anal: why?
 

If someone could explain to my very naive self what the appeal of anal sex to a straight couple is, I'd be grateful. I've heard that stimulation of the prostate can lead to an intense orgasm for a man, but what's in it for a woman? Can a woman orgasm from anal sex? Also, what's the appeal for a guy? The vagina's right there, and nature designed it to make penises happy. I just don't get it.

pleasure from the body can be from anywhere.
it depends on the person, and the time.

some ladies do enjoy the stimulation from it, some don't.

BTW, yes women can orgasm from it,
then again, done right, at the right moment,
they can orgasm from anywhere.;)

pleasure is diverse.
there is no absolute, only the moment.
play, have fun, pay attention to your partners reaction.

Different strokes (ha ha) for different folks, I guess. I know I've never been interested. Gimme a nice, warm, moist vagina any day. Seems to me like buttsex would be a bit painful for the giver as well as the receiver, anyway. Moreso for the receiver, of course. And I'm certainly not interested in causing a partner pain.

Yes a Woman can orgasm from it...But you have to enjoy it with the right partner who knows what he is doing.

ya i guess you really have to know what your doing, i like the ol'pussy too much i think

i havent, maybe but i dunno

check out:
http://www.technicalvirgin.com

I understand what you're saying, I don't think I could stick Big Man Willy into an anus, because 1) It'd rip the anus and 2) I don't like the idea of getting a shit smelling dick.... I mean, what if you get a blowjob afterwards, it'd be like she was sucking her shit..

Not downplaying it though, we all have our own kinks :)

That technical virgin site is hilarious

"But there is a way for youths to enjoy rich and satisfying sexual intimacy without risking unwanted pregnancy — ANAL SEX! The anus, tighter than any vagina and tinged with the thrill of the taboo, is the perfect venue for modern teen lust.

Of course, the safest way for teens to avoid unwanted pregnancy while satisfying their carnal needs is to limit themselves to homoerotic encounters until they are ready for procreation. But many boys and girls are uncomfortable with the idea of same-sex encounters. Anal sex, however, can be fun for both sexes, and thanks to modern improvements in strap-on sex tools, girls can enjoy being in control of their own anal encounters.
"

from the site, it's hilarious

I know in college, guys would like to do girls in the ass more out of a dominant thing. I know it sounds wierd, but a lot of guys get off on power...and that was one way to do it. Otherwise known as a grudge f*ck. Not sure that will help anyone, as I have never done it.

Ain't it the truth!:D

Anal is nice for variety, is taboo, its DIRTY, plenty of reasons to enjoy it once in a while.

It is one thing that is definitely never like what you see in porn. If I ever met a woman that wanted me to just ram it in like a jackhammer with little to no lube I would run and hide. It takes one hell of a lot of lube and you have to go very slow.

But thats just intercourse. Other types of anal play are definitely fun for both partners. There are a lot of nerve endings in that area. No, your buddies are not going to admit that they like getting their salad tossed but I guarantee a few of them do. And it isn't about being gay either. Its a part of the body that has nerves which can be properly stimulated to provide pleasure like any other body part. Gay is sexual realtions between to members of the same sex, period.

Its something you only do after a shower, and not when you need to drop a deuce. And mr. deflock, you don't stick it in your girls mouth afterward. Chances are most girls don't dive on your dick after normal sex so why would they after anal.

My girl orgasms during it but she does use a vibrator at the same time. And yes, prostate stimulation is nice once in a while and for me leads to much bigger loads and respectively bigger orgasms. Don't knock it till you try it!

Like the back of a Volkswagon?

Heh. I like it mostly because my girl absolutely hated it for a long period of time; she had had a bad experience with a previous bf, and never wanted anal ever again.

Then, some many months later, we tried out KY Jelly. One thing lead to another, and before you know it, my finger was in her ass and she loved it. It took her a little bit of time to get over her initial shock towards her complete reversal of opinions, but through some practice, she sometimes bounces up and down and asks for it...

Girls are funny like that.

