To get off... or NOT to get off!! - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

alicat · 01-02-2008, 08:55 PM

This is a question for the lad's and ladie's of TFP. I hope the embarrassment I feel is not unique and the experience, if not universal, is known to some of you whether male or female. Please share if you have experienced the same.

This has been bothering me only for the past few years (I don't know if it matter's, I'm 36). I can be hot as hell and want to get off, so I'll masturbate, sometimes I am so aroused that I have to hold off on the stimulation from the get go so I don't come right off the bat.

The problem obviously isin't that ^^. The problem is when I'm horny and attempt to masturbate, but no matter what I do to myself, I can't come. My clit just gets irritated and I realize, no amount of stimulation is going to make "it" happen. It is so damn frustrating to have such opposite results with the (seemingly) same set of circumstances.

This wouldn't be a problem except that my hubby is on the road for work alot.

I guess I would most like to know if anyone else has this happen to them, and more to the point, if men experience it too (and are willing enough to share).

I doesn't happen to me very often, but when it does it just makes me want to hit something. Hello, how the hell hard is it to get oneself off?!

Again, please share and let me know I'm not alone or some freak.

Ali

Willravel · 01-02-2008, 09:04 PM

It's just one of those things, really. While I don't have any personal experience as a female, I do have secondary experience of a kind. Captain clit isn't the only officer to bring the troops home, if you catch my drift, but I digress...

Sometimes it's not the right time. It's just a reality. While as a man I don't really have this issue, as a man my mission in life is to get my SO off, too, so I am familiar not just with tricks of the trade but also with the fact that sometimes a woman isn't in the right state to finish. It's totally normal.

Craven Morehead · 01-02-2008, 09:10 PM

try some lcy Hot.

Ustwo · 01-02-2008, 09:13 PM

My guess is nice high powered vibrator = problem solved.

World's King · 01-02-2008, 09:25 PM

Think about me?

It must suck being a girl. Guys can get off from a medium breeze.

kramus · 01-02-2008, 09:26 PM

I had a thread which mentioned some of your concerns. http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=103452
Is this the sort of input you want?
BTW, a Magic Wand works pretty well 100% of the time for my better half

Willravel · 01-02-2008, 09:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ustwo

My guess is nice high powered vibrator = problem solved.

OMG, are you a virgin?

alicat · 01-02-2008, 09:50 PM

Thanks boys for giving me a laugh before I turn in for the night!

Will: If I catch your drift, Captain Clit is the only one to bring my troops home

Glad to hear someone saying it's just "reality" though, and kudo's to you for being so dedicated to your lady!

Craven:

Not a chance after the horror's told!

Us and WK: Therein lies the rub (pun intended), seemingly too much stimulation leading to numbness and no relief in a too short period of time.

Maybe it's just my personal physiology, who knows...

Ali

World's King · 01-02-2008, 09:59 PM

I understand completely.

If you use something too much it's gonna get worn out...

Not that your pussy is wearing out.

ghostrider · 01-02-2008, 11:01 PM

Well first off you have to eliminate the stress factor. While vibrators are a good varience they can make it harder for you to masturbate when you want to. As can some lubs that have just come out on the market. They Ky Warming gel is good but it has it's pos and cons.
I see hundreds of patients that come in and have the same frustrating problems. Men and women. There is a factor that most people over look, and that is vitamins. If you are active or even if you are not active if your lacking certain vitamins they can actually make your body not respond the way you would like as does not having enough water intake.
One suppliment that men and women can take to help their body is called Lysine, if you have other medications you take check with your doctor. But Lysine is a key ingredient in many "Sexual Potions" on the market. you can look up the other vitamins that you should take along with the above on the net..
Now it takes two weeks for any medication to reach a good level in your body to become efective but you will find that after you start taking the vitamins you will not have the hendered effects or lack of stimulation that you want when you want. I am a guy and had a simialiar problem I even went to a collegue of mine he told me the same thing I am stating here, and it did have positive effects on me. Plus work your PC muscle, you can do this with no one knowing you are doing your exercise anywhere. You can look up on the net abuot how to do this if you do not know how to already.

soldsoul4foos · 01-03-2008, 10:19 PM

Well, my wife gets off much better when something is in there pounding on the door if you know what i mean. Or, try something more powerful than fingers.

Good luck!

Derwood · 01-14-2008, 02:06 PM

my wife says that she doesn't masturbate because it's like "trying to tickle yourself". she just never feels anything doing it (even tried "the rabbit" with no luck)

jewels · 01-14-2008, 05:25 PM

One more thought -- try indirect stimulation instead of direct. Many women are extremely sensitive and will respond better to "nearby" sensations, or perhaps a slighter touch until things are well-lubricated.

