Biffaloo420

I've never been much of a "player" or cheater for that matter but have always wondered the reasons behind people's decision to do so. Do people cheat because they're lonely, powered by impulsiveness or lust, or are they really just looking to "get their rocks off" because they're not being satisfied by their present partner?

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Miss Ina

Picture this: You're lonely and unsatisfied with your relationship, but you don't want to leave it. The right thing to do would be to end the relationship you're unhappy with, or talk to your partner and try to work out your problems. However, if your will power isn't that strong, and you're presented with an opportunity, you might cheat.

Other people might do it for different reasons, though. I don't know.

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visotech

Some are just in open relationships ...

pavel_lishin

That's not cheating.

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Miss Ina

Yeah, in such a situation the couple should have already discussed their policy on sleeping with other people, therefore no trust or agreement would have been broken.

I know what you meant, I just don't think that's what this person means.

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Toaster126

Yes to all of the above, and then some.

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doncalypso

Even when I've been dissatisfied in a relationship I've always avoided situations where I would find myself tempted to cheat, and that has worked just fine for me.

It's hard to resist temptation... but it's easy to avoid situations where you can be tempted, so I don't buy into any of the excuses people use for cheating.

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tenchi069

I've never cheated or been cheated on, but I've known people who have and have had it happen to them. People who cheat are weak. That is not meant to be derogatory, but rather as an accurate description. They cheat simply because there is something lacking to them in their given relationship. They are weak because they lack the courage to face their partner, the will power to resist temptation, and the maturity to break it off or deal with the problem(s).

tenchi

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slimshaydee

temptation gets the best of a lot of people.

Impetuous1

Doncalypso and tenchi069. You are right on the money. I too resist situations where I know I could be tempted. Find that coworker attractive? In a relationship? Don't be alone with them. That simple.

I have never cheated. I have flirted. Sometimes unintentionally. There are always going to be situations where you are attracted to someone else. The trick is realizing that you value and respect your partner and acting accordingly.

World's King

"It wasn't my fault. I had a lot to drink that night and Mike said we should go to the strip club. I didn't want to go but I wasn't driving so I had to go. Next thing I know I've got the 19yr old Asain chick trying to go down on me. I told her no and tried to puch her off but I guess Phil already paid for the blow jobs so I had to let her finish. When she was done I tried to leave but Greg got us another round and I hate to tell anyone no soI said I would stay for a little bit. After two hours I called a cab. This dancer said she needed a ride she I said we could share the cab. Well, when we got to her house she realized she lost her keys. So I said that she could come back to my place where it was safe so she could call someone... She made us a drink and we started talking. You know how things happen... She doesn't mean anything to me. By the way, have you seen my wallet... "

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taboo

i agree, and to that I add that people do learn from their mistakes

savvypup

I agree & I did

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