where's the best place for pick up?
 

hi there, first post on this board but been reading for quite a while... i'm somewhat new to the dating scene so i'm wondering what's the best place to meet girls... i have no interest in one night stands and i wanna try to find someone who i can have a relationship with... i can meet girls throght friends because all of my friends are quite older then me and so are their friends...

any suggestions? :)

tia!

work/school, common interest communities.

I believe there's a poll somewhere (GD?) asking where people met their significant other, take a look at the results.

Find some co-ed hobby and stick with it. You'll be surprised at the results.

well... problem is i'm a freelance web developer... so i dont go to school and i rarely go to offices... most of the work i do is from home... i go to client parties, but then again it's older crowd... i've been going to clubs now for a few weeks but i'm not having any luck there because every girl i'm interested in seems to be with a guy...

again, common interest communities.

Start playing vollyeball at the beach with whoever's there and you'll meet chicks who like to play volleyball (which you do too if you're there).
Just to make an example :)

Common interest locations, as already mentioned. If you are into theater at all, find your local theater group. There are always way more girls than guys. You don't have to be on stage, either. Set building, helping out, it is all appreciated.

Hmmm .. unfortunately the Poll seems to be located in Members Playground :(

how do i get in there?

participate ... post ... enjoy :)

1. Going to clubs will not get you potential partners. Just easy lays. Think about it: How many people have you met that SERIOUSLY met their [long-term] partner at a club? I know of none.

2. Your best bet has already been mentioned. Be prepared for lots of dissapontments though, even with common interest communities.

Best advice: just get out there. Do things that require interaction with other people. Job seeking, looking for a lost dog, finding a SO... it's all about 50 times easier when you network. Even if you don't directly interact with women, being aquainted with a massive number of people will land at least one or two who are trying to find someone else a bf.

In short: just meet as many people as possible, male or female. Any activity, vacation, or job that requires you to talk to people is a good plan.

thank you everyone... i'll try to keep all said in mind... it sounds pretty easy, but i dont have a clue where to start nor what to do... :(

You might try to see if there are any clubs in your area for web development - some kind of networking club that has meetings. You might try to search out such a club on the net. What kind of other hobbiesw do you have? Do you go to church/temple? Many churches/temples have young peoples' groups. As has been said above - you just need ot get out and meet some people. How about getting a part time job at a computer or other retail store? You can meet co-workers and customers that way.

P.S. I met my wife while I was drunk at a bar! We now have been married for 7 years and are having our second child!

The best time to find someone is when you least expect it. If you are actively looking, the chances are slim. I met my wife while we both worked at a store and never spoke, but for some reason one day we talked, and 14 years later, 4 kids and 8 years of marriage...

haha - some humour: when I first clicked on this thread, I thought Lemz wanted to know about the best "pick up the stuff here" places! (and no, I'm not a druggie - I just wanted to know what people had to say about this :-)

Go out with friends. Make you goal to have a good time, not to meet someone. I noticed that if I went out looking for a woman I would end up drunk and alone, but if I go out and do everything I can to just have a good time I ended up meeting a lot more people (and a lot more girls)!

Surely you have other interests besides web development, eh? If not, then now's the time to discover them.

Guys.
It's been 4 years. He's either dating now, or it's a hopeless cause.

Isn't that a bit presumptuous BOR? I mean come on!

He might be dating AND be a hopeless cause.

Arg! Who is resurrecting these ancient threads? lol.

AA?

Planned parenthood, a la Dogma.

"We figured planned parenthood was a great place to find loose women."
So horrible it's funny...

Sure, it's an old thread, but I have to address this comment.Bars and clubs are where adults go to meet people. If you're looking for a one-nighter, you'll find it. If you get someone's number and call her instead of going home with her, you're more likely to end up in a relationship.

Well, it's too bad that our boy, Lemz, hasn't posted since 07-07-2003, at 7:01 AM. But if he was here today, here's what I'd say

Go to church.

Now if you have a religion that you follow, that's even better ;)

Basically, you'll know she's a good person to start a relationship with, since she goes to mass regularly. If she was taken, then her SO would be with her. So if you see a gal by herself, or a few gals that went as a group, there's a very good chance that she's single. And best of all, her friends and family will see you in a positive light, when they ask about you. "So how are things going with that young man you met at church last Sunday?"