Men forget that we're not all the same, and women think they should have the same experiences they've heard about. It's just not so. Experiment until you find what works for you.

You might find this little excerpt from the Hite Report interesting:

Quote:

I use the tips of my fingers for actual stimulation, but it's better to start with patting motions or light rubbing motions over the general area. As excitement increases I began stroking above the clitoris and finally reached a climax with a rapid, jerky circular motion over the clitoral hood. Usually my legs are apart, and occasionally I also stimulate my nipples with the other hand.

snowy · 01-14-2008, 06:04 PM

For me, visual stimulation is what works best when I'm finding it hard to get off. Porn is helpful.

ngdawg · 01-14-2008, 06:19 PM

Everyone has the same "problem"-it's called a "rut".
Change the technique and use some lubricant-vaseline works well and stays slippery.
If you've been using your hands, try using the faucet in the tub(or the shower head if you can) and vice versa. Look at some porn and put yourself in it-get lost in a fantasy, in other words.
Experiment. This is a good time to pull out all the stops and find out what turns you on. Stick a finger in your ass, use different items, go to different rooms, watch yourself in the mirror. There's so much you can do besides just rubbing one out and finding out what works is more than half the fun.

Plan9 · 01-14-2008, 06:40 PM

Remember that if you use Vaseline or any petroleum-based product as a fun-time-slippery-squirt... you definitely need to thoroughly clean out any area that sees the stuff. That stuff'll get you or your party real-funky-right-quick if not completely removed after playtime is over.

Ourcrazymodern? · 01-14-2008, 07:08 PM

It was just today
I failed to come yet again
and it pissed me off.

Be it and do it.
I'm certain if you want to
that you can do so.

Mantus · 01-14-2008, 08:35 PM

I can't get off by myself. I've been spoiled by pussy

WetNwild69 · 01-27-2008, 09:09 AM

I personally, have expirenced that. and it does tend to piss you off huh? cuz in my case i get all hott an wet an i let my imagination wonder...an even tho every think seems so right, I can't get a full blown orgasn.

But a friend recently told me about, the KY tingling jelly an geeze does that work miracles!

01-02-2008, 08:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
alicat Baffled Location: West Michigan	To get off... or NOT to get off!! This is a question for the lad's and ladie's of TFP. I hope the embarrassment I feel is not unique and the experience, if not universal, is known to some of you whether male or female. Please share if you have experienced the same. This has been bothering me only for the past few years (I don't know if it matter's, I'm 36). I can be hot as hell and want to get off, so I'll masturbate, sometimes I am so aroused that I have to hold off on the stimulation from the get go so I don't come right off the bat. The problem obviously isin't that ^^. The problem is when I'm horny and attempt to masturbate, but no matter what I do to myself, I can't come. My clit just gets irritated and I realize, no amount of stimulation is going to make "it" happen. It is so damn frustrating to have such opposite results with the (seemingly) same set of circumstances. This wouldn't be a problem except that my hubby is on the road for work alot. I guess I would most like to know if anyone else has this happen to them, and more to the point, if men experience it too (and are willing enough to share). I doesn't happen to me very often, but when it does it just makes me want to hit something. Hello, how the hell hard is it to get oneself off?! Again, please share and let me know I'm not alone or some freak. Ali __________________ 'Beware the Jabberwock, my son! The jaws that bite, the claws that catch! Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun, The frumious Bandersnatch!'--Jabberwocky, Lewis Carroll "You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late."--Ralph Waldo Emerson

01-02-2008, 09:13 PM	#4 (permalink)
Ustwo Pissing in the cornflakes	My guess is nice high powered vibrator = problem solved. __________________ Agents of the enemies who hold office in our own government, who attempt to eliminate our "freedoms" and our "right to know" are posting among us, I fear.....on this very forum. - host Obama - Know a Man by the friends he keeps.

01-02-2008, 09:25 PM	#5 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Think about me? It must suck being a girl. Guys can get off from a medium breeze. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

01-02-2008, 09:26 PM	#6 (permalink)
kramus loving the curves Location: my Lady's manor	I had a thread which mentioned some of your concerns. http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=103452 Is this the sort of input you want? BTW, a Magic Wand works pretty well 100% of the time for my better half __________________ And now to disengage the clutch of the forebrain ... I'm going with this - if you like artwork visit http://markfineart.ca

