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Sniffex · 03-21-2007, 05:03 AM

My new girlfriend wants me to dominate the relationship, im not quite sure what she means... no sex invilved yet, she says she means it in everyday life... Im not quite sure what she wants from me. Any help apriciated.

Carno · 03-21-2007, 05:25 AM

Maybe she just wants you to be more assertive and outspoken. Take charge of the situation. Don't let people (or her) steamroll you, stand up for yourself. Have a "presence."

I don't know you in real life, but based on what little info you gave, that's the first thing to come to mind. She probably just wants you to be more assertive.

Sniffex · 03-21-2007, 05:29 AM

Good call, might try that.

ShaniFaye · 03-21-2007, 05:39 AM

Sounds to me like she wants to be a submissive.....if you're really interested in what she wants you need to sit her down and have her spell it out exactly. If she is truly wanting to be a "slave" then you both need to sit down and visit www.bondage.com and read the various articles they have on the lifestyle

Sniffex · 03-21-2007, 05:43 AM

Well, no sex involved yet so bondage and things are out at the moment, Dont think it will go as far as the whole chains and wips thing,she says she means it in our every-day life, but thanks for the info. ^_^

ShaniFaye · 03-21-2007, 05:47 AM

ummm.... a dominate relationship does not always involve sex....most "lifestylers" like Dave and I have a Dom/sub relationship with our "every day life".

Thats why I said talk to her and have her spell it out...... dominance is not always about sex people

Toaster126 · 03-24-2007, 08:16 AM

Some people like to be told what to do or led around in life. Not everyone is a leader. Some like to be followers. Looks like you found one.

Dilbert1234567 · 03-24-2007, 08:24 AM

SM is more about dominance and control then sex. furthermore SM does not have to include bondage either. be assertive and tell her to explain what she means. she may just want you to control where and what you 2 do on dates.

World's King · 03-24-2007, 02:26 PM

My girl and I have a SM relationship. And it's not about sex at all. In fact the sex is more even.

03-21-2007, 05:03 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sniffex Upright	Dominance My new girlfriend wants me to dominate the relationship, im not quite sure what she means... no sex invilved yet, she says she means it in everyday life... Im not quite sure what she wants from me. Any help apriciated. __________________ Currently playing World of Warcraft. Great game peeps, great game.

03-21-2007, 05:29 AM	#3 (permalink)
Sniffex Upright	Good call, might try that. __________________ Currently playing World of Warcraft. Great game peeps, great game.

03-21-2007, 05:39 AM	#4 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Sounds to me like she wants to be a submissive.....if you're really interested in what she wants you need to sit her down and have her spell it out exactly. If she is truly wanting to be a "slave" then you both need to sit down and visit www.bondage.com and read the various articles they have on the lifestyle __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

03-21-2007, 05:43 AM	#5 (permalink)
Sniffex Upright	Well, no sex involved yet so bondage and things are out at the moment, Dont think it will go as far as the whole chains and wips thing,she says she means it in our every-day life, but thanks for the info. ^_^ __________________ Currently playing World of Warcraft. Great game peeps, great game.

03-21-2007, 05:47 AM	#6 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	ummm.... a dominate relationship does not always involve sex....most "lifestylers" like Dave and I have a Dom/sub relationship with our "every day life". Thats why I said talk to her and have her spell it out...... dominance is not always about sex people __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

03-21-2007, 05:25 AM	#2 (permalink)
Carno Junkie	Maybe she just wants you to be more assertive and outspoken. Take charge of the situation. Don't let people (or her) steamroll you, stand up for yourself. Have a "presence." I don't know you in real life, but based on what little info you gave, that's the first thing to come to mind. She probably just wants you to be more assertive.

03-24-2007, 08:16 AM	#7 (permalink)
Toaster126 Extreme moderation Location: Kansas City, yo.	Some people like to be told what to do or led around in life. Not everyone is a leader. Some like to be followers. Looks like you found one. __________________ "The question isn't who is going to let me, it's who is going to stop me." (Ayn Rand) "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." (M. Scott Peck)

03-24-2007, 08:24 AM	#8 (permalink)
Dilbert1234567 Devils Cabana Boy Location: Central Coast CA	SM is more about dominance and control then sex. furthermore SM does not have to include bondage either. be assertive and tell her to explain what she means. she may just want you to control where and what you 2 do on dates. __________________ Donate Blood! "Love is not finding the perfect person, but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." -Sam Keen

03-24-2007, 02:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	My girl and I have a SM relationship. And it's not about sex at all. In fact the sex is more even. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown