opentocomments

I'm sure this can't be the most embarassing question in this forum. I'll just cut to the chase. I was just wondering how long it takes everyone on average to reach an orgasm?

For me alot of it is based on conditions but i'd say on average it takes about 10-15 minutes from oral sex and about half an hour from intercourse. I always assumed that was average until i talked to a friend of mine and he told me he never has an orgasm for at least 45 minutes from oral sex or otherwise. Just looking for some outside imput.

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shakran

It's not really possible to get a reliable average from two data points you know. . . . or even 100.

Example: One guy makes a billion dollars a year. 99 others make 1 dollar a year. Average salary? $10,000,000.99. Not real comforting to the 99 chumps only making a buck.


in other words, whatever's normal for you, is normal for you.

opentocomments

I wasn't worried about being normal. I was just trying to get an idea of the range.

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Martian

The range is meaningless. I as an individual have gone anywhere from 5 minutes to 3 hours. What's average? Even for just me, I don't pretend to know. It depends on the partner, the cirumstances, how long it's been, any number of factors.

Seriously, just relax and enjoy yourself. There's no normal, there's no number here that has any meaning whatsoever. As long as you're happy and she's happy, there's no point in worrying about anything else.

Consider also that your friend may be lying. Men typically feel a need to inflate their numbers. I'm not saying he's definitely doing that, but it's a possibility. What's worth keeping in mind is that 15-20 minutes of being an attentive and exciting lover is better for her than an hour or more of pretending to be a jackhammer almost every time.

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Plan9

Despite often taking longer than men to climax... women get bored with repetitive sex, too.

I dare say most of the appeal of sex is that it is a rush in a wave-crashing-onto-beach fashion.

I'd venture to suggest they don't wanna feel like the immobile ground under an oil derrick... constantly getting pumped 24/7 with no end in sight. I'd imagine they want a nice steady growth in passion, a gooey explosion, and some cuddly-wuddle-boo time afterwards. They are fickle creatures (these female humans) but easy to adore.

WARNING, WARNING: LIE-ON STORM DETECTED. LIE-ON STORM IN... 10 MINUTES.

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levite

Yeah, time is just incredibly variable, based on way too many factors. How horny am I? How long has it been since last time? How hot is the girl I'm with? How good is she at what she's doing? What's she willing to do? What are we both in the mood for? Do we have to be anyplace when we're done?

Also, I admit, if left to my own devices, I am a second-rounder. I tend to be quick on the draw the first round, but I recover very fast (even faster if I get a little help! ) , and then I can last pretty much as long as I need to on the second round. On the first round, I'm lucky if I can make it 10-15 minutes. But on the second round, whatever my honey's in the mood for: 45 minutes, 90 minutes, it's all good.

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jewels

Not necessarily. Again, depending on lots of factors, men in their 40s and 50s definitely can hold out for 45 minutes. You just have to know when to say "How 'bout those Mets?"

I agree with all of the above. Minutes for some, up to nearly an hour for others. And this difference isn't necessarily from man to man, but from each particular "event" and circumstance.

As for me as a woman, it used to be it would take me a really long time (never timed but I'd guess about 1/2 hour). But once a partner and I had developed a certain intimacy level, he and I learned what it took and he could have me orgasm in less than five minutes.

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ratbastid

It takes precisely as long as it takes, and not a moment more or less.

parched_son

We both started at the same time, right? (just kidding ladies)
When I was younger it was 4-5 times a night at about 30 minutes. Now, it's about 15-20 minutes once, maybe twice a week. I think kids, noise, and stress from work convolute the mind and lessen the intimacy quite a bit. It's just life though.... what do you do?

Ustwo

She's doing it wrong.

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Willravel

35 seconds to 4 hours. Are we talking mean, median or mode?

snowy

Amen.

And will...your reply makes me want to draw a box-and-whisker plot.

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Willravel

Stop it, you're making me hot.

blahblah454

Actual thrusting? anywhere from 30 seconds to 20 minutes, or never. I sometimes just can't go so I will stop after she has had her fill.

