M/M/F threesome
 

So, a few months ago, somehow my wife and I ended up in bed with a co-worker of mine. Well, not really somehow, but it was pretty sudden. Everyone at work would give each other shit about sleeping with each other's girlfriends/wives/moms/sisters/whatever... Just standard guy stuff. Well, one guy broke up with his girlfriend, so I kinda lost the ability to joke about sleeping with her, but he was still joking about sleeping with my wife. Fast forward a few months, and I'm actually starting to ponder the question. I bring it up to my wife over dinner one night, kinda jokingly, and we're both like "oh, no, we could never do that," but then we both admit that the idea is kind of intriguing.

A few nights later, we're all hanging out at the house drinking, one thing leads to another, and we all end up naked in bed. Standard M/M/F porn stuff occurs, we all have a blast, he goes home, and everything's cool at work and socially. Next weekend rolls by, rinse/repeat, everything's still cool. So, now it's been around a month, and I think he's grown some morals... He went on quite the bender after he broke up with his girlfriend, realized he did some bad things (slept with another married woman, this time without the husband knowing), and he's looking at the threesome thing as sort of "wrong", but not really convincingly so. It's like he's trying to convince himself that it's bad even though he doesn't REALLY think it is... We're totally cool with it, but should we just let it slide and not worry about it? Or try to nudge him back towards it? It really was fun as hell, and even he agrees with that... I didn't think I'd enjoy watching her do stuff to another guy quite so much as I did. I mean, I'm a bit of a voyeur, but watching her go down was incredible.

Personally, I think you should never push anyone who is ambivalent in any way into a situation that might cause discomfort or guilt.

That said, he participated, and at the time wasn't ambivalent, and seems, in retrospect, to have enjoyed himself. I suggest that should the opportunity present itself, you should reassure him that y'all enjoyed yourselves, you don't have any problems with him at all, and that any future encounters will be up to him, but aren't a big deal if they never happen again.

Just let him know he's still y'all's friend, and that there isn't any pressure from you, and that should take care of his angst, at least with y'all. Give him space to sort out his feelings, but don't let him wallow in guilt... After all, it was one of those rare occurences when everyone goes home happy. *grins*

You and your wife seem to be enjoying it, he doesn't any longer. Find another partner that the two of you can trust and keep doing what you enjoy. Hats off to you and your wife for being able to handle something that many (most probably) can't handle.

Yep just give him space to do his thing and let it slide for now. He'll figure out what he needs/wants and all will work itself out in time. In the meantime, maybe you two can start looking for another person to flirt with? ;)

Rayne, that's not way far off from how our first 3 some happened. (though I'd categorize it more along the MFM lines then MMF, just because F was in the middle the whole time, lol) Our friend eventually got a girlfriend and now on occasion they both join us at times. The difficulty we've found no matter what combination we may be seeking, is that frankly, we'd rather be with friends that we know, and have known and can actually trust. We've found it to be a nice spice on occasion for our already active sex lives. We'd been married probably 6 years or so when we started that, and it's 13 now, so I'd say it's not hurt our relationship at all, but we're quite careful to be open and honest and upfront, and to NEVER pressure or to give in to pressure just to give in. Bryndian_Dhai is quite right, don't let it interrupt a friendship, and don't make it a focus... if it's going to happen, it'll happen. Society in it's Judeo-Christian setup has placed a number of mores that are rather against group sexual activities, and those are hard for some people to escape. Give him time, he may do just that.

Yeah, that sounds about right... I think it's one of those things where he's just trying to straighten out after his bender. Not so much that the threesome thing was "bad", it's just that it wasn't really "good" either, and he's trying to be good. Ah well, I guess I can't sweat it too much. I can't imagine anyone else that we know being a decent fit for this sort of thing, so maybe I just need to chalk it up to a two-time event thing unless he changes his mind. I don't think we'd go looking for someone else specifically for this purpose, though.

Thanks for the tips. :) Guess I just need to chill and see what happens.

As other's have already said, you need to give him the time and space to figure out what he wants to do. You can reassure him that you don't look down on him for it and that you've had a great time and are open to continuing the relationship, but also that you'll still remain good friends no matter what he decides. What you don't want to do is push him back into something that he may regret later.

^^ couldn't have said it better myself Ono, good advice.

sweetpea

i would just like to point out that there are plenty of other hot horny guys out there willing to get in bed with your wife, possibly with both of you.
and i agree with ono on the rest.

A 3some for me have to be just fun.
There's something so hot, hard, and
thrilling about being with two men.
I'm exhausted but it was sooo good yesterday,
I was treated to a nice long slow fuck
been in the middle of their attentions,
getting my pussy, my anus and my mouth filled at once....
It felt good to feel two cocks finally!!!!
My pussy is so wet just thinking about ..