Sharing a kiss
 

Ladies, does it turn you on to share a kiss with your partner after you have gone down on him? do you like for him to taste his own?

*Shudders*

Not so much but the other way around....Hell Ya! :thumbsup:

What's there to shudder about? I don't really like snowballing and having my load end up back in my mouth, but if she's either spit or swallowed it, I'm happy to kiss her afterwards. Really, I promise you won't suddenly become gay if you end up with a tiny bit of your cum in your mouth.

You should check out the thread on snowballing (using the search function at the top of any TFP page)... there's a lot of different opinions of this out there.

I wouldn't say that it turns me on, but I will say that it made me much more willing to give BJ's when I knew that my partner didn't have a double standard about swallowing his own jizz.

I think it's sweet...and indicative of broader sexual attitudes that I appreciate very much. :)

So you are into bisexual males?

I don't see this as a sexual attitude thing, its just not something that appeals to most men.

So you suppose a man must be bisexual to not be turned off by his own semen? Am I to take it that if my lover kisses me after performing oral sex on me that makes me bisexual?

I always kiss afterward. Simply to show that I don't mind. The way I see it: If I'm not willing to even kiss her after she's had my sperm in her mouth, then why in the hell should she be willing to let me put it in in there in the first place?

It's just semen. Unless you don't trust the cleanliness of your own jizz, I just don't see the big deal of it all.

Agreed. While I don't make a point of it, I'm not bothered by it.

Honestly, semen is not toxic. Not even if you're a dude.

And frankly put, if I'm in the middle of doing naughty things with a lady friend, I'm probably not going to stop the proceedings and make her go brush her teeth because she did a taste-test of my mantackle. It seems like the sort of thing that would spoil the mood to me.

I never thought to wonder whether or not I should kiss someone after going down on him. It's good enough for my mouth, why not his?

That said, it turns me on a lot more to taste myself on someone else. Jes' sayin. :thumbsup:

Sorry, I just don't want to kiss her afterwards. That's all there is to it.

And seeing as I *love* to kiss...a lot...that's why there would ultimately be less...afterwards. If you catch my drift.

Never been with a guy for whom that's been an issue. I suck, we kiss, he sucks, we kiss...all part of the process.
And if it were me with you, it'd be "Sorry, I don't want to blow ya. That's all there is to it".
Bit selfish.."Yea, suck me off, but don't expect any affection afterwards.":rolleyes:

Yep, absolutely selfish. I never go down on a woman, at all. It's all about me. I also expect her to have dinner ready before she starts blowing me too.

Amazing.

You too?

Only reason Mrs. Hat doesn't get kissed afterwards is if I'm going to be immediately applying myself to herself in other locations, and even then, if she's swallowed, then I'm cool with it. I already have two more kids than I want.

Damn. I must've caught teh Ghey somewhere.

Actually, for such things that might borderline be considered homosexual - snowballing, strap-ons - one must remember two things: 1) Tasting one's own semen is autosexual, not homosexual. It's not queer - it's narcissistic. 2) In order for one to be a male homosexual, one must desire sex with A Man - not a woman - meaning getting ones semen in ones mouth by way of a woman one desires pretty much puts the kibosh on being homosexual.

That said, while I don't know if I would have put it that way, I have to side with Seaver on this. Just because he would prefer not to be applying his mouth after his dick, so long as he's willing to apply it to any and all female errogenous zones before hand, what's the issue? I do understand that it's a deal breaker for some women (particularly those who enjoy being kissed with lips glazed with their own special secret sauce), but that's no reason to run him down. Sex is not about direct reciprocation. It's about giving.

That and if she wanted to have inner ready before blowing me, well, I could get behind that. Not going to insist on it, but it's a nice touch.

I just don't understand everyone's immediate assumption of homophobia because it's not something I like.

You'll never hear me degrade a woman because she doesn't like anal, you'll never hear me degrade a guy for not liking his nipples played with. Why the hell do people feel the need to jump to conclusions on this?

