tho I did try asking my best friend out once and I got shot down. As it turns out, he's gay, but I didn't know back then, and it killed what little self-confidence I had at the time and I never dared to try that again.

Fortunately, I'm finally in a relationship where I'm not shy about asking for what I want.

MrFriendly · 04-28-2008, 01:00 AM

I've never had a problem going in for the kiss.

I can't say that a lass has ever made the first move on me. But I'm seriously oblivious to even the most obvious hints. Mainly because lasses seem to drop said hints when I'm blind drunk.

Charlatan · 04-28-2008, 02:37 AM

I think there have been a few of times where women have made a move on me. Two stick out:

1) I was not attracted in the slightest and she definitely gave off the bunny boiler vibe.

2) I was attracted to her but didn't see it coming. I ran into her in a club and she just up and asked me to come back to her place and fuck. It was very forward and very hot.

Shauk · 04-28-2008, 10:49 AM

I think all of my exes initiated it.

every last one of them.

just proves to me that their judgement is flawed

After all, they all did dump me.

04-08-2008, 06:34 PM	#41 (permalink)
inBOIL I have eaten the slaw	I can agree with women asking men out in principle, but I don't think I'd want that to happen to me. Sure, it would be great to be asked by a woman I want to go out with, but what if I didn't like her? Getting rejected is bad, but to do the rejecting is something I don't think I could handle with anything approaching grace. __________________ And you believe Bush and the liberals and divorced parents and gays and blacks and the Christian right and fossil fuels and Xbox are all to blame, meanwhile you yourselves create an ad where your kid hits you in the head with a baseball and you don't understand the message that the problem is you.

04-28-2008, 01:00 AM	#45 (permalink)
MrFriendly Psycho Location: Australia	I've never had a problem going in for the kiss. I can't say that a lass has ever made the first move on me. But I'm seriously oblivious to even the most obvious hints. Mainly because lasses seem to drop said hints when I'm blind drunk. __________________ You are not a slave

04-28-2008, 02:37 AM	#46 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	I think there have been a few of times where women have made a move on me. Two stick out: 1) I was not attracted in the slightest and she definitely gave off the bunny boiler vibe. 2) I was attracted to her but didn't see it coming. I ran into her in a club and she just up and asked me to come back to her place and fuck. It was very forward and very hot. __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

04-23-2008, 09:42 PM	#42 (permalink)
Mugzy6 Tilted Location: North Carolina	Lately I've taken to making the first move. I just can't stand waiting for a guy to notice that I'm not just interested in being his friend. I am, by nature, not very subtle and when a guy can't tell even with how obvious I am it drives me crazy. Probably the most forward thing I've ever done was pushing a guy into his room and just taking off his pants. He told me later he loved it.

04-27-2008, 06:35 PM	#44 (permalink)
Makia Upright Location: Memphis, TN	Frankly, my self-esteem was so low until only a few years ago, I never would have expected anything but a no (in high school, I was that loner kid that everyone hated), so I never saw the point in asking. Tho I did try asking my best friend out once and I got shot down. As it turns out, he's gay, but I didn't know back then, and it killed what little self-confidence I had at the time and I never dared to try that again. Fortunately, I'm finally in a relationship where I'm not shy about asking for what I want.

04-28-2008, 10:49 AM	#47 (permalink)
Shauk Confused Adult Location: Spokane, WA	I think all of my exes initiated it. every last one of them. just proves to me that their judgement is flawed After all, they all did dump me.