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I just got out of a long term relationship about three months back and am back "on the market" for the first time in about 3 years. I like the bar scene - hanging out with the guys, meeting tons of new girls, etc...it is really a new experience since I was dating my previous girlfriend since before I was 21.

The problem is...I haven't been laid in forever. I don't have any problem meeting girls, talking with girls, etc. That isn't a problem. The problem is closing the deal. At the end of the night, I say I am leaving, then say, "see you around" or whatever. That is it. I leave and sleep alone.

I'd feel like such a creep asking a girl point blank if she wants to go back to my apartment and fuck. Even asking if she just wants to go back to my place and hang out...it just seems difficult for me to say to somebody.

Anybody with any tips? Again, picking up girls in bars is new to me and I really don't want any type of relationship right now. Still, I'd like to hook up with a girl every once and a while.

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tecoyah

"If you don't mind, I would love to continue this"

Hyacinthe

"look I've got to go but I really enjoyed talking to you any chance I can get your number?"

Might not score that night but always hope for the future

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Dilbert1234567

i can tell you a $20 is not the way to do it...

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MrFriendly

And certainly don't ask if she accepts Visa

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analog

Do you keep beer/liquor at home? If so, there's always "would you like to come to my place, I don't charge nearly as much for drinks as they do here". and then give a nice grin so she knows you're joking.

Seriously, I once told a friend to do that and he didn't smile, he said it with no humor in his voice at all. Not surprisingly, it didn't work. lol

RenaissanceII

I'd imagine it'd also work with coffee, provided it is the good stuff

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ruggerp11

"Hey! this place is closing down but I've got a few more beers at my place"

We were dropping off a friend at her place and I used the line "Hey, want some company" worked like a charm that time and I think one other time.

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Plan9

All about confidence. Less about what you say.

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MSD

Chances are if she's sticking around with you until closing time, she either wants to fuck you or wants to see you again. Ask her to come back to your place for coffee or a few more drinks, and if she says yes, you can probably figure out what she's expecting once you're there. If she says no, then she's not looking for the same thing as you, and you don't go home with her.

Panopticon

excellent tips guys.

great thanks to all!

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Kpax

Hmm... Well I've never had a girlfriend before and I'm 25, but I've always imagined that having one would make a person more comfortable around women, during or after the relationship. My theory was: if you could win someone over the first time, the same formula is bound to work a second time, and I'm not talking about one-night stands necessarily, but just attracting or appealing to a girl.

Anyway since the Trojan commercials portray a guy going into the men's room and using the vending machine to get a condom, it looks to me that the bar/club scene is meant specifically for that, and the women there are bound to know that...