01-02-2008, 09:50 PM	#8 (permalink)
alicat Baffled Location: West Michigan	Thanks boys for giving me a laugh before I turn in for the night! Will: If I catch your drift, Captain Clit is the only one to bring my troops home Glad to hear someone saying it's just "reality" though, and kudo's to you for being so dedicated to your lady! Craven: Not a chance after the horror's told! Us and WK: Therein lies the rub (pun intended), seemingly too much stimulation leading to numbness and no relief in a too short period of time. Maybe it's just my personal physiology, who knows... Ali __________________ 'Beware the Jabberwock, my son! The jaws that bite, the claws that catch! Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun, The frumious Bandersnatch!'--Jabberwocky, Lewis Carroll "You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late."--Ralph Waldo Emerson

01-02-2008, 09:04 PM	#2 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	It's just one of those things, really. While I don't have any personal experience as a female, I do have secondary experience of a kind. Captain clit isn't the only officer to bring the troops home, if you catch my drift, but I digress... Sometimes it's not the right time. It's just a reality. While as a man I don't really have this issue, as a man my mission in life is to get my SO off, too, so I am familiar not just with tricks of the trade but also with the fact that sometimes a woman isn't in the right state to finish. It's totally normal.

01-02-2008, 09:10 PM	#3 (permalink)
Craven Morehead Custom User Title	try some lcy Hot.

01-02-2008, 09:59 PM	#9 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	I understand completely. If you use something too much it's gonna get worn out... Not that your pussy is wearing out. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

01-02-2008, 11:01 PM	#10 (permalink)
ghostrider Upright	Well first off you have to eliminate the stress factor. While vibrators are a good varience they can make it harder for you to masturbate when you want to. As can some lubs that have just come out on the market. They Ky Warming gel is good but it has it's pos and cons. I see hundreds of patients that come in and have the same frustrating problems. Men and women. There is a factor that most people over look, and that is vitamins. If you are active or even if you are not active if your lacking certain vitamins they can actually make your body not respond the way you would like as does not having enough water intake. One suppliment that men and women can take to help their body is called Lysine, if you have other medications you take check with your doctor. But Lysine is a key ingredient in many "Sexual Potions" on the market. you can look up the other vitamins that you should take along with the above on the net.. Now it takes two weeks for any medication to reach a good level in your body to become efective but you will find that after you start taking the vitamins you will not have the hendered effects or lack of stimulation that you want when you want. I am a guy and had a simialiar problem I even went to a collegue of mine he told me the same thing I am stating here, and it did have positive effects on me. Plus work your PC muscle, you can do this with no one knowing you are doing your exercise anywhere. You can look up on the net abuot how to do this if you do not know how to already.

01-03-2008, 10:19 PM	#11 (permalink)
soldsoul4foos Upright	Well, my wife gets off much better when something is in there pounding on the door if you know what i mean. Or, try something more powerful than fingers. Good luck!

01-14-2008, 02:06 PM	#12 (permalink)
Derwood Who You Crappin? Location: Everywhere and Nowhere	my wife says that she doesn't masturbate because it's like "trying to tickle yourself". she just never feels anything doing it (even tried "the rabbit" with no luck)

01-14-2008, 06:04 PM	#14 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	For me, visual stimulation is what works best when I'm finding it hard to get off. Porn is helpful. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

01-14-2008, 06:19 PM	#15 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	Everyone has the same "problem"-it's called a "rut". Change the technique and use some lubricant-vaseline works well and stays slippery. If you've been using your hands, try using the faucet in the tub(or the shower head if you can) and vice versa. Look at some porn and put yourself in it-get lost in a fantasy, in other words. Experiment. This is a good time to pull out all the stops and find out what turns you on. Stick a finger in your ass, use different items, go to different rooms, watch yourself in the mirror. There's so much you can do besides just rubbing one out and finding out what works is more than half the fun.

01-14-2008, 06:40 PM	#16 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Remember that if you use Vaseline or any petroleum-based product as a fun-time-slippery-squirt... you definitely need to thoroughly clean out any area that sees the stuff. That stuff'll get you or your party real-funky-right-quick if not completely removed after playtime is over. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

01-14-2008, 07:08 PM	#17 (permalink)
Ourcrazymodern? still, wondering. Location: South Minneapolis, somewhere near the gorgeous gorge	It was just today I failed to come yet again and it pissed me off. Be it and do it. I'm certain if you want to that you can do so. __________________ BE JUST AND FEAR NOT

01-14-2008, 08:35 PM	#18 (permalink)
Mantus lascivious	I can't get off by myself. I've been spoiled by pussy

01-27-2008, 09:09 AM	#19 (permalink)
WetNwild69 Upright	I personally, have expirenced that. and it does tend to piss you off huh? cuz in my case i get all hott an wet an i let my imagination wonder...an even tho every think seems so right, I can't get a full blown orgasn. But a friend recently told me about, the KY tingling jelly an geeze does that work miracles!