visotech

I went to a party on sat, had lots of fun drank lots, and hung out with this girl like the whole night. Nothing really happend (no kissing, just standing close and her holding my hand as we navigated thru the party), but I think she got clingy....My problem is that I have a gf. For some reason or another I did not mention that I had a gf...so i feel like an asshole. Today that chick im's me and says she can smell my colonge on her jacket...since sunday morning all i can think of is that i was an asshole for not bringing up my gf. My gf is ok with me going out and flirting and kissing other girls if it comes to it. Being excited about this bit, and going to the first party in a long time, i for some reason didn't think about the other girl's feelings. Today she asks me if I have a gf, and I told her I do, and exactly how I feel like an asshole for leading her on. This girl is pretty cool, i would like to be friends with her. How can I repair whats left of the situation? I've always been a nice boy, never really flirted much, this is the first time i've even had a girl upset at me like this...The asshole thing would be to blow her off and never talk to her again, but theres gotta be something better I can do.

Powderedmaggot

Tell her you are looking for a playmate for you and your GF.

Daniel_

A) Keep seeing her "socially" and gradually allow her to realise you have a GF.

or

B) Tell her outright and see if she'll remain your friend.

Either way, honesty is your friend.

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visotech

We'll I told her outright over aim tonight (yeah i know how great, over aim)....and I admited it was an asshole-type thing to do. I asked if we could still be friends and continue on, she said shed think about it and that she had to go to bed now....

When my gf told me a few weeks ago how it was ok to flirt and such with the opposite sex I thought it was a good idea, but I failed to see how misleading and hurtful it is to the "other girl"...Bleh I was so caught up in the fact that a decent looking girl wanted to actually talk to me at a party that I didn't really think things though.

Toaster126

Chalk it up to lesson learned, then. Not much more you can do now.

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Charlatan

That's just what I would do as well... chalk it up to experience.

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Carno

Yup, doesn't seem like you can do much at this point.

At least you won't do it again.

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maleficent

It's a good education for you... one that a lot of people don't always learn.. it's ok to flirt... but ya gotta remember that the person you are flirting with also has feelings and may have a slightly different agenda than you do..

You were honest with her - so sounds like she'd have a decent friend in you- -I hope that she does decide to be your friend...

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JustJess

And thanks for realizing that there are people involved other than you and your GF. It's a good lesson, although a shame you had to experience it to realize... but not the end of the world. No true harm done!

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tooth

And you don't mind the thought of your girlfriend doing the same things? Flirting and kissing guys at parties?

NotAnAlias

My thoughts.

Your girlfriend seems fairly trusting, i have to say.

visotech

Well, its been about 2 years into this relationship...shes the one who brought the idea up. She's going abroad this summer and I figure she wants to have fun so she suggested that idea.

Maybe it dosen't bother me just yet because I haven't seen it happen...if I did im sure it would hit me and I would be against it...but until then? I trust her enough not to do anything to crazy, just as she trusts me.