Miss Mango

The first time you consented to sex, did you talk about and plan it out or did it just happen?

For me, he asked first. and I said okay. We had both been talking about it prior to that. He kept bringing it up. We actually tried once before but were interupted before anything happened. So yeah, it wasn\'t exactly planned, but there was some notice.

levite

I actually consented to sex well before anyone else consented to have it with me....

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abaya

Miss Mango, you are an inexhaustible source of thread-starting questions!

The first time I consented to sex (not when I lost my virginity), it basically just happened. Ktspktsp and I had just "gotten together" a few days prior, while my mom was visiting and staying with me. We were kind of waiting for her to go home before trying anything, but one day I just went over to his house and we got naked and... yeah. I think we both knew that it had the potential to happen (it was at like 11am--I guess we were horny!), as we had both showered, shaved, and cleaned up real nice right before that, but it wasn't "planned" by any means.

I ended up skipping a lecture that I was a TA for, which was kind of bad, but I never did that again since. I figured it was for a good cause. That was almost exactly 4 years ago, on his birthday, April 13th!

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whatever1

aaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh

MY first time, I was with an older woman who was the most patient and easy going. THEN, I was fortunate enough to be the first for a girl. We tried once, and it was too painful. A few days later, with patience, it worked, and that was the flood gate. We then were like rabbits til she broke my heart BUT, we are still friends today and she threatens if she ever gets married I have to be her maid of honor.

Editor94

first time was planned, didn't last long though

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Bees

I guess you could say it just happened. We definitely didn't plan it out in advance in words.
It was signaled in advance through the eyes so we both new it was bound to happen.

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FlatLand Flyer

No plan. She was giving me head and it just went from there.

Jenna

My boyfriend at the time and I had been fighting that night. While at a party, my friends insisted that we go downstairs to talk and stop fighting. And, one thing led to another, and we ended up having sex. It was really bad sex.

My first experience was make-up sex. Ha.

telekinetic

I ended up in a bed drunk and making with someone at a party, we both decided we shouldn't continue, and in the morning I gave her my number, and told her to call if she ever wanted to pick up where we left off.

She called a few days later, and we sealed the deal the next week.

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Daniel_

We were virgins. We'd been dating for a couple of weeks, and had done heavy petting.

She had a day off work, my folks were out.

It was certainly planned.

It was certainly crap.

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thespian86

Parents went to a Christmas party, we were both each other's firsts. We'd been dating for around a month. We lit candles, put on music, and slowly but surely had sex. This sounds stupid but I was quite big for her, she bled a lot and I was as understanding as possible. We finished before either of us came because it was painful for her. We tried again, and again, and then it wasn't so painful. Thats about it.

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Willravel

Hahaha.... awesome.

For me it was rather spur of the moment, but she was on the pill and I had a condom.

LoganSnake

It just sorta happened. I was on top. Next thing I know, I was inside. Who was I to argue?

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Martian

I think Levite's experience is rather common among young men.

I did not plan to have sex the first time, and so far as I can recall have never planned it since.

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noodle

I was asleep, he was spooning me and it went from there.
Not planned per se on my part, but I still think he planned it.

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