jt6879

Let me first off say I am happily married, however once or twice a week isn't doing it for me.. Anyway, I have recently found a site where there are alot of women who are interested in just flirting online, I would never take it any further than that and I enjoy flirting.. Like I said it does not go any further, is this a problem?

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bluestars87

What's the site? Hahahaha.

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jt6879

literotica.com and then you go to the bulletin board.. Only problem is there is like a a 50:1 ratio of men to women and sometimes the women are bigguns.. lol

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bluestars87

Eh...nevermind then.

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pig

if you can't tell your wife about it...

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shesus

Ditto...if you aren't going to tell your wife, it will definitely come back and bite you. Some people consider that cheating and it would be smart to know where she stands on that.

I am a flirt in general, but my husband knows that and we made a limit so I know what is appropriate and not. If I was to start hiding my actions then there would be major issues.

Of course, my dad has internet gfs. I don't know if my mom knows or not, but it is affecting their marriage because he is now spending all his time on the computer. Of course, they've been married for over 30 years so I don't think either one of them really cares much.

Every situation is different.
Good luck!

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BBtB

Eh... I just have so rarely seen innocent flirting. I was once told that married men shouldn't have females friends and married women shouldn't have male friends. I know alot of people around here would disagree with that but honestly... It does help marriages. Online flirting is safer simply because of the distance. However, flirting is just the first part of the 'could we be fucking?' question.

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Halx

Flirting is great. I'm a compulsive flirter.. but I let my wife know. She begrudgingly allows me.

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Willravel

Willravel must be an idiot not to have known that Halx was married! *smacks head* Terribly belated congratulations, fearless leader!

I don't think I flirt anymore. I mean nothing at all sexual in nature. I don't think.

Sultana

That's right. Because you're married!

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tenniels

I think it is dangerous. As BBtB has said, you rarely see just innocent flirting. I mean, you will always check out attractive people, have fantasies etc, but starting to act on them, even online can get dangerous. For me, I fear that psychological affair more so than a physical affair, it's much more personal. Are you sure there is not some sort of issue, maybe burried underneath everything that may be causing you to want to search else where for some sort of companionship? It wouldn't mean you're not happy of course. I dunno, maybe it's something you could get your wife involved in and do as a couple? I think keeping secrets always leads to some sort of trouble down the line.

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ratbastid

The last girl I seriously flirted with online left her husband and moved in with us...

Course, I knew her IRL too, but most of our flirting took place online.

Willravel

Well the marriage is a symptom of the same cause as the lack of flirting. I'm in love. I found myself dedicated to her before we were married. It was then that the flirting stopped.

noodlebee

It's okay. There are some open relationships that can work. But the main issue here is honesty. I think you should tell your wife. Let her ask any questions about it and answer sincerely. Better for her to know and at the very minimum, value your honesty towards her. Even if she doesn't like what you do.

Who knows? Maybe she will even be receptive to your actions and some ideas from the website or your online friends can help spice up your relationship.

Plan9

Great site. I used to print out stories from there for one of my girlfriend to give her ideas. Worked out with much success. Good times!

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Sultana

I have to wonder how the OP would feel if he found his wife doing the same thing (frequenting a chat room specifically for the purpose of on-line flirting), without telling him.

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Menoman

marriage counselling

like.... yesterday.

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fatboss

This is a tough one. I used to have a job where I was at my desk alot and got into the chat room on www.ttr2.com . The webcams helped of course (!)

I'd do a bit of flirting, a bit of cybering and then I'd go home in an almighty horny state. I think Mrs. Fatboss was starting to think i was up to no good with somebody in work.

I knew i had to cut it out, and fortunately for me i moved jobs soon after, didn't spend as much time at my desk etc etc.

I must admit our 'Adult time' as our kids call it is better than ever. But then again, I'm still a 40 year old horny bastard!

Go me!

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Universal rule of cheating: If your partner can't know about it, it's cheating.