Deltona Couple

Oh Cali.....You shouldn't kiss and tell!...lmfao (you know we love ya!!!)

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CaliLivChick

Hey man, I'm not naming names or anything... *cough* Deltona *cough*

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Fearknot

Sounds as though Florida is the place to be!

CaliLivChick

Anywhere I am is the place to be.

*deflates her head so she can get out the door eventually

Actually, you'd be surprised as to what you find when you look around for a specific thing... I was under the impression that Florida was VERY conservative compared to what I'm used to in NorCal, but now I've come to realize that it's simply more conservative.

No, really, just look around on the sites mentioned in this thread, if you're interested in this... there are swingers everywhere.

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Rinndalir

It's true. Although where I live the 'alt' community is so small that swingers and BDSM almost completely overlap, they're there. This is in a very conservative area too.

Fearknot

And that's been our experience as well. Was surprised to find quite a bit of varied activity here in the midwest. Chalk it up to the true human nature!

Deltona Couple

It's funny what you find when you actually DO start consciously looking for things. Many areas of Florida are ABUNDANT with swingers of all types. Just depends on what kinda person you want to trip your trigger **cough**cali**cough.... If there is anyone that lives in Florida and would like more information on finding places to look, I will volunteer to help...as I am sure Cali has an abundance of information as well....

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opus123

I drove by the local swing club about 20 times before someone told me what it was. It looks just like a mansion with no gates. They actually have weddings there and I am sure thousands of out of town wedding attendees never knew they were at a swing club since there are no signs saying that it is.

The first time that my wife went to the swing club with her boyfriend, she only had sex with her boyfriend and only traded massage with other people. I trust her completely. Well, that's obvious. *smile*

As for the ages at swing clubs, I guess you would have to email the owners and ask each one. They probably vary city by city.

Jonathan

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rr1024

We have with singles and couples and we both enjoy watching the other have a good time.

We wouldn't recomment Lifestyle Lounge though or the swingersboard....

swingersboard is nothing more than a spam portal for swinglifestyle and both lifestyle loung and swinglifestyle do nothing but suck money from you....

We belong to a smaller group....site is not as fancy but free oh and a cool thing is anyone can sign up for a Sex Toy Tester....well anyone over 21

CaliLivChick

Details? Share, share!

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Deltona Couple

Cali, considering the number of toys you HAVE, I don't know if you need any more to add to your collection. Or am I going to have to buy you a footlocker for X-mas this year?

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CaliLivChick

Are you kidding? You can NEVER have too many toys!

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rr1024

I think we are similar to the two of you except we still swing but no where near as often with the children in our life....However, we will go out and get a baby sitter and go to a club now and then just for a little adult fun....It has been wonderful for out relationship we both enjoy seeing the other being pleasured and even gets us MORE excited when we are home making love because we get expand our fantasies with some realities....makes it very hot and sexy.

We totally agree there.....LOL

Datalife2

I met this married couple at work and he wants me to do his wife and watch us....umm I wasnt really down with it but hes begging me to fuck his wife..

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Deltona Couple

Well not everyone can feel compfortable participating in that situation. I would say if you are uncomfortable with it, then don't get involved, but let him know that you just don't feel comfortable.

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Marshie

I'm actually quite curious about swinging. I really want to try it out, but at the same time, I fear getting too jealous. But that's what friends are for!!!

Sherk

In theory, the idea is great. Both partners get to have some satisfaction outside the norm - however in fact it's a little different. Lots of jealousy, lots of problems stemming from it.

If you're both open-minded, go for it.

Deltona Couple

I have to respectfully disagree with you there. it is not ALWAYS stemmed with lots of jealousy or problems. Actually in the regular lifestyle, the minority have jealousy issues come up. The key is communication. If either of the parties is uncomfortable with it, then you just don't do it at all. The biggest thing, as I have mentioned before, is that you must communicate, and be able to separate sex, from making love. If you can do that, then you are over the first hurdle in considering the lifestyle.

Marshie, do you mind if I ask what concerns you two are having when discussing it? What jealousy are you concerned about? I would love to be able to help.

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bloody_rose20

Well, seeing as I am in a serious relationship now, I couldn't see wanting to do any swinging or sharing my man in any way. I am very greedy when it comes to my man lol and I get jealous easy when it comes to women. *shrugs* But, when I was single I had a guy that I thought about being in a swinger relationship. Also known as an open relationship. But, I didn't care for him in the love way, so it wouldn't have bothered me to share him. But the man I am with now is a different story. I <3 him like crazy lol. *shrugs*

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nikkiana

Agreed. I'd consider myself poly rather than a swinger (nothing wrong with the swing lifestyle, and I've occasionally done activities which could be considered swinging, but I find I tend to prefer to have more emotionally meaningful relationships rather than just sex) but I think the key in either of the two lifestyles is communication and perhaps also a commitment to self-examination of one's feelings.

I can't speak for the general attitude in the swinger lifestyle, but I know one of the things I've observed in the poly lifestyle is that the attitude toward jealousy seems to be different than that of the general population... In the general population, it seems like jealousy is a negative emotion that needs to be avoided at all costs and is always unhealthy... wheras poly folk tend to see jealousy as something unpleasant, but natural and something that needs to be investigated, the cause found and dealt with so it can be resolved.

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newone321

I don`t think I can ever do it. I really don`t understand why some married couples do it ?

Deltona Couple

Newone, It is fine that you don't think you could ever do it. And Most everyone in the lifestyle will tell you straight out, if you don't think you can, then by all means, DON'T DO IT. Living a life this way isn't the same, just as to some people, living a poly lifestyle might not be the way. personally my wife and I are exclusive with each other, and we couldn't live in a poly life as nikkiana mentioned before your post appears to be in. There is no explanation needed for us. You don't have to understand us or why we do what we do....we simply ask that everyone respect us, and the way we live our lives. The lifestyle we live can't really be explained to be honest anyway. We do what we do because it makes us both happy, and we enjoy what we both get out of it.

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FuglyStick

Personally, for myself, it ain't happenin', but you all knock yerselves out.

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Plan9

I'm with ya, Fugly.

I have a hard time believing that the below-the-belt badger dance with multiple partners doesn't complicate the hell outta intimate relationships.

I haven't had a girlfriend / wife stable enough to watch pornography, let alone be in the same with another couple engaging in righteous snogging.

I figure it's all about comfort zone, maybe a little about maturity and confidence... but it definitely isn't something for everybody nor a "life goal."

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Ugh. I don't even have genitals, I've got a smoothspot like a Ken doll... and that makes me a little unpopular with the ladies.

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najo

How does a couple find a safe swing club or group of swinging couples or threesome minded individuals? Any good online resources that aren't out for money or just spambot spots?