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bloody_rose20 · 03-01-2007, 01:02 PM

Okay so I just wanted to post this because it has been bugging me for a while now. But here is my issue: I can get off during sex, but I am not sure if I have ever had an orgasm before. I mean it has felt uncontrollably good and too much at the same time but never the OMG experience after wards. I am never spent as you would call it. And also, when I am being eaten out, it doesn't do much for me. My vibrators end up broken because they only work good on the clit (I never feel it on the inside) and even then I need it on the highest setting. And I can only have rough hard sex because if it is gentle or slow I feel virtually nothing. Its been like this forever and I judt want to know if there is somthing wrong with me? I mean we have tried watching Porns and those don't do much for me anyways, and my fionce turns me on all the time so I know its not anything to do with that. Any ideas?

Sweetpea · 03-01-2007, 01:34 PM

might be a sensitivity issue. Something I would suggest seeing your gyno. doc. about to rule out any medical issue that might be affecting you.

When you have a honest to goodness orgasm, you know it. I didn't cum until I was about 20, well after I started being sexually active. But it was not a medical issue for my body, rather, it was lack of understanding how to stimulate myself (aka all I needed was more focus on my clit) And I started masturbating with a vibrator. My doctor explained it to me that basically, sometimes you have to teach your body to have a full orgasm.

Once I got that down, I've been cumming very consistently since, sometimes two-three times in a sex session.

Also.. girl... please please please change that horrid red color of your front, it's giving me a headache.

anyway, in short, see a doctor about it if you've exhausted all the options of stimulating yourself without much affect.

sweetpea

lime · 03-16-2007, 02:13 PM

This sounds like something I'm dealing with right now too. I enjoy sex and have a normal libido, but have never had an orgasm. My shrink told me to look up "female sexual dysfunction" and "orgasmic dysfunction" as well as work by a doctor named Derek Polonsky. She says there could be a number of things going on psychologically, or it could just be that I haven't quite meshed right with any of my partners yet. She also says the first orgasm is the hardest to have, so once you get over that initial hurtle it's better.

This is something that is definitely frustrating for me, and kind of embarrassing, so if you figure anything out, let me know, and I'll keep you posted if I find anything that seems to help!

Lady Sage · 03-16-2007, 04:09 PM

Practice makes perfect and its sometimes easier to relax by yourself and just let go. Have fun letting go.

Kasper4sale · 03-19-2007, 07:08 PM

i think its that your man isnt hitting your G-spot, try different sex postions and move alot, if you and your man is confortable with sex talk to him about it, and tell him what your feeling, if that dont work go to the dotcor to make sure theres nothing wrong..

Ilow · 03-19-2007, 07:31 PM

Many women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone, but your description of your general lack of sensitivity may be worth bringing to your girl-doc or GP. I have never had an orgasm as a woman (because as a guy i have never done anything as a woman) but as Sweetpea said from what I understand you would know about it. I believe it is often followed by a brief period when the clit is too sensitive to continue stimulation. ALso, as i have read there are women who are stimulated by g-spot/vaginal stimulation and those who are more aroused by clitoral stimulation, so i don't think that it is too rare to only be aroused by clitoral action. As Lime mentioned, several psychological issues may also be at play, and this may or may not have something to do with your penchant for rough sex.

Ourcrazymodern? · 03-20-2007, 10:54 AM

Can you get yourself off? Show his tongue where your clit is; it might work.
Be patient and loving and take your time and don't be distracted by the manic things our minds tend to do.
If you're not sure you've had an orgasm, you probably haven't. Good luck with the "little death"!

03-01-2007, 01:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
bloody_rose20 Crazy Location: In Vermont	Is something Wrong With Me? Okay so I just wanted to post this because it has been bugging me for a while now. But here is my issue: I can get off during sex, but I am not sure if I have ever had an orgasm before. I mean it has felt uncontrollably good and too much at the same time but never the OMG experience after wards. I am never spent as you would call it. And also, when I am being eaten out, it doesn't do much for me. My vibrators end up broken because they only work good on the clit (I never feel it on the inside) and even then I need it on the highest setting. And I can only have rough hard sex because if it is gentle or slow I feel virtually nothing. Its been like this forever and I judt want to know if there is somthing wrong with me? I mean we have tried watching Porns and those don't do much for me anyways, and my fionce turns me on all the time so I know its not anything to do with that. Any ideas? __________________ "The only way to enjoy life, is to try different things, and take risks. Sometimes you just have to jump in with both feet and hope for the best " Last edited by bloody_rose20; 03-01-2007 at 02:23 PM..