I think I thought it was funny just because I could get away with it. I still have the same girlfriend but haven't fucked her at all in a year, because she's gross. I don't think it's related.

apparently anal sex can indirectly stimulate the g-spot. that's why some girls like it.

also you may all know about the whole half the nerve endings are in the butt.

there's also the whole taboo thing to factor in. some people like it cause it's a little on the "dirty/naught" side. i have yet to do it, but my girl wants to, so one day we'll probably end up doing it.

if done right, i've read it's not supposed to hurt: using lube, going in slowly, i suppose gradually increasing the size of what's entered would also make a difference. So start with a finger, then two, and move to larger things, i hope in most cases your penis for her sake =)

Although my orgasms feel very different through the occassional anal sex than vaginal, it's definately just as good! (If you are with someone you trust and can be completely relaxed.. it doesn't hurt at all! Otherwise *ouch!* But hey, there are some people enjoy ouch anyway) =)

I definately think anal penetration on a woman tends to easily hit the G spot.. that combined with the wonderful friction of all those previously unexplored nerve endings easily send me (and other friends I have chatted about this with) over the edge! As for a man, the pleasure can be just as great, if not better. ;) The prostrate definately deserves some more attention.

If anyone decides to try it, be safe and take it slow! For starters, I recommend giving it a try in the shower and don't forget the lube! Also, I suggest using either a finger or slim dildo/plug first to get used to the sensation to let the inhibitions and social taboos melt away into awesome pleasure. =)

Anyway most of these things have been said already, just thought I'd share my first-hand perspective, too =) Oh and I'll just add: After being well cleaned up... tongues are bliss! But that's for another thread. ;)

i totally agree with vyxen. i have never been wary about anal sex, and i'm glad for it--it's lead to some wonderfully intimate experiences with past partners because of the trust involved. (then again, most sex requires trust of some sort i guess.) it's also led to some amazing orgasms, partnered and alone. i think part of the draw now is that it's taboo, but i've never really considered it a non-option. just different. *smiles*

@ Vyxen - excellent, dunno if i could've said it better myself ;)

Dunno why, but man is it fun.

The thought of anal sex really grosses me out. I've never tried it and never will. It just has to hurt. I've never thought of the anus as a sexual object. I don't understand it at all. However, whatever other people want to do is fine with me; this opinion is just about me.

I've had anal sex only with one partner but she absolutely loved it. She enjoyed it more than regular intercourse so we had anal sex more often. If it's done right, it can be a lot of fun for both parties. :)

It isn't nearly as enjoyable as (for lack of a better word) regular sex but I wouldn't mind letting my partner do it occasionally. Is it something I would enjoy everytime....nope. But if he enjoys it (the whole taboo thing perhaps) well part of making love is pleasing the other person. I enjoy it just for that part alone.....the greatest gift to give is to make someone elce happy. And I believe when having sex the best thing you can do is give it 110%. The more you put into it (lol no pun intended) the more you get out!

Anal Sex is like an old movie, someone always gets it in the end.

Having done it a couple of times, I'm still in two minds.. It feels great but I can't help thinking about the "gross" side of it at the same time.

sometimes I enjoy and sometimes I don't..but like Minx said it's all about giving 110%.

It's just one of those things that gets talked about more than it really happens... at least from what I've seen.

For most of society it's an urban legand...

"Dude, I'm gonna fuck her in the ass."

*Two days later*

"She wouldn't let me."

It never happens unless you've been with the girl for a long time and you need something else to wake up your sex life.

I guess I've just been fortunate.
Most of the women I've been with haven't been scared enough
to deny me the pleasure of comin' roun' the back door.

*thinking****
Did I say I've been fortunate? hmmm. I guess it depends on how you look at it:)

I'd totally do it under the right circumstances. I'm working on baby steps to get her into it.

A little ass play never hurt anyone.

for those that have done it, i have a question for you.

did you use a condom? and sorry if this may get personal, but what about cleaning (ie. enema).

gotta worry about the bacteria involved, leads to bladder infections and worse.

My wife and I have managed to do it a few times and enjoy it, but for the most part I'm too impatient. I want it NOW, which is NOT the way to go about it.

