Bearface

I have a problem. as you can probably suggest by the title, yes I cant seem to control my ejaculation. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can fix this?
I've done my fair share of reading on this but I'm not sure what the best remedy is. I don't want to take any steps without being sure that I won't inadvertantly be making it worse. At present Intercourse usually lasts for a whole 5 minutes of thrusting at a moderate to fast pace. If I'm really turned on, i.e. in doggystyle or the gf is dressed up then its bloody hard work to stop from blowing the bags in under 5 minutes. Thing is, it never used to be this bad. It just got worse over time, so I'm hoping that its a case of muscles involved becoming lazy and simply re-training muscles back "up to strength" as a solution.

Is anyone else sufferering a similiar plight? I would like to hear from those who are as well as those who have done and if there are effective methods of overcoming this, if at all.


Phew (not bad for a second post!)

telekinetic

Try looking at these two threads, they may have some answers for you:

Report: Premature Ejaculation, Lasting Longer, Research.

New to Sex - Premature Ejaculations: Is it always like this?

Had this problem a couple times early in my sex life. My solution? Be ready for round two. If you can't get it up again right away, eat her out for a while (shouldn't be a problem, since you're wrapping it, right?) and then when you feel 'up' to it, dive back in. This technique absolutely wipes out any memory of the 'too fast'.

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World's King

Please search before you post. This place as been around for a long time and is full of information.



Oh and... think about baseball... or your mother naked...

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Bearface

Yes, I will indeed search from now on! I didn't realise how massive this place actually is.

And thanks twistedmosaic on the links. Very interesting reading and it seems I'm not the only one!

Cheers guys.

Plan9

Slam your nuts in a car door before sex.

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Bearface

Tried it man.. it just left me with a sickly, dull ache in my stomach.Like someone was internally scraping the lower part of my abdomen with scrunched up tinfoil

Leto

hmmm... I wonder if she's cute.....

Bearface

Ok heres a question and I'm not sure if this warrants starting a new thread...

Do any of you guys out there ever find dirty talk to push you over the edge??

To be more specific I'm referring to the vocal responses of your lady partner only once penetration has occured (so while your going for gold basically).
I find that I'm ok when I find my rhythm but as soon as she starts telling me how good it is or how good she feels/how big it is or sometimes as little as womanly moaning I feel myself edging closer to the point of no return at rapid speed. Like the feeling literally comes out of nowhere (excuse the pun). I have had to cover her mouth with my hand to stop myself from firing so soon. I'm not sure if I'm getting turned on by the thought of her being turned on or whether I'm just rubbish.

Any thoughts?

Lucifer

try doing multiplication tables in your head. that always works for me.

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1123, 6536, 5321

maleficent

math is really hot

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Racnad

Think about the 2008 presidential race.

World's King

There is no such thing as coming too quickly.


She just takes too fuckin' long.

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Midnight

I had a partner where the more i sounded like i was enjoying myself, the faster he would cum... i learned very quickly to SHUT THE HELL UP.

Bearface

Now that sounds like me.
Do you think there is a correlation between what I mentioned earlier about getting turned on through knowing that your turning on your partner?

Sorry for all the questions, I am trying to understand a little bit more about my own sexual responses in a bid to improve....

Baraka_Guru

As was hinted in that other thread, 5 minutes actually isn't bad at all. Apparently, a normal Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency Time (IELT) is said to be up to 7 minutes. I've also read that it can range from 3 to 7 minutes. Serious problems with premature ejaculation is if it's under 90 seconds.

Here's a tip: Moderate to fast pace? How about varying the speed, take it slow at times? How about pausing and using another of your body parts to do something? It isn't a race, which is why you might be looking at 5 minutes when you want longer.

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BigBaldRon

5-7 minutes? I call shenanigans!

No way, no how, under 10 minutes is "normal". I cant remember the last time I finished in under 30 minutes.



Goodlord, no wonder my GF loves me! hahaha.

Baraka_Guru

My Stats:
FPA: 43 minutes
OSmin: 10 minutes
IELT: 7 minutes
AEV: 4 ml
FOpct: 1.00
ERT: 2 minutes


Legend:
FPA: Foreplay Average
OSmin: Oral Sex Minimum
IELT: Intravaginal Ejaculatory Latency Time
AEV: Average Ejaculation Volume
FOpct: Female Orgasm Percentage
ERT: Erection Recovery Time

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Shauk

fuck yes, I was with a girl once who was about as vocal as a lump of coal. no issues.

then I was with a screamer/dirty talker and I nutted almost on command at that point. I told her to try to control herself so I could control myself. pretty soon I was just in tune with when she couldn't hold it in anymore which just mostly resulted in simultaneous orgasm type action.

god, I miss sexual compatibility. meh.

Martian

This definitely needs to be asked and hasn't been yet.

Has your girlfriend expressed dissatisfaction with your longevity?

A lot of guys seem to think that being able to go forty minutes makes them a superstud; meanwhile, the girl under him spends ten minutes enjoying herself and half an hour contemplating what colour to paint the ceiling. I don't really know where the idea that long-lasting=sex god comes from, unless it's just another application of the oh-so-flawed 'more is better' mentality.

If you know that you're not going to last, just make sure you take the time to satisfy her before playing hide the sausage. You can get her screaming long before you ever stick it in and if you do she's probably not going to care if you're a two-pump chump. This isn't to say that long lasting sex isn't enjoyable, as it most definitely can be. Just don't get so caught up on the idea of being a marathon man to the point where you're not paying attention to what she's getting out of it, y'know?

And Baraka_Guru, I find it vaguely disturbing that not only have you taken the time to measure and record various metrics re: your sex life, but that you have them handy for posting.

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DaveOrion

Thank You martian, the only shenanigans, is thinking your woman wants to be pounded for 30 minutes. While you're pounding away she's probably thinking when a good time to fake an orgasm would be, so you'd get the hell off her. Maybe 30 minutes of foreplay, followed by some oral stimulation...... most women have trouble having an orgasm simply by inserting your penis and pumping away. Dont forget where her clit is........

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Baraka_Guru

The post is purely sardonic. Some true "shenanigans," as it were.

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Bearface

no she always tells me that she loves it and she gets sore after pro-longed thrusting... well pro-longed in our case being 15-20 minutes (the longest i usually last on a really good day)

But this 5 minute malarky is really pissing me off because its over before i get started. Even though she says its ok, I'm sure she would love for me to hold out a little longer.