Rubby

alright, heres the deal.
about 2 weeks ago... i was as innocent as a virgin gets (never done more then peck a girl on the cheek... you know, the usual shy nice guy)... i liked a girl and was spending more and more time with her...
so last week i took a step, swallowed some pride and asked her out.
she said yes, happy times had by all, pecked her on the cheek that day and so on and so forth.
now, before her id never made out with anyone, as in she was my first. aww... sweet right? now... a week later I've been in her pants... I don't feel guilty (her first time as well as mine) but I'm kind of... weirded out by the idea that id never even made out with a girl... and then i get in her pants a week after my first time making out?
It just happened fast... although im fine with it (hell... kinda happy with it ), i dont want to be pushing her further then she wants to go (although ive told her several times, i only go as far as you let me.I haven't really openly talked to her about it either... although im sure that if it were bugging her shed say something... wouldn't she? am i doing something which i shouldn't?

then again, i always have been one to worry too much.

post some opinions, some of you may have been in this position before. this may just be my emotions "saying what the hell just happened?"

lankrypt0

I think you are worrying too much. It sounds like you are doing the right thing and taking it at her pace. Go where she will let you, and enjoy the ride, it only get better from here

My first experience was very similar to yours as well. We started just making out, then second base, third, etc. Within a month we were having sex. I think we were just both ready to explore our sexual nauture a bit more and just went for it. I am not saying it is going to go that far that fast for you, but rest easy knowing it is not uncommon at all.

The_Jazz

First of all, how old are you? How old is she?

Why is this weird? Just because you've never done it before?

All relationships progress at their own rate. Some move very quickly. Others take forever to develop. Neither way means anything longterm.

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Glory's Sun

dude.. quit stressing.

Just relax and let what happens happen. She'll let you know if she's ready or not. You don't have to tell her let you know.. she just will.

The more you worry about things.. the less fun you will have.

Rubby

alright, got it... ill just keep doing what im doing, take it at her pace and just enjoy it thanks for the input guys

ratbastid

Communication. Don't assume you're already good at it--communicating effectively in a relationship is something that is learned.

Cynthetiq

and practiced on a daily basis...

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Rubby

is it ironic i look like napoleon dynamite?

as for communication; i dont mind talking about it but she usually prefers just to laugh it off instead of going into a serious conversation about it... so what would you recommend at that point?

Plan9

Hah...

I have yet to have a date that doesn't end in a makeout fest.

Most of them involve genitals doing their thing.

I'm a whore.

(hangs head)

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Sultana

Crompsin, would you perhaps like to make a comment on the OP, rather than about yourself? I fail to see how this even correlates.

Rubby, you're doing fine. You're both ready at the same time--good fortune indeed. Just take all the usual precautions, I don't want to see another thread about how she's maybe pregnant from fingering, lol! We've seen more than one hilarious/frustrating topic like that posted here in the past.

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analog

Be CAREFUL. Use a condom.

As for the "speed" with which you moved from having never made out to "getting in her pants", all I can say is bravo. People all move at whatever speed is comfortable for them. If you're moving quickly, that may just mean that you two feel very comfortable with each other.

Calm down. No one can suggest this enough. Stay calm, and things will be cool. Just enjoy yourself, and things will be best. Don't over-think things. Go slow. Go slow.

Communicate with her. Don't assume that moaning/noises of pleasure means you're doing something exactly right, though it usually means you're on the right track. Ask her how things feel. If she wants more, less, harder, softer, faster, slower... it's all good, and everyone is different. Listen to what she tells you, and you'll rock her socks off.

In short: Calm down. Communicate. Enjoy.

Oh, and most people's "first time" isn't all that impressive... the fun part is getting better and better, together, as you learn new things and explore each other further.

Rubby

as for the condom issue, im not worried because 1. i was raised with strict morals, and i truly believe that when it does come down to it, i will have one and i will use it. and 2. im not planning on having actual intercourse for a while.
oh and the kudo's are much appreciated... and i would agree we're both very comfortable with eachother (im convinced this is the girl im going to spend the rest of my life with... but then again, what teenage couple isnt?)
also communication is definently something ill work on... when would be a good time to ask in your opinion? right after? some random moment on msn? (although i'd prefer to do it in person).

and as for the entire first time thing... i was impressed ^_^ kinda get the feeling she wasnt though, but i dont think she was dissapointed either, guess its something ill work at

analog

Sorry... Rubby was underage. I think the thread will still benefit from feedback, if anyone cares to leave any more...

ratbastid

I kind of got that impression. Shame. Hope to see him again when he's 18.

"Hey, guys, since you last saw me I calmed down and got laid..."

The_Jazz

Welcome to the wonderful world of adulthood (although you're not quite there yet...) where you have to have uncomfortable conversations. It looks like you're the more mature one, so it's going to fall on your shoulders to make it happen.

Of all my many failings in relationships in my late teens and early twenties, I think my greatest was not discussing sexuality and expectations with my partners. She may not know what she wants at this point, and discussion should help her work through that. It also helps to establish boundaries so that no one ends up disappointed or angry at the end of the date.

As I posted earlier, all relationships move at their own speed. You shouldn't get caught up with the idea that you're moving too quickly or too slowly, but if you discuss the speed and decide what it should be, that concern should go away on it's own.

Good luck. I hope we see you back here in a couple of years.

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Nimetic

Unless you're very young... this seems a natural progression. If you are playing around ... it normally means you'll have sex.