Tried... it ripped. A little lube isn't always enough I guess.

i don't know you, but i love you.
haha.

anal can be incredibly pleasurable for both partners. when i met my wife and talked about sexual turn-ons, i shared that i enjoyed all kinds of anal play. she told me firmly that there was no way that i'd ever be touching her there or she'd touch me there. long story short, the other nite i teased her saying that i could give her a lil' analingus if she'd roll over.... i couldnt get out of the way fast enough! she loves it. as for anal sex.. we both enjoy that also, but its not that common. definitely have to be in a mood. she has also orgasmed from it. once she actually had multiples and made me stop cause 'it was feeling too good.' wtf is that all about? lol

I don't see anything wrong with it at all. In fact, i quite like to perfrom it myself. I've had quite a few gf's that were opposed to it at first but eventually warmed up to the idea after a little bit of ass-play. It takes a really strong woman to take it in the rear though becuz most wille quit during insertion. But it is incredibly pleasurable for both parties. Definitely something that requires alot of practice and patience.

i find it incredibly pleasurable with the right woman. It has to be something they enjoy as well or it's a pointless act. Some people like icing on their cake, others don't. Nobody's knocking anyone for not doing it.

my fetish! not sure why or how it came about, but who's to ask such silly questions! It's an impulse, just as it probably is for you to be turned on by the sight of 'regular' pornography. I'm sure there's an explanation but I really could care less. Mystery makes the world go round. (read: anal sex makes the world go round....? :lol: )

It doesn't HAVE to hurt at all.

AT ALL.

There's no need for there to be a shit smell, There's no need for anyone to think it'll gross them out.

Anal sex is a highly pleasurable act between consenting, conscienscious(?) adults. With proper care, attention and knowledge it can be extremely, err, ahem, rewarding.

Back Door Beauty?

Oh, I just have to add, my dearly beloved and I have just completed a little session in the tradesmans entrance ourselves.

"Straight into her top 5" apparently. Not bad, considering there was another of those from a good fumble in some secluded bushes on "Suomenlinna", a castle in helsinki, just a couple of days ago.

*licks finger, makes like to draw a 1 in the air*

Result.

Anal is something I have never planned to try. However, I'm dating a woman who's brought the subject up, so I might wind up giving it a shot. After having talked with her about it, it's actually a turn-on idea, because of how she gets excited thinking about it. If you're open minded and want to turn your partner on, you might be amazed at what you'd try. It's blowing my mind that I would consider anal, as it's always seemed extra-silly before...

Do you think that's really true? I hear it talked about in hushed tones like it's some unattainable holy grail or something, but at least half of the women I have been with liked it before they met me and out of the rest, more than a few were converts. Of the converts, I can tell you they specifically hadn't liked it before me because they were with guys who were just trying to jam it in there. That did hurt and I can't blame them for not liking it. I tend to prefer being with - and consequentially I probably attract - open, communicative people so maybe that has something to do with it. I don't hang well in close personal relationships with people who have a stack of hang-ups, sexual or otherwise and I'm sure that causes some bias in my experience, but still... I can't be meeting the only women who like it.

Take your time, don't rush it. Start small - a finger, a lick here and there when you're going down on her - and when you do finally go in, she'll probably give it a shot, so don't waste the oppotunity to make a good impression. Make sure everything's well-lubed (whether naturally or artificially; I frequently end up there after I've been elsewhere so everything's kinda slippery anyway) and let HER control the pace. It can take a full 2 or 3 minutes to get all the way in the first few times and when you are, don't start banging away full-tilt. Stay still for a bit and let her get used to the feeling; she's relaxing muscles she's not used to relaxing voluntarily. When you do start to move, go slow. Let her tell you when it's ok to speed up. After a few sessions of this, if she's getting into it, she'll probably be ok with you really going at it. Or... she may still not like it and you cross it off the list of activities. (shrug) depends on her, really...

And never, ever back into the vagina. Almost guaranteed yeast infection and that's no fun for either of you. I don't think so, anyway. I have seen some weird stuff on the Wayside, so I shouldn't make assumptions like that... ;)

Yes, definitely. Again, it all depends on the woman and how into the activity she is in the first place. If she's doing it as a favor to you, the odds are pretty low. If she actively likes it, there's a pretty good chance.