Feeling the loss of not doing what i was supposed to? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

johnyto · 06-18-2003, 03:42 PM

well, that is my dilemma. I have been following through the Washington little problem he had with women. To make this clearer, i am going to write a book in here (j/k):

year: 1999
place: high school
characters: me, my friend from school and the one who could have been...

well, for the homecoming game i was really interested on this one chick, but i didn't know her, so what i did was to write a letter to her. I told her that i liked her a lot and that i was anxious to know her a little better and that i wanted to somehow go on a date with her. Well, then i talked to her friend to find out more details and stuff. From there, i wanted to ask her to the dance, i didn't ask her because of family problems and i had no cash... well, one week after the dance i asked her friend what was going on with "her" and she told me that she has a b/f and stuff. The minute she told me this, i was in shock and sad as hell. Well, i respected that "fact", but at the end of the school year, i asked my friend who did go to senior prom and danced with her and he told me that she made up the fact of her b/f and it was just a lie.

Then, after that i was like really pissed off about it, so i was like feeling like crap for the rest of graduation day. Following that she saw me a couple of times, stared and looked down, like nothing happened, right there at school. Perhaps feeling sorry for what was going on or something.

One week after graduation, i called her house and asked her father if she was there. He said no so i said that i had called as a message to her. It has been four years since then, and i still haven't been able to forget about her = she is just special.

So, what i did was talk to one person at work, and he recommended me to talk to her on the phone, but the phone number i used that time was off the yellow pages, so i was like, hell no...

Luckily enough, i found her college e-mail address, so i did e-mail her and told her that i am sorry and stuff and that past is past.

So, what do you think i should do? Wait for her reply or talk to her on the phone?

If i call her, i don't want to be a threat to her, i want to at least talk to her for a couple of minutes for the first time, but i hate the rejection thing and also the fear up my brain of doing so...

What should i do?

Thanks guys. i hope someone has been through this...

rockzilla · 06-18-2003, 04:34 PM

This'll be a little harsh, but it's been 4 years, she wasn't interested then, she won't be interested now. Don't call her, especially if she hasn't emailed you back, that's just invasive, not to mention creepy. Get over her, as special as you think she is. She lied about having a boyfriend because she isn't interested. Go out and find a girl who does want to go out with you, you'll forget about her in no time.

johnyto · 06-18-2003, 06:19 PM

the only drawback of this is that she was interested back then and so was i. She lied about having a boyfriend because i stalked her (i suposse i did). well, who knows. no reply yet, it has only been 3 hours since then. Thanks.

HFrankenstein · 06-18-2003, 08:29 PM

You've already creeped her out. Forget about her. She seems all sorts of special right now, no doubt, but you'll have forgetten all about her by the time you watch your first son inch his way out of your wife's hugely swollen vagina one day.

*shields face from the inevitable scowls I'm gonna get for that one*

JangoFett72 · 06-18-2003, 09:23 PM

Um...yeah, stalking is a real turn-off. You're probably not going to like to hear this, but if you don't hear from her within a few days or a week, I wouldn't invest any more time on her. Its been four years and I'm sure she has a whole new life now. Its nice to imagine what could have been, but don't forget to focus on the here and now.

ratbastid · 06-20-2003, 06:11 AM

Guess what. You're <i>still stalking her</i>.

Give it up, or get professional help. This isn't healthy.

eyeseepeedude · 06-20-2003, 06:24 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ratbastid
Guess what. You're <i>still stalking her</i>.

Give it up, or get professional help. This isn't healthy.

think that basically sums it up for me too...

Cynthetiq · 06-20-2003, 06:33 AM

to add to the stalking bit...

maybe you didn't think that's what you were doing, but by NOT saying anything to her, that's how it came off. I'm going to bet my bottom dollar that if you meet someone now, you'd probably do the same type of thing, hem and haw, shuffle your feet, and do all the dilly dallying, and then come off that same way.

