MEAD

I love to go down on my girlfriend. It's exciting and I like to know she really enjoys it. For the most part I know she does enjoy it, in fact I think she's enjoying it to an extent that makes it difficult to perform. Basicly, she's a squirmer. When she is really getting into to it, I feel like rodeo bull rider, and sometimes I think shes going to break my nose. I'm really not concerned for myself as much as I am for her. As she is moving around, I lose contact wth her at moments and I feel as if it isnt as pleasurable as it could be. At times I do grab her down and hold her steady, but she's pretty difficult to control, and at the same time I want her to move around as she pleases. Should I suck it up, and just keep doing my best? Or should I talk to her about maybe trying to help me help her?

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highthief

Well, different strokes for different folks but a couple of things I've found work well with squirmers:

1) Her on her back, legs dangling over the edge of the bed, you kneeling in front of her holding her legs down with your arms. She is in such a position where she simply can't buck up and down too much and is easy to control.

2) 69 position, her on top. You hold her by the ankles and fold her legs (so her heels are facing her own ass). Again, this minimizes the squirming and bucking (but can be hard on those with bad backs or for prolonged periods).

Have fun trying!

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Aladdin Sane

Talk to her about the squirming. Maybe you're making it uncomfortable for her by too much direct stimulation to her clit. She may want to tell you to back off but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Make it clear that you want to please her, and that you won't be hurt if she wants you to lick her in a different way.

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Charlatan

Aladdin could have a point.

On the other hand you might just want to tie her down.

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Seaver

I had a squirmer who would buck and arch when she's about to cum, which would often make it hard to finish her off because she'd arch in a position where I couldn't reach the clit.

Here's what you do. Have her lay on her back, with her hips on the edge of the bed and feet on the floor or hanging. This allows her to squirm and arch all she wants and she won't move as much because her legs can't make her buck around like a rodeo. Another trick is to have her stand against the wall. Go down on her, with one of her legs (or two if you can handle it) on your shoulder. All she can really do there is stand on her tippy-toes, arch her back (which doesn't hinder you at all), or grab your head and stuff it into her pussy (which I'm sure you won't mind.

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World's King

I miss eating pussy.

My girl won't let me.

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tinfoil

Oof, I feel for ya.

This works for me and my wife. At first she didn't enjoy it as much, but after the second time she said it was better.

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Hektore

I'm gonna jump on the "The only person who can really tell you what you should do is her" bandwagon because it's the truth.

Something you could try if you're both looking for ideas is to have her sit on your face, literally (on her knees, think female superior(cowgirl?)). When we switched to this and she went from bucking me away. to leaning forward and just pushing me into the mattress, which means I don't really lose contact unless she picks herself up(or I do, you have to come up for air at least once in a while). Who knows, she may even be into you just holding her down, some girls like to be ...controlled from time to time.

You never know unless you ask.

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Willravel

What a horrible problem...hehe.

Yeah, just curl your arms around her legs and rest your hands below her belly button.

cadre

I do this to my boyfriend sometimes, it can be for a number of reasons though so I would ask her just to be sure. We found that me hanging off the edge of the bed is pretty comfortable and Willravel's idea is good too.

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MEAD

Good advice guys! I'm going beat around the bush a little (had to make the pun) and see if I can guide things better without bringing it up and killing the mood. If that doesn't work I'll definitely see what she has to say, but all things considered, things could be worse.

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Here are some phrases I'd like to be able to say, in all honesty, before I die.
"That's it, send out the ninjas!"
"So then I had to kill my way to the second floor."

analog

That sucks. Really. I am sad for you now.

Yeah... I've had 2 good squirmers (is that even a word?? lol), and you just gotta clamp your arms around their legs and hold on for dear life. I've actually enjoyed it more when the girl can't control herself.

I also agree with the "edge of the bed" technique... basically anything that eliminates their ability to use their legs to push off and move around. When you wrap your arms around, you can even pull the legs together and lock your head between her thighs... not the worst position to be in, to begin with, and they lose even more ability to buck around when you've got their legs held together like that.

Good luck!

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oneofmanymen

The edge of the bed trick seems to work best for us. MY woman is a big time squirmer, and she cannot handle direct stimulation. BUt over all it works better because during intercourse she can go off like a rocket.

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Toaster126

I would guess squirming is a sign you are being too hard on the clit... but there really is no way of knowing for sure if you are or not unless you communicate with your partner. If you can eat her out, you can use your mouth for talking to her...

If she isn't squirming because of that, tie her ass up. She won't squirm then!

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joannabi

I am a bi sexual women in a relationship with another women. i am a squirmer and a bucker too. we talked about this and tried several different way but what works beast for me is the ole 69 position with me on top. I scream a lot but my squirming and bucking is limited.