PredeconInferno

So I'm at a friend A's house today and friend B is with us. We're watching DVDs and generally having a good time. However, the leash is pulled (proverbial leash, of course) and friend B receives a timely phone call from his much loved (*coughbitchcough*) girlfriend. He proceeds to step out of the room and talk to her for about five minutes on the phone. At the end of the discussion we hear "Shut the fuck up [girlfriend's name] and don't interrupt me again!." In all of hour intuitive and detective experience we agreed that something was at least slightly amiss.

Friend B returns and we proceed to finish our movie (Mystery Men if you care). However, two more times during the movie Girlfriend calls him, and the conversations get increasingly time-consuming. In the final call, he is in the bathroom (adjacent to Friend A's bedroom, which is where we were watching the movies) and we can here him yelling at this gem of a significant other.

At this point, the movie is finished, and I'm waiting to be given a ride by friend B (the boyfriend) so that I may go home. After about ten minutes of waiting, he's kicked out by Friend A and I come with (he is still on the phone). I proceed to plant my posterior in his car, and wait... for another fifteen minutes as Friend B paces in the street on the phone. At this point, I decide that I've had enough, and I offer to drive while he talks to her (since our houses are three lots apart). However, he "doesn't want to talk on the phone with her while I'm there." I shrug, and sit back in the car.

Minutes pass, I get increasingly vexed, I get out, and walk home.

Does anyone else think this is wrong? Or am I just incredibly pissed off for no good reason?

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Meridae'n

Think of your mate, he's the one geting chewed out. At least you were getting a free ride, all he was getting was grief...

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PredeconInferno

y'know, that's amusing because that's what it seems their relationship is.

All she ever does is bitch at him. And I find that to be very idiotic.

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Capt.JamesHook

Yeah, you are whining dude. Sorry, but you have to have some empathy for girl trouble.

PredeconInferno

Oh, I have empathy. But after a year and a half of empathy, I'm just plain tired of empathizing.

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myMHz

Good quit empathizing. Tell him to get some balls and get rid of her. If she can't handle that he is gone for a couple of hours hanging out with friends then fuck her. I was married to a woman like that and she not only drove me insane with the constant bitching but drove most of my friends away as well. You can only help people so much till they just have to learn it on their own.

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rogue49

Fuck the advise, telling you to give advise.

This happens in a relationship, they are not perfect.
I know it was awkward, but no you really shouldn't be pissed.
Disappointed, yes; pissed, no.
Hey man, shit happens.
Such is life.

MacGnG

one of my friends was like that at college, his gf called him all the time and got upset if she even thought there was a girl in the room or if he was doing anything, seriously he did nothing wrong and she would just get upset about it. it's probubly not the guys fault at all (it might be but we dont know). the thing is that the guy is gonna be upset and have to put up with this girl untill they break up (if it is that bad). what happend with my friend was that he had to put up with the chick and whenever he tried to go out or do something she'd call and have to leave, till they broke up and he was "free" untill she called again and they would continue. i dunno if its that bad but there is obviously a problem with there relationship that they have to work out and i doubt u can really solve it for them unfortunately

mystmarimatt

seems like two things really, he's got a funky ass relationship, so if we learned more on that , we might could comment, but as for the present situation...he was being nice and giving you a ride, so good etiquette dictates you should probably just shut up and wait, so if you weren't happy, walking was the other choice, which you chose

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PredeconInferno

Okay, well.... their relationship is very interesting...

I've deduced that she is a vindictive, self-centered, manipulative, psycho, lothesome bitch. He, "can deal with this"

However, their relationship thus far has gone through TWO (2) very messy breakups and two very strange "get back together periods"

He has stated that she is a drama queen, and that it seems like whenever they are with a group of friends, she gets this way (either hers or his). He also stated that she's a drama queen even most of the time when they're alone.

I've yet to see a redeeming quality in her... maybe she has no gag reflex? I really wouldn't know, though.

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gonadman

You don't like this bitch

If your friend asks you, you tell him your opinion then drop it

If he doesn't ask you, don't push it.

Friends are about understanding and companionship. The last thing he needs is you bitching on the other side of him about her.

Just let all her bullshit slide right off you. Stop letting her get to you. After all, he's gotta sleep with her, not you.

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Memalvada

I think you have a reason to be pissed. You are his friend, and you were depending on him to give u a ride home. He failed you as a friend...

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MacGnG

if she is such a bitch and there are all these relationship problems and breakups, i doubt there relationship will smooth back out to good. it is possible but it doesnt seem like it will happen soon

doubleaught

Unless he's really protective of his (nice?) car he should've let you drive, or at least after 15 minutes said "hey I'll call you back in a few after I take [PredeconInferno] home".
Bah, I just think he could've been a better friend to you...

yesiwas

Howdy.

Im a total newbie here, but that said I think you did the right thing. Your frinds problems should not become your problem, and he should have been a decent enough friend to realiz this and give you a ride home first, then finish his fight. You should let your pal know how you feel, and tell him if he can't manage, then do so without making other people hang around.

Hope this helps

ba'al

I think you did the right thing and I dont see how being angry at him can help. He is being bitched out on one end from his gf, do you think being bitched out by his friend would help, no. It's not like he wanted to have to pace outside delaying the trip home

Byebye723

kinda rude of him...but be understanding

geep

Right on the mark. The last thing your friend needs now is someone else bitching at him. Later on you may get a chance to say "Remember when..." Drop it for now.

ganon

i think i would stay out of it, but he needs to kick that bitch to the curb if she is like this all the time. sounds like he needs to grow a pair of balls and deal with his life. you were better off walking, but it's fun to complain, so rip it up, that's what we are here for!

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PredeconInferno

Yeah, you're all right.

I've since just dropped it. After all, he's the one getting his balls mashed, not me.

At the time I made the thread, it seemed like the right thing to do. Hence I titled it "I need to vent this..."

Again, you guys are all right, A) he should leave her B) I shouldn't care anymore C) I'm still going to be his friend D) I don't really live that far away anyway.

Thanks everyone.

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MSD

It sounds like what you need to do is help him to realize (or deal with) the mess he is in. If I were you, I'd have walked, and said, "Give me a call later." If I were him, I would've dropped the cell phone in a storm drain.