roxxor

This is the first time ive posted....

First of all id like to say that generally i am considered a very good looking young man. I am not bragging it i just a fact. This is true but i am also quite in experienced.

I was at a bar on friday and saw 3 girls that were all very good looking. 2 blonds and a brunette. Lets just say i like brunettes. Other guys were hitting on the "B" and at the time i was going out with someone(on friday). The next day I broke up with my current girlfriend. That saturday i went back to the same bar to see if i could find those 3. I did. A friend of mine was out of money and was asking me to buy him a beer. I told him if he went and asked the brunette to let me buy her a drink id buy him a drink... She said no. Later i asked her if it was because someone else asked. She said no she didnt want a drink. I should mention that the night before (friday) me and her were making eye contact a few times and i definatly felt a connection.

Question 1: did i fuck myself over asking someone else to ask her?

Question 2: do you think she liked me in the first place?

I still want to go after this girl but im not sure if its worth my time

analog

She said she didn't want a drink. I'm not sure why you are confused on that point.

No idea. It doesn't sound like you really even talked, unless you're leaving that out- in which case, we'd have to have that info to even try and answer that.

We have no idea what your interaction was even like.

At any rate, are you just jumping at the first female you can see because of being out with your now-ex-girlfriend?

To be honest, you've given us an impossibly small amount of info and asked us to extrapolate the thoughts of a person. Did you even talk to her beyond asking why she didn't take the drink?

roxxor

I am not jumping at any girl. Let me explain. I dont just go for any girl. Girls are always after me and i dont want them. I am looking quality over sex. Id rather get one girlfiriend a month thats hot, rather than get banged 15 times in a month. I didnt talk to her beyond that but it seemed like she is sending mixed signals. Thats why im asking TBH. i Just dont know at his point. I dont mind making an idiot of myself. I probably will go after her whether u tell me its ok or not. But i am looking for other opinion.

Mantus

Always approach yourself. It show great confidence. That would differentiate you from 95% of the guys at the bar.

Drinks should be bought as rewards (for something she did that was genuinely cool) or as gifts (with absolutely nothing expected in return). Mind you it's very difficult to frame buying a girl a drink the right way. It often involves walking away and hopping she will re-engage you later that night. A better way to do it is to buy each other drinks...and do this after you got to know each other a little bit.

The problem with buying a drink for a girl as a conversation opener is that you are basically buying her time. You are saying – "Hey! If I buy you a drink will you be interested in my for five minutes?" - Not cool. It show that you think of yourself as someone of lower value. It hints at your belief that you must earn HER attention.

Next time you see a girl you like. Just go talk to her.

Lizra

This girl wants you to work a little harder than just buying a drink. Perhaps you might be a bit spoiled? If you are really interested in her....keep trying. You might have to stick your neck out a little more....try to talk and engage, even if it's awkward....show her that you are interested by spending time and effort, not $5. Quality.......

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