06-18-2003, 03:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
johnyto Upright Location: Chicago, Ill	Feeling the loss of not doing what i was supposed to? well, that is my dilemma. I have been following through the Washington little problem he had with women. To make this clearer, i am going to write a book in here (j/k): year: 1999 place: high school characters: me, my friend from school and the one who could have been... well, for the homecoming game i was really interested on this one chick, but i didn't know her, so what i did was to write a letter to her. I told her that i liked her a lot and that i was anxious to know her a little better and that i wanted to somehow go on a date with her. Well, then i talked to her friend to find out more details and stuff. From there, i wanted to ask her to the dance, i didn't ask her because of family problems and i had no cash... well, one week after the dance i asked her friend what was going on with "her" and she told me that she has a b/f and stuff. The minute she told me this, i was in shock and sad as hell. Well, i respected that "fact", but at the end of the school year, i asked my friend who did go to senior prom and danced with her and he told me that she made up the fact of her b/f and it was just a lie. Then, after that i was like really pissed off about it, so i was like feeling like crap for the rest of graduation day. Following that she saw me a couple of times, stared and looked down, like nothing happened, right there at school. Perhaps feeling sorry for what was going on or something. One week after graduation, i called her house and asked her father if she was there. He said no so i said that i had called as a message to her. It has been four years since then, and i still haven't been able to forget about her = she is just special. So, what i did was talk to one person at work, and he recommended me to talk to her on the phone, but the phone number i used that time was off the yellow pages, so i was like, hell no... Luckily enough, i found her college e-mail address, so i did e-mail her and told her that i am sorry and stuff and that past is past. So, what do you think i should do? Wait for her reply or talk to her on the phone? If i call her, i don't want to be a threat to her, i want to at least talk to her for a couple of minutes for the first time, but i hate the rejection thing and also the fear up my brain of doing so... What should i do? Thanks guys. i hope someone has been through this... __________________ This life is good...well, if you think of it being that way!!!

06-18-2003, 06:19 PM	#3 (permalink)
johnyto Upright Location: Chicago, Ill	the only drawback of this is that she was interested back then and so was i. She lied about having a boyfriend because i stalked her (i suposse i did). well, who knows. no reply yet, it has only been 3 hours since then. Thanks. __________________ This life is good...well, if you think of it being that way!!!

06-18-2003, 08:29 PM	#4 (permalink)
HFrankenstein Crazy Location: New Jersey / Delaware	You've already creeped her out. Forget about her. She seems all sorts of special right now, no doubt, but you'll have forgetten all about her by the time you watch your first son inch his way out of your wife's hugely swollen vagina one day. shields face from the inevitable scowls I'm gonna get for that one __________________ When in doubt, sauerkraut.

06-20-2003, 06:33 AM	#8 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	to add to the stalking bit... maybe you didn't think that's what you were doing, but by NOT saying anything to her, that's how it came off. I'm going to bet my bottom dollar that if you meet someone now, you'd probably do the same type of thing, hem and haw, shuffle your feet, and do all the dilly dallying, and then come off that same way. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

06-18-2003, 04:34 PM	#2 (permalink)
rockzilla Junkie Location: The Kitchen	This'll be a little harsh, but it's been 4 years, she wasn't interested then, she won't be interested now. Don't call her, especially if she hasn't emailed you back, that's just invasive, not to mention creepy. Get over her, as special as you think she is. She lied about having a boyfriend because she isn't interested. Go out and find a girl who does want to go out with you, you'll forget about her in no time.

06-18-2003, 09:23 PM	#5 (permalink)
JangoFett72 Tilted	Um...yeah, stalking is a real turn-off. You're probably not going to like to hear this, but if you don't hear from her within a few days or a week, I wouldn't invest any more time on her. Its been four years and I'm sure she has a whole new life now. Its nice to imagine what could have been, but don't forget to focus on the here and now.

06-20-2003, 06:11 AM	#6 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Guess what. You're <i>still stalking her</i>. Give it up, or get professional help. This isn't healthy.