03-01-2007, 01:34 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	might be a sensitivity issue. Something I would suggest seeing your gyno. doc. about to rule out any medical issue that might be affecting you. When you have a honest to goodness orgasm, you know it. I didn't cum until I was about 20, well after I started being sexually active. But it was not a medical issue for my body, rather, it was lack of understanding how to stimulate myself (aka all I needed was more focus on my clit) And I started masturbating with a vibrator. My doctor explained it to me that basically, sometimes you have to teach your body to have a full orgasm. Once I got that down, I've been cumming very consistently since, sometimes two-three times in a sex session. Also.. girl... please please please change that horrid red color of your front, it's giving me a headache. anyway, in short, see a doctor about it if you've exhausted all the options of stimulating yourself without much affect. sweetpea __________________ Having a Pet Will Change Your Life! Looking for a great pet?! Click Here! "I am the Type of Person Who Can Get Away With A lot, Simply Because I Don't Ask Permission for the Privilege of Being Myself"

03-16-2007, 04:09 PM	#4 (permalink)
Lady Sage Mistress of Mayhem Location: Canton, Ohio	Practice makes perfect and its sometimes easier to relax by yourself and just let go. Have fun letting go. __________________ If only closed minds came with closed mouths. Minds are like parachutes, they function best when open. It`s Easier to Change a Condom Than a Diaper Yes, the rumors are true... I actually AM a Witch.

03-19-2007, 07:08 PM	#5 (permalink)
Kasper4sale Upright Location: Philly Rep	i think its that your man isnt hitting your G-spot, try different sex postions and move alot, if you and your man is confortable with sex talk to him about it, and tell him what your feeling, if that dont work go to the dotcor to make sure theres nothing wrong.. __________________ _-Kasper-_

03-19-2007, 07:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ilow Junkie Location: Pats country	Many women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone, but your description of your general lack of sensitivity may be worth bringing to your girl-doc or GP. I have never had an orgasm as a woman (because as a guy i have never done anything as a woman) but as Sweetpea said from what I understand you would know about it. I believe it is often followed by a brief period when the clit is too sensitive to continue stimulation. ALso, as i have read there are women who are stimulated by g-spot/vaginal stimulation and those who are more aroused by clitoral stimulation, so i don't think that it is too rare to only be aroused by clitoral action. As Lime mentioned, several psychological issues may also be at play, and this may or may not have something to do with your penchant for rough sex. __________________ "Religion is the one area of our discourse in which it is considered noble to pretend to be certain about things no human being could possibly be certain about" --Sam Harris

03-16-2007, 02:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
lime Upright	This sounds like something I'm dealing with right now too. I enjoy sex and have a normal libido, but have never had an orgasm. My shrink told me to look up "female sexual dysfunction" and "orgasmic dysfunction" as well as work by a doctor named Derek Polonsky. She says there could be a number of things going on psychologically, or it could just be that I haven't quite meshed right with any of my partners yet. She also says the first orgasm is the hardest to have, so once you get over that initial hurtle it's better. This is something that is definitely frustrating for me, and kind of embarrassing, so if you figure anything out, let me know, and I'll keep you posted if I find anything that seems to help!

03-20-2007, 10:54 AM	#7 (permalink)
Ourcrazymodern? still, wondering. Location: South Minneapolis, somewhere near the gorgeous gorge	Can you get yourself off? Show his tongue where your clit is; it might work. Be patient and loving and take your time and don't be distracted by the manic things our minds tend to do. If you're not sure you've had an orgasm, you probably haven't. Good luck with the "little death"! __________________ BE JUST AND FEAR NOT