ASU2003

Yes, I just made up that word. Kind of like c*ck-blocking, but on-line.

I was e-mailing with this girl, and she searched the net for my e-mail user name (she doesn't know my lat name), and just because someone else has the same username at a penis enlargement forum, she got all freaked out. Now, it's not ASU2003, but it isn't that rare that no one else would not have come up with it. I had to go through 20 user names on Yahoo before I found one that was free without numbers in it, a few years ago. She already knew my username at another site that I had 232 posts on that contained a lot of information about who I am (I'm sure she read them, since I read all 72 of hers).

But, how careful are you with checking what is out there for anybody to find? What happens if they stuble upon this site or some other one on your computer and find out your username.
-Would they read all of your posts?
-Would they be instantly turned off or replused?
-Would you have to tell your partner eventually about what message boards and forums you post on?

If you search for my name, there are a few DoD documents that come up and some computer programs I posted in a java forum in 2003. There is one picture of me from 2004 that isn't bad or good that gets returned as well.

Are you the type of person that would search for any information on someone you are dating?

Crack

I would read what they wrote, I would expect them to read what I wrote.
I am not in the least ashamed of anything I have ever said, if I thought I might have, I wouldn't have said it in the first place right? :-P
But seriously, the only way to never burn any bridges is to not post anything that you would be ashamed of. either that, or keep your screen names private.

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ASU2003

In my case it wasn't even me posting stuff. I do need to come up with better screennames and a new e-mail address. This girl seems a little crazy and paranoid. It looks like she deleted her e-mail account and moved on to a new one, or she blocked my e-mail address.

But, if you found a diary, would you read that? Part of me would want to, part of me would want to not know the past and just be happy. Ignorance is bliss type of thing.

skier

I think the difference between a diary and an internet forum is that one is always publicly available. I know what you mean by the similiarities though

To be honest, I would be ashamed if someone read ALL my posts here. I hadn't figured out who I was a few years back when I signed up here, and a lot of my thoughts and opinions were pretty ignorant and out there. Hopefully if someone read through everything they would be able to see how i've changed and grown.

I'm not a person to dig up information on someone behind their back. If I want to know something, i'll just come right up and ask them and they can tell me if it's none of my business or not. I wouldn't read a diary. I might search someone on the internet, out of idle curiosity, but it hasn't happened yet.

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Mantus

This is why I have 6 email addresses. I use each one for a differnt purpose. I don't have much to hide, but I'll reveal my darkside a little at a time...
or all at once in the cellar.

In any case, just tell her the penis enlargement worked.

midgard

There isn't a good way to "block" someone googling you. I can just tell you what I tell my kids when they use myspace.com:

First and formost - don't put anything on line you wouldn't mind appearing on the front page of your local paper. Even private email and chat, since it is logged on both ends and that log could very well be published in places you don't want it to be.

Don't put any personal identifcation information online, ie, name, phone number, address, etc.

Don't put any pictures that you don't want circulated online. Even if the picture is good, what is to stop someone from "photoshoping" it something completely wrong?

Use different screen names for different BBS. (I guess if you truly wanted to be anonymous, you could use a different screen name for every post, but that is going a bit far).

I think we are going to see more and more of this sort of issue, so taking precautions now can help you avoid problems in the future.

Good luck!

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savvypup

The little devil on your shoulder sometimes gets the better of us unfortunately. Even though you don't want to and you sway back and forth - look, no don't look, you most inevitabily kick yourself after you do. Kind of like, should I drive past their place on the off chance I might see them outside .......... but what would you do even if you did see them??

The bad thing with the net is that you can say just about anything and who knows if you're bullshitting or not. I agree with Skier. Just because you typed something months or years ago, is it therefore carved in stone? No, it was a feeling / thought you had at that time.

If she doesn't want to keep in contact and you're who you say you are in your correspondence with her ......... her loss right?

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analog

Sure I would. Don't post it if you don't want it read. Period. It's on the internet- it is NOT private. At all.

That being said, you can't exactly google for just "analog". Good luck finding me that way. lol

match000

i keep an internal mental log of what handles i use, and what info they are linked to. match000 is a level 2 handle, which means you may learn a little about my surfing habits, my interests in life by looking at my forums, but in every forum that i post using this handle i make sure there is nothing revealed about me that can pinpoint me.

i have on occasion made a few slip-ups but those should be buried somewhere deep..

i have a few level 1 handles as well, and for forums i go no further than level 2. email addresses i have a few deeper levels..

nezmot

I used to post to different places using the same name - but sometimes I want to say something in one place, that I don't want read elsewhere - best to mark this down to experience, and start mixing up your usernames if you don't want this to happen again.

Of course, you and someone else might have the same name in two different places, but that's life - if she can't figure out that two people might post under the same name in different places, then maybe you should be looking somewhere else for conversation partners.

Sultana

If someone's going to go to that effort or reading old posts and the like, they need to understand that people are always evolving. Check the dates, see how old they are, etc.

I wouldn't have a problem with someone I was seeing reading my posts...actually, it would show that they really are interested in my views (unless they were paranoid, stalker, etc. But hopefully those are not the norm.).

I don't think I would google someone's info...but I've been out of the dating pool for quite some time. But it's just not always accurate, anyways.

And I don't post things I don't want public.

To the OP, I think you probably saved yourself some time, in this instance.

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Ample

I once new a girl and we almost had a game going on to find out as much about the other with out telling each other. I found out quite a bit. She called me once and I was able to find out where she lived, through that I found out what highschool she went to. I knew her age so I went through the class list and cross reference that with the college that she went to. I found out her maiden name. By the way she has a 680 credit score, just kidding I didnt go that far.

She was able to find out just about the same info on me. So be careful everyone. Im just a amateur and if I was able to find out that much info. I would hate to see what someone whom knows what they are doing is capable of.

match000

oh yeah the next generation of kids will all have facebook. with facebook, you don't have to do any work at all

Daniel_

Same goes for "Daniel", or even "Daniel_"

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cybersharp

I agree wholeheartedly.

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waltert

I think its kind of creepy that she would go search through all of your posts. I use this name for this forum only, since I feel more comfortable talking about these kinds of things anonymously. if my girl were to try to pull some stuff like that with my other screen name, she'd probably go crazy...I probably have a total of 2500+ posts on 5 different forums with my other handle

NotAnAlias

I like irony... :P

But my normal name i use for practically everything is original enough to be my own, but when googled, brings a lot of hits from things that aren't me, or aren't related.

And it seems she's a little bit of a nutjob if she's run away because she thinks you belong to a penis enlargement forum.




Got any tips :P

poundpuppy34

Yep yep mostly becasue im interested in what the persons interest. Anything I read I dont take to heart because people tend lead double lives on the computer... and there are many names that are used repeatedly by not the same person

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Reese

A forum can be a log of everything you've ever typed. When reading old posts you may get the wrong idea about who someone is now. Hell, I believe reading current posts can give you the wrong idea about someone. Text is a very hard communication medium to understand when you're trying to get to know someone, especially when it's not a live chat. Theres some things a person should learn directly from you so they don't just jump to conclusions before you have a chance to clearly explain the situation, like that Latex Fetish you might have.

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Plaid13

in a way i kinda wish people would read all my posts and stuff when they started to get to know me. it would really save alot of time and let them figure out who i am and how i think. Better for them to learn as much about me as they can right away and decide they hate me now then figure it out in a few months after we have wasted alot of time together and i find out she dosnt like the way i think.