I was having sex with this girl for the first time last night...

I went down on her... When she had had enough she pulled me up and said, "I wanna know what I taste like." And Kissed me.


It was fucking hot...


So then she went down on me. I didn't got off... We fuck for a while. She tells me to blow it in her mouth. I'm more then happy to do so. She swallows. We kiss. No issue. It's not like she spit back at me. Why would it matter anyway. It came out of me. It's not dangerous.

It's not a dealbreaker for me, per se, but I don't really understand it. I mean, we're already naked, penetrating orifices, sharing fluids, rubbing our genitals all over each other - to have a guy not want to kiss me because his cum was in my mouth would be puzzling to me...and a turn-off.

Frankly, though, I don't think I've ever been with a guy who was averse to the taste of his own cum so it's never been an issue for me.

UsTwo brought the gay thing up. He assumed that I must like bisexual guys if I prefer them not to be bothered by the taste of their own cum.

I used to have qualms about it, but now, not any more. I'm "maturing" =D

I think you are both misinterpreting each other with your "broader sexual attitudes" statement.

uh, I think that would mean he is misinterpreting me.

Broader sexual attitudes could mean any number of things.

He was quite specific in his interpretation of that. That being, if a man is not turned off by the taste of his own semen, he must be bisexual. Not much to misinterpret there.

Yep, to me its not a sexual thing just a ick thing.

Whats wrong with a kiss to show a little appreciation? I tend to go further and just return the favor. I know she doesn't mind.

A friend just pointed this out to me: His question: "How can a guy say something like, "I wouldn't kiss you if you put that in your mouth?" if it is that gross, then why would you let your girlfriend do it?":thumbsup:

I love my friends :D

*Thinks there's something seriously wrong with a guy who would want to taste his own semen*

I'm not considering tasting ones own semen as a sexual avenue, therefore the sexual avenue to be opened would be some sort of bisexuality. Note the op said 'tasting his own' and I can only assume that means semen.

To me there is nothing sexual about tasting your own semen anymore than say tasting your own urine.

Because its obviously not gross to her. I know women who don't like it in their mouth, should they be forced to do it if they don't care for it? Then why should a guy?

The point of his question is, why, if it's a gross thing, is it ok for one and not the other? I don't like cauliflower, but I don't insist my kids eat it....
The guy isn't being forced to pull a Ron Jeremy and suck his own dick, just kiss the mouth that kissed his dick. And if the idea that that mouth has just been on his dick is too repulsive to kiss, why is it ok for her to do that repulsive thing in the first place? It's a give and take, ya know? If I'm good enough for someone to give them head, I'm good enough to get a kiss after I'm done. Maybe I've just been fortunate enough to have such affectionate and appreciative lovers instead of "get that mouth away from me! I know where it's been!"

Not knowing where stuff has been is what keeps society running smoothly. If you knew where that dude's hand has been, you probably wouldn't shake it. If you knew where that kid's finger has been, you probably wouldn't kiss the cut better. And if you knew where that spoon has been, you definitely wouldn't stir your coffee with it.

Clearly anyone who isn't totally freaked out by his own jizz is a complete freak of nature. But, y'know, keep goin' baby. It's okay for you.

And if you knew where his dick has been, you definitely wouldn't have it in your mouth!

:thumbsup: Thank goodness some people around here are becoming more open-minded.

I don't really follow you. No one has said anything about loving the taste of one's own semen or wanting a full load in their mouth. It's about simply kissing the woman who was just sucking on your cock. Honestly, when I've finished giving a blowjob, there's not a lot of semen on or in my mouth, if you catch my meaning. But if I'm going to get snubbed when I crawl up to give him a kiss afterwards, then I'm going to think the guy's: 1) sexually immature or 2) a prude. Both of which are a huge turn-off to me.

Yes.

