Sensitivity Question
 

I'm curious about two theories and I was hoping to get the opinions of more people.

Many people hear that the more you masturbate, the longer you can go in bed. Apparently there is some Stop and Go method that works wonders.

But a week ago I read that by NOT masturbating (say..once a week) you desensitize the area therefore making sex last longer.

Thoughts?

(this is probably for guys only btw, but ladies feel free to comment)

Whatever you heard that from needs a lesson in logic. The less touching your dick gets, the more it reacts when it IS touched. Same with every other part of your body.

What Halx said...you make something less sensitive by exposing it to more attention, and vice versa...kind of a life rule really. Where on earth did you read this other crap?

Actually, you CAN make yourself more sensitive by overstimulation. However, it's usually an unpleasant feeling and you wouldn't want to have sex at all if you were over stimulated.

You can also "train" yourself to reach orgasm too quickly by masturbation just the same as you can "train" yourself to last longer. If all you're after is the orgasm then that's all you'll get.

Sex is far more than just stimulation of the genitals (even with strangers there is a minimal emotional connection). You might be able to last a long time during masturbation but only last a few minutes or seconds when having sex.

True.. true.. however the sensitivity through stimulation is a product of arrousal. Its less a quality of the skin and nerves, and more a direct response to stimulation.

I don't know if this really matters but I'm masturbating right now.

and...now I am too.

Im not really sure if this helps but I just got my internet back and looking at porn and masterbating is almost a twice a day thing. And since I started that I want to have more and more sex. I think my girlfriend is a bit annoyed with it but I am lasting a bit longer than before.

I agree that more masturbation can make you last longer, but as Vanblah and Halx said, there is more to sex than physical contact. The more aroused you are mentally, has a larger impact on your duration than anything else. Remember the old phrase "dead puppies, dead puppies"? The idea behind it is to mentally get your mind of the sex, so you can last longer. My experience over the years has helped me to learn self control, or wild abandonment. I have been capable of lasting 10 minutes, or 10 hours if I wanted, and I will admit I masturbate quite often. So If you want to last longer, spend more time pleasing HER and it will distract you from your own pleasure, and you can last longer. I always live by the philosophy "If I make HER happy, she will make ME happy" I can't remember EVER giving a girl a mindblowing oragasm, and her not WANTING to give me one in return. I think most women would agree with me that if they are given the utmost attention in bed, it almost DRIVES them to return the favour!

If you masturbate like it's a race to the finish then you're training yourself to finish early with your partner. If you do the opposite and try and last longer then you're training yourself to be a marathon runner instead of a sprinter.

I find when I'm with a woman I try and get it out of the way as fast as possible, get the easy one out so to speak, then give it two minutes and go again. The second time is just like pulling the trigger on an empty gun, and I find I can go up to 15-20 minutes, more than enough to get her off 2 or more times.

this is interesting as my GF and I hae been having issues about me not being sensitive enough, and I do msturbate a lot although not as much as I used to since I started to see her. From an average twice a day to maybe twice a week. Anyways, at first the problem was that I started going soft after awhile. so we tried thinner condoms, and it didn't happen as soon or as much...but it was still happening after around 30 or 40 minutes. however, without a condom, it's 15 mins on average. and I stay hard.

Is it possiblew that I just whacked it so much that I caused some permanant sensitivity loss...or might some of that come back?

I don't know. I will say that there are costs about training yourself to go for long times, and doing that every time.

Instead of masterbating, just try having more sex.

Also, if you're really looking to improve performance, exercise regularly and eat right. That works better than anything else.