Including foreplay? Hours and hours depending on the mood we are in.

ratbastid

I've never heard it referred to as that before, but to each her own...

Plan9

Yeah, is that like the agenda that leads up to a "mustache ride" or what?

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World's King

Depends on how much I've had to drink that day.


So, maybe a good six to seven hours.



If I'm awake.

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Willravel

WK, if you can find a lady that doesn't dehydrate into dust by 6 hours marry her.

World's King

Yes, but that would involve actually loving someone enough to marry them...

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ngdawg

No freakin way in hell I'd be giving a blow job for a straight 45 minutes....my jaw would fall off!!

Ustwo

My point exactly.

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Willravel

Do men just have stronger jaws? I would have no problem going for an hour so far as oral is concerned. As long as I had a glass of water.

ratbastid

Far as I can tell, not actually having tried both, going down on a woman is MUCH less strenuous than going down on a man.

Ustwo

So you are saying you can give a better bj than ngdawg?

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cyklone

Not having tried both, but I can't see how this can be true. On a woman you have to use mainly your tongue - not much strength and gets tired easily (unless you are a woman). On a man you get to use your neck - much stronger, or you can stay still and let him do the work.

Plan9

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levite

I had an ex that used to take literally 40-45 minutes of me going down on her to come. It turns out that this was because she was a lesbian, which was actually kind of a relief to find out. But I mention it because there were some occasions where I did actually go down on her for an hour before she finally got where she needed to go, and I gotta tell you: my freakin' jaw was falling off. Even after 45 minutes, my tongue speed was way down, and my palate was going numb....

Still, it turns out that it was great cunnilingual training for bringing off non-lesbians! So...you know...silver lining!

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blahblah454

Wow levite, I would have given up after like 30 minutes, told her to finish herself, and gone to watch a movie....

abaya

Ummm, how does the neck help when you have a large, hard cylinder simultaneously blocking your windpipe and triggering your gag reflex, to which you have to apply your tongue to both stimulate and use as a buffer for your teeth for an extended period of time, long enough for him to shoot liquid with the texture of thick, hot snot down the back of your throat, which you must then promptly swallow? Yeah, if it was between that and "mainly the tongue," you can guess which one I'd prefer... but I'm not interested in pussies.

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blahblah454

Sucking a penis has never sounded so hot!! Where do you sign me up?

Martian

I'm not sure I want to get into this argument, but those of us going the other way don't exactly have it easy either. Any man who just uses his tongue when he goes down on a woman is not doing it right and deserves to be there for 45 minutes. The job properly entails co-ordination between tongue, jaw and lips as well as hands; there's a lot of multi-tasking going on. Add to that the fact that women vary hugely in what does or does not work for them (much more so than men, I would imagine) and the whole mental process of figuring out what does or does not work, and we've got quite the challenge too. Too much pressure, too little pressure, too fast, too slow, direct stimulation vs. indirect, and so on. Y'all aren't as easy to get off as you maybe think.

Also, at first I thought "I'm not interested in pussies" was a double entendre of some sort. Then I remembered what forum I'm in.

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ngdawg

When I do'em, they're done so right, no one can last 45 minutes.

But, really....after the first half hour, it's a bit of same ol'...I'd be tempted to yell "Switch!"

I don't suck, lick, kiss, etc., with my neck And while tongue is definitely required, there too is or should be quite a bit of sucking, licking and kissing.

StellaLuna

Having tried both-- it depends on the day.

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snowy

Oh, and don't forget shielding the teeth with lips...

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Shaindra

Going down on a woman is less strenuous. Jes' sayin'.

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Plan9

Sounds like Abaya_Suddeth has a love/hate relationship with the cock.

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Fotzlid

lol

abaya

Watch it, Crompsin... I'ZE CLIMBN YR WALLZ N BLOWN YR LOAD!

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BearNaked

For me anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour, dependent upon many factors , such as;
How tired I am
How long since last orgasm
Stimulus beforehand
Our pace
What techniques or toys we are using
My partners enthusiasm level
And on, and on, and on