He just posted that in the snowballing thread, I think my interpretation of the OP is correct. I frequent a sexually type board so I'm pretty good at reading the intent of this sort of thing.

sharing a kiss
 

great to hear everyone's opinions on this.
my girlfriend loves to kiss during oral. I have no problem with it. If it's good enough for her, it's good enough for me. Plus, I love to kiss. I've also cum in her mouth and she gave me a kiss with my cum still in her mouth. She loves that and so do I. I love to do things that really turn a girl on. I have no problem eating her out after cumming in her and then going up and feeding it to her. I also have no problem to cum anywhere on her body and licking it up and feeding it to her. She loves that. Kissing and sharing each other's tastes shows a sign of being one. She and I also love to share a kiss when I go down on her.

Well, I think you read the intent of my post completely wrong and that's what I've been talking about. You addressed my post and commented on it. Now, for whatever reason, you seem to be trying to defray that and make it into another conversation, but whatever...it's really not worth it. If you don't want your wife to kiss you after sucking your cock, then fine, why should I care?

You go your way and I'll go mine. :)

And for my part, I don't think the OP is talking about snowballing.

Based on his later postings I think he was talking about tasting his own semen, which is close enough to snowballing to me.

That is what I was referring to and in response to your post, even if you didn't obviously intend it that way in retrospect. I think a male who WANTS to taste his own semen is just a little bit gay or at least open to that sort of thing. Note this is completely different than not minding it as part of sex.

Still I'm more of a closed mouth kiss guy after that, I guess that makes me a prude or sexually immature which I'm ok with, as I can barely handle my sex life as it is :)

Why?


And it's not like I want to taste it...

Some times there might be a little hint of it in her mouth when she kisses me. I'm not like drinking glasses of it for breakfast...

Even if you did... why would it matter? I mean really, WHO CARES?

Well, I wasn't approaching it that way at all. Nor did the OP frame it in that way.

Not that I think there is anything necessarily gay about a guy wanting to taste his own semen unless he also showed an interest in having sex with another man.

That's what I'm saying...


It doesn't matter.

I don't care. I kiss my boy after he's gone down on me, and I'll give him a blowjob if we've had sex without "washing" the area beforehand. I don't mind my own taste.

He doesn't mind kissing me if I've given him a blowjob, but only if he hasn't ejaculated. He's not so fond of it after that point.

I don't have an issue with it. Any lady kind enough to indulge me and wants a kiss afterward is alright in my book.

Honestly reading some of the replies here I get the feeling there's guys out there who's first thought after blowing his load is "Where's that damn remote and what times dinner."

Very true, with all the homophobic comments one could compare that much to, well if he masturbates he must be into penis right?

Not to be crude but truly there is little difference. Your own cum freaks you out, ok I can understand that I suppose you prefer not to taste your own flavor. To say it is gay though, that is ridiculous.

I never minded sharing a kiss from a man who has probed with his lips below my waistline, why should the reverse be much different? Oh well, to each his/her own but I would be bothered by a refusal to kiss.

So far I count four different people.

Sorry ladies but if a guy WANTS to taste semen I find that somewhat gay.

Guys who don't MIND it, not gay.

Wanting to gay.

So to make myself clear...

'Baby, I want to taste myself." = gay

True! Next thing you know he might be asking you to lick his ass :paranoid:

No

"Baby, I want to taste that guy over there cause I'm sexually attracted him." = Gay

So could I turn the table and say that any girl who does not like anal is a total prude and needs to spread 'em more? How about a girl who is afraid of being tied up, can we go around calling her a sissy?

No, it's just something that not all guys like. It has nothing to do with how they treat their girl nor does it has nothing to do with homophobia.

I don't like tasting my own cum. If she would just drink a cup of water afterwards, absolutely I'll kiss her all night long.

If a girl did not like quickies I wouldn't let people degrade her for that, nor should anyone else. I would simply find ways that worked with her preferences, why can't a guy ask the same?

QFT. Doesn't have to necessarily have anything to do with sexual orientation. I equate tasting my own cum with eating my own boogers. It's also mucus, and I don't do that either.

