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seedtime · 06-17-2003, 05:38 AM

Before my wife got pregnant we had no problem having great sex. Our son was born 8 months ago and I still have yet to bring her to orgasm. I have been trying hard and have the bruises to prove it.

We recently thought that it might be a lubrication problem so we purchased some KY, it helped a little bit but we still no go.

Is there something I can do to help the situation or is it just something that time will heal? I hear some people take up to 2 years to come back.

Any advice or knowlege on this subject would be helpful.

Thanks!

GSRIDER · 06-17-2003, 07:52 AM

I got 2 kids and a wife who has mad orgasms.

But then I again i try and make her orgasm before we get to all out fucking. Chances are that should be the route you take, heavy play on the clit and g-spot, save the deep pernitration for the very last.

fro2020 · 06-17-2003, 03:01 PM

Dude...that sucks!

After having two children, my wife is more like GSRIDER's. It actually takes less now than it did before.

However...

I do believe that this is due more to her age than anything else. Women supposedly have their peak at 30. She isn't 30 yet (or really even close), but the closer she gets to 30, the better the sex for her - and me!

I can say this however: There are some positions that were great fun before but are strict no-no's now. After the last child it just became painful for some stuff to happen. You need to remember that it took 9 months for her to have the child. It will most likely take her 9 months (or more) to get back to pre-child bearing status.

Good luck and keep trying!

seedtime · 06-17-2003, 04:20 PM

MY wife and I are just about 30. I just want so much to please her in bed and not have it be painful. What is worse because it hurts she tenses up and it hurts more.

I guess we just have to keep trying.

HFrankenstein · 06-17-2003, 06:43 PM

That's the kicker there, seed: tension. Loosen the hell up. Get a little drunk, make some noise, the hell if the kids hear. They won't know what it is anyway. You almost make it sound like it's work. Get back to the point where it's fun again.

sierra2774 · 06-17-2003, 07:07 PM

From a Womans perspective here....After I had my Daughter, I absolutely could not have an orgasm...at all...In fact, I didn't really enjoy sex at all . But when I had my son, it seemed like everything in my body changed and I was able to have multiple orgasms and really really enjoy sex now....Unfortunately for me, it has been awhile since I have actually even had sex, but that is another story....

My Point here is, Pregnancy changes your body....I know it does, so be patient with her and see if time heals it, if it doesn't, ask her OB/GYN and maybe he can help her.

platypus · 06-18-2003, 05:40 AM

I'm convinced there's a switch. And on his/her way out, the little mongrel throws it, shutting down the woman's desire. The trick is to find that damned switch, and flip it back to the ON position.

It took about a year before my wife and I achieved some semblance of our pre-kid relationship. But it's been over 8 years since the birth of my daughter, and though the quality for both of us is very good, the frequency is sub-par. Thanks again Halx for the Titty forum.

seedtime · 06-18-2003, 09:25 AM

thanks guys and gals. I guess we will just keep trying. Luckily my wife is very willing to keep trying. Although sex is no fun when just one person enjoys it.

Nisses · 06-18-2003, 01:58 PM

Forks: there are actually tribes in Africa that consider it a necessity to have sex during pregnancy, they believe the seed helps build a better brain.

And the babies never have punctured heads

can't comment on the last months of the pregnancy, but other than that, if both partners enjoy it still, why not?

Just mind the belly I'd say

06-17-2003, 05:38 AM	#1 (permalink)
seedtime Upright	Sex after pregnancy Before my wife got pregnant we had no problem having great sex. Our son was born 8 months ago and I still have yet to bring her to orgasm. I have been trying hard and have the bruises to prove it. We recently thought that it might be a lubrication problem so we purchased some KY, it helped a little bit but we still no go. Is there something I can do to help the situation or is it just something that time will heal? I hear some people take up to 2 years to come back. Any advice or knowlege on this subject would be helpful. Thanks!

06-17-2003, 07:52 AM	#2 (permalink)
GSRIDER spurt king Location: Out of my mind	I got 2 kids and a wife who has mad orgasms. But then I again i try and make her orgasm before we get to all out fucking. Chances are that should be the route you take, heavy play on the clit and g-spot, save the deep pernitration for the very last. __________________ No signature at this time.

06-17-2003, 03:01 PM	#3 (permalink)
fro2020 Still crazy after all these years Location: Norther Cal	Dude...that sucks! After having two children, my wife is more like GSRIDER's. It actually takes less now than it did before. However... I do believe that this is due more to her age than anything else. Women supposedly have their peak at 30. She isn't 30 yet (or really even close), but the closer she gets to 30, the better the sex for her - and me! I can say this however: There are some positions that were great fun before but are strict no-no's now. After the last child it just became painful for some stuff to happen. You need to remember that it took 9 months for her to have the child. It will most likely take her 9 months (or more) to get back to pre-child bearing status. Good luck and keep trying! __________________ I'm not prejudiced...I hate everyone equally.

06-17-2003, 06:43 PM	#5 (permalink)
HFrankenstein Crazy Location: New Jersey / Delaware	That's the kicker there, seed: tension. Loosen the hell up. Get a little drunk, make some noise, the hell if the kids hear. They won't know what it is anyway. You almost make it sound like it's work. Get back to the point where it's fun again. __________________ When in doubt, sauerkraut.

06-17-2003, 07:07 PM	#6 (permalink)
sierra2774 Addict Location: Northeast Ohio	From a Womans perspective here....After I had my Daughter, I absolutely could not have an orgasm...at all...In fact, I didn't really enjoy sex at all . But when I had my son, it seemed like everything in my body changed and I was able to have multiple orgasms and really really enjoy sex now....Unfortunately for me, it has been awhile since I have actually even had sex, but that is another story.... My Point here is, Pregnancy changes your body....I know it does, so be patient with her and see if time heals it, if it doesn't, ask her OB/GYN and maybe he can help her. __________________ "Every tomorrow brings new opportunities, challenges we must address...A chance to affirm all our wishes and dreams, to seek beauty and true happiness."

06-17-2003, 04:20 PM	#4 (permalink)
seedtime Upright	MY wife and I are just about 30. I just want so much to please her in bed and not have it be painful. What is worse because it hurts she tenses up and it hurts more. I guess we just have to keep trying.

06-18-2003, 05:40 AM	#7 (permalink)
platypus Essen meine kurze Hosen Location: NY Burbs	I'm convinced there's a switch. And on his/her way out, the little mongrel throws it, shutting down the woman's desire. The trick is to find that damned switch, and flip it back to the ON position. It took about a year before my wife and I achieved some semblance of our pre-kid relationship. But it's been over 8 years since the birth of my daughter, and though the quality for both of us is very good, the frequency is sub-par. Thanks again Halx for the Titty forum. __________________ Out the 10Base-T, through the router, down the T1, over the leased line, off the bridge, past the firewall...nothing but Net.

06-18-2003, 09:25 AM	#8 (permalink)
seedtime Upright	thanks guys and gals. I guess we will just keep trying. Luckily my wife is very willing to keep trying. Although sex is no fun when just one person enjoys it.

06-18-2003, 01:58 PM	#9 (permalink)
Nisses Shade Location: Belgium	Forks: there are actually tribes in Africa that consider it a necessity to have sex during pregnancy, they believe the seed helps build a better brain. And the babies never have punctured heads can't comment on the last months of the pregnancy, but other than that, if both partners enjoy it still, why not? Just mind the belly I'd say __________________ Moderation should be moderately moderated.