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10-24-2007, 10:33 AM
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Hello everybody! New to the forum.
Hi, my name is Pow and we'll say my fiance's name is "C".
Anyway, to get straight to it, I want to see her with another man. She said she'd mess around with a woman, but she's frightened of another man. Not frightened to flirt/dance/etc with, but "do the deed" with. A little backstory. When we first started dating, she was still messing around with an ex and I found out 8 months later. Basically, we worked through it, and while I feel that she wouldnt necessarily be against another man, she's against the idea of bringing back in that turmoil from before. I've told her many many times that I wasnt mad at what she did, but rather that she was dishonest with me. All in all, the idea of her with her ex really turns me on. Now I never want to be cuckold'd because that just seems TOO weird. Lol. I just think it would be hot to see her flirt/dance/kiss/fuck a good looking guy and to let me have utter and complete control over the situation. Any thoughts? |
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10-24-2007, 11:39 AM
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i think that we've identified that as her misunderstanding between the whole thing... she still feels guilty for having done to me what she did in the beginning disassociating the past and the present may be the biggest hurdle..
i think her guilt about the past in general really hinders our sex life in general... also, she thought that i wanted her to do it with a man so i could do it with another woman, something i'd never do unless she really wanted to... |
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10-24-2007, 07:38 PM
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I'm curious,
So, you don't want to join in, you just want to watch? What exactly to you mean by having complete control? I know that sound like a silly question, but how exactly do you want to control the situation?
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10-24-2007, 08:21 PM
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Alot of things may seem like good ideas, are you at this point not knowing how she'll emotionally react, willing to put this relationship on the line?
I would think not since you are engaged. This kind of thing is more reserved for people who are more comfortable with themselves and are really 'in-tune' with their mate. Obviously she doesnt know how this will emotionally effect her, or she doesnt know that you are going to be able to handle it once it begins. Brushing aside a multitude of other possible outcomes, more of them are negative than positive.
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10-25-2007, 07:09 AM
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ourcrazy... i seriously used to think i was bi or even gay, but when it comes down to it, i can think a guy looks really good if he works out or has a giant schlong or something, but average chick>hot guy any day of the week... there's just something about watching a woman squirm and roll... beautiful...
mr friendly, i'd say the control would come in the form of being able to stop it whenever i wanted to... it could just be foreplay and if i said "stop", it would have to stop... telling them what to do wouldnt be so bad either... crompin, i dont think i'd be vicariously fucking her, but rather enjoying a voyeuristic moment with utter and complete control... menoman, i totally understand what you're saying... being a man and having the ability to able to accept the situation for what it is, sex, does not necessarily mean that she will be able to do the same.. perhaps i'll keep this as a "fantasy only" dream... until we go to hedo in a year..lol |
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10-25-2007, 08:24 PM
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10-25-2007, 08:34 PM
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10-26-2007, 06:31 AM
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baraka..
vat the vuck are u on? valium? oh..btw pow.. bad idea.. carry on..
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