Next time I use <Sarcasm></Sarcasm> tags since using the 1337 moron spelling convention didn't get it across.

No I am not worried about my sexuality in any way, shape or form, nor am I threatened by gay men.

My own cum does not, in fact, freak me out. Not particularly tasty, mind you, wouldn't want to put it in a cocktail or anything, but for bonding with Mrs. Hat a bit of shared experience now and then is a wunnerful thing.

With that said, I do understand right where Seaver was coming from, and while I don't share his opinion, I do find trashing him for it to be kind of silly.

And wouldn't you like dinner on the table after an orgasm? Seriously. If while your legs were still trembling your fellow went down stairs and took a couple things out of the oven and fridge and had dinner waiting for you when you staggered downstairs? You'd be silly to turn it down, so as long as it was brought up, even in jest, I'd like to register my approval for any blowjob followed by a nice, home cooked dinner. You have a problem with that?

/ Sorry I confused you.

Right, I wasn't saying it to you... more to the other people who seem to care so very much about what fluids go where and what kind of deep-seated meanings that MUST have. :rolleyes:

Yea I mean how can I think its a bit gay to want/desire/get turned on by the taste your own semen as part of a sex act. How narrow minded of me :rolleyes:

I just don't get it, Ustwo. How is wanting to taste yourself somehow related to wanting to sexually be with another person of the same gender? That's like saying because you like to touch your own penis, then you MUST want to touch other men's penises, which makes you gay. I mean... the jump in logic is just completely beyond me.

To me, as a man, you're clearly gay (or at least bisexual) if you are sexually attracted to other men. That is the single qualification.

Maybe I misread the intent of this statement:

Sorry.

Nothing turns me on more then a kiss ... PERIOD!

So just out of curiosity do you consider masturbation a bit gay? I mean you are a guy playing with a penis.

As to the OP, I have. Not a huge fan of the flavor but as long as she has either spit or swallowed and I'm not getting a mouthful I'm okay with it.
We usually do keep some water beside the bed so she can have a quick rinse but if it's a spur of the moment thing I have no problem with it either.

My man is comfortable with kissing me after I go down on him.

I wouldn't go down on him if he wasn't.

Simple as that.

Mister, I like the way you think, and I like you... ;) :thumbsup:
The way I see it, if you're getting some, and worried you'll taste yourself on your partners lips or in their mouth, you have to loosen up, and enjoy the sex/foreplay while you got it.

Yeah, that was sarcasm based on frustration caused by a lot of the comments on this thread.

Exactly. I pretty much ensure she has a glass of water, though as we all can figure if she starts it I'm not going to stop her from doing it.

One girl gave me a surprise mouthful, I really didn't like it. Every other girl has swallowed/spit and I'm completely game. It's not like I send her to go brush her teeth, and gargle with bleach before I'll kiss her again. I just don't want the mouthful.

Again, my bad. I should read through things better and skim less.

My Apologies.

And yet, I get turned on by the taste of my own fluids as part of the sex act...and I'm not gay. Why is that different?

I'll do whatever she wants or whatever will turn her on, period. And I find it deliciously erotic that some girls are turned on by the taste of their own pussy. :bowdown:

I had this smug look thinking "I couldn't care less, doesn't bother me a bit".

I just threw up in my mouth a little.

I mean, wow, this makes me look bad but damn, that's sick. haha

And to think the human mouth is one of the dirtiest orifice we have. :D

Not a big fan of tasting my own junk. . .

As long as it isn't a snowball, I really don't care.

I don't kiss my wife very eagerly after she's gone down on me. She knows that, and doesn't push it.

It's psychological, purely, but I haven't analyzed it to a point where I could go guessing as to where it stems from.

From a male perspective I used to be grossed out by this, but I quickly got over that. On the flip side, my wife WILL NOT put my cock in her mouth after its been in her. I ask why its ok for my mouth to be down there but not hers, although I realize its slightly different being inside then outside. I'm curious what other women/men think about the flipside of kissing cock or mouth after cunnilingus.