newlyable

OK, I'm 18 and in a month i will be graduating high-school, moving away from home and into my boyfriends(of 2years) place. I love him with all my heart, but sometimes I just feel like im more of a case study to him. I Can't talk to him about it because its like talking to a brick wall, i can't loose him because i wouldnt know how to function. I admit im an overly jealous girlfriend but its only because i have never dated anyone that makes me feel the way he does.. Last night we got into our worst fight so far, i haven't ever cried so much in my life.. Please help me before I push away the only person in my life that i couldnt live without.

Toaster126

Being so dependent on someone usually pushes them away. The idea is not to find another person to complete you, but to be happy with your life and then find someone to share it with.

If you can't communicate with your partner, the relationship is going to end, and end terribly. If there really is as much love as you say there is, you should be able to talk about things with each other.

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Cynthetiq

from the Language of Letting Go:

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newlyable

We talk about things and communicate, but sometimes things just seem so hard to fix, im stubborn he's stubborn. OK here's my story, my whole life I have never really been able to be a kid, i have been put through hell not only on my home front but from my peers, i'm a very angry person because of the way my life has been, i have been through and faced with things that noone my age should have been faced with, i dont know how to be a kid, and it drives me up the wall that my boyfriend is such a kid. I know it is wrong to get upset with him, when he wants to party, play video games, etc. but I can't help it I don't know how to let go like he does, I want to have fun and experience life but I'm afraid that if i do i will mess up, or simply just not know how. how do i fix this?

Sultana

Through professional counseling.
I completely, *completely* understand your point of view, I was forced to grow up waaaay too fast as well. I'm making up for it now in my 30's!
But I've been to counseling more than once in my life, and it's benefited me greatly in this area.
Take care of your problems now, otherwise they'll only get bigger, and perhaps make you miss out on opportunities you'd otherwise get to enjoy and make use of.

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At night, the ice weasels come." -

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