juggernautd345

This is my first time posting on these forums, although i've read them for awhile. I'm not sure if this is the right forum but I am posting here regardless.

My Situation:

I am an 18 year old boy who is going to be a senior in high school. Lately I have been trying things such as alcohol, cigarettes, and other things. Recently my parents, who must have been snooping in my room, have found a pack a cigarettes, a cigar, and some pills (nothing serious just ibuprofens). I feel like I am trapped because I stole the pills from my dad who does not take them anymore. I haven't done anything that bad. I am a good student and I was just trying to learn more about the world. My parents are very over protective and traditional and believed me to be a good kid beyond this point. Right now they have confronted me and I have no idea what to do.

Please give me some advice.

absorbentishe

Their house their rules... I'm sure you've read other threads that start out the same way, I hate my parents, blah blah... What ever the ground rules are, stick to them, and you'll be fine, or move out.

maleficent

Cigarettes and a cigar chalk up to youthful experimentation? Ibuprofin is really just aspirin? Was this prescription aspirin, like with codeine? (I won't lecture you on the dangers of taking someone else's prescription) Nor will I lecture on the dangers of drinking and driving, and hopefully you have had more sense than that.

Sit down with your parents and talk to them. Be as honest as you think you can be.

I would find out why your parents were snooping in your room, did they suspect something? or was it just a fishing expedition, doing so without being accusatory, it's their house, so your right to privacy really doesn't hold water, if you've given them a reason to suspect anything.

If they believed you to be a good kid, show them that you still are, be a man and own up to what you did. Experimentation at your age is normal, it's also normal for your parents to care about what you are doing. Lying to them only makes them worry. Don't go with the "all my friends are doing it" excuse, just explain to them what you did and if you know why you did it.

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Johnny Pyro

Absorbentishe is right. Their rules, you must respect them.

Try to find a better hiding spot. Some place where no one would look. Get creative. What were the ibuprofens for and why did you take them from your Dad?

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skinnymofo

id ask for your tobacco products back.
nothing wrong with trying them and its expensive and legal to have.
as for the aspirin... im confused? do your parents not let you take over the counter pain meds for stuff like head aches?
more info on this part please

Sage

Ok, just a reminder- DON'T TAKE THE IBUPROFIN/ASPRIN/PAINKILLERS WITH ALCOHOL!!!! Not only can you pass out from it, you'll also do an amazing amout of damage to your liver/kidneys. And those things are expensive to replace.

Anyway, if you've been busted, you need to talk to your parents about what's going on- let them know it's experemental on your part, no you're not doing crack, you did these things because of this reason, ect. The more you're a "man" and talk about what you did, the more respect they're going to have for you.

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mr sticky

My definition of growing up: When your parents aren't stupid anymore.

They love you. They have absolutely no desire to change your behavior for any other reason than that they are looking out for you. When dealing with your parents, remember their motives. They love and care and protect you...although they are not used to having to explain themselves to their kids..and this usually causes resentment on your part, because you think that they are just ordering you around for some sort of commanding satisfaction. Remember their motives, ask them questions, and talk about this stuff. Most parents try most vehemently to steer their kids away from the mistakes they made. I tell you, this is love- not any sort of power trip of theirs! Understand where their coming from. It's not easy rearing children, especially those that are burgeoning into adults.

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Jesus Pimp

Except they lead to addiction and cause cancer and other health problems in the long run. Don't be a stupid high school kid. Best advice is to give that shit up. You don't need it.

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meembo

Sounds like good parents to me. It's goddamn hard to do the right thing for your kids, and I'd much rather be guilty of trying to hard than of not trying enough to do the right things for my kids.

I've told my kids that it's my job to teach them the difference between right and wrong, and good and bad, since they were old enough to understand. Naturally, I realize that my sons disagree with me sometimes as they get older, but I won't ever stop doing what I think I have to do while thay are in my care. I LOVE THEM TOO MUCH.

Both my sons and you have th rest of your lives to do what you have to do. Think of your parents kindly as they try to protect you.

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