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Irishsean · 06-04-2005, 12:43 PM

I moved to Austin a couple weeks ago, and have been really busy, so I haven't had a chance to get out. I figured, what the hell, I'll throw a message on Craigslist under "strictly platonic" and see what comes of it. That was yesterday morning. I woke up today to find 27 messages in my email all involving whether I was a "top" or a "bottom" and how good I was at sucking dick.

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I just moved to Austin about 3 weeks ago. I have been working a lot, so haven't had a chance to get out and see or do anything in Austin yet, but I want that to change. I'm a laid back guy, more comfortable sitting in a pub listening to music than at a club, thats not really my scene. I like just about any type of music, except country. I'd really like to catch some live music, or maybe just hang out in an irish pub.

Does this come off as a gay guy looking for sex? Especially when posted in a section about just being friends?

Sweetpea · 06-04-2005, 12:44 PM

Maybe you just seem so cool, guys wants to hit on ya?

Or maybe it's because you put it under "friends" . . . ?

hmmmmmmmm, doesn't send off those "i'm gay" vibes to me and i would know . . . so hmmmmmm, Don't know... *shrug

Sweetpea

lurkette · 06-04-2005, 01:50 PM

Wow...27?!?

Doesn't strike me as particularly gay...maybe it got temporarily misposted, or perhaps you just got spammed?

*Nikki* · 06-04-2005, 03:02 PM

Sounds like a nice guy to me...someone I would like to hang with. Not gay at all.

maleficent · 06-04-2005, 03:27 PM

I think you have fallen victim to personal ad syndrome... any woman who has ever placed a personal ad has generally fallen victim to it...

Where they will get responses from people who clearly have reading comprehension problems and never read the ad... You didn't state in the first sentence that you were a male looking for a female... so therefore the rest of the ad got ignored... doesn't matter if it was in platonic or not because people don't always read the details.

Wasn't gay sounding at all -- you didn't say you were not looking for sex so the assumption is that you were... doesn't matter if it was inplatonic or not - you're a guy - of course you were looking for sex

Charlatan · 06-04-2005, 04:08 PM

I was going to say something just like Maleficent... I was just imagining what would have happened if a woman posted something like this... She probably would have recieved more than 27 but they would have been very similar...

Women are less likely to respond to this, especially if you don't say you are looking for a woman....

By the way... I read you ad... how are your skills at sucking cock?

Irishsean · 06-04-2005, 04:48 PM

Dunno about that, never had the inclination to try!

I got one response that was fairly decent, so I'm gonna go try and have some fun tonite.

Sweetpea · 06-04-2005, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Irishsean

Dunno about that, never had the inclination to try!

I got one response that was fairly decent, so I'm gonna go try and have some fun tonite.

cool. have a good time!!

Sweetpea

Irishsean · 06-05-2005, 12:08 AM

Tonite was awesome! Good food, great live band, had a blast!

I now know why they call Austin the live music capital of the world!

Meier_Link · 06-05-2005, 05:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Irishsean

Tonite was awesome! Good food, great live band, had a blast!

I now know why they call Austin the live music capital of the world!

Good to see it worked out for ya... Were you top or bottom?

Irishsean · 06-05-2005, 08:30 AM

I went with a girl, thank you very much! But I do prefer to be on the bottom with a woman, it leaves my hands free to roam!

Astrocloud · 06-05-2005, 11:38 AM

The law of large numbers states that even with a small percentage chance of an event happening -if you just have enough tries -the event will eventually happen.

So translated into the world of gay sex -the event is having your dick sucked by the 'nice guy' who just moved to the area. They just have to keep asking until their fantasy comes true.

Now if only women were that easy.

Disk_Pusher · 06-05-2005, 12:31 PM

Please forgive me for saying, but it IS Craigslist. Not exactly the creme of society right there. I use Craigslist quite a bit, but take everything with a hefty grain of salt. I posted an ad there for a room for rent specifing we were only looking for roommates close to our own age (18-25, we are both 21), and got at least 10 replies from men in their 40s and 50s who claimed they "looked very young" and that they "wanted to live with a young couple". Creepy.

Spiffgirl · 06-05-2005, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Disk_Pusher

got at least 10 replies from men in their 40s and 50s who claimed they "looked very young" and that they "wanted to live with a young couple". Creepy.

Eww! That happened to my husband and me... a man he worked with, 50's, was looking for a young couple to live with. Seriously creepy.

World's King · 06-06-2005, 12:29 AM

Hm? I don't have any more of an urge to suck your dick then I did before.

Willravel · 06-06-2005, 08:45 AM

Ever go into a cheap public bathroom to find some of the most disgusting, vile, probably illegal messages and poorly drawn pictures often including gay undertones? Well, Craigslist can be an internet version of that sometimes. That's the way a lot of people are. While I suppose it's possiblee that some of the messages are real, I'd bet most of them are from 16 year olds that don't realize that their homophobia is actually a sign that they'll be dating a guy named Tim someday. Take it in stride and know that it was not your message.

Oh, and next time next time say "I'm looking for a woman...".

oblar · 06-07-2005, 09:06 PM

I basically did the same thing, but didn't get near the responses you did (and not any that were too creepy.. just a few)..

granted, the only differences between our two adds were: 1. I didn't say I worked out... 2. I mentioned museums... apparently museums are a turn off for gay culture where I am at*grin*

I actually ended up with about 4:1 ratio of girls:guys, so I didn't do that bad, but actually the only one I ended up actually hanging out with was one of the guys.. He actually had a decent band playing that he was friends with and I hadn't been drinking in a while so we went.. Had a blast and I plan to go again when the band plays next...

I would have to agree though.. craigslist is definatley... well, you get what you pay for

shalafi · 06-08-2005, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by willravel

they'll be dating a guy named Tim someday.

I had to laugh when i read that. My old boss is gay and his ex partner was named Tim.

Beccarain · 06-09-2005, 02:25 PM

Irishsean, in reading your ad, it doesn't sound like you're gay at all . . . but you did use the term "laid back guy" ;-)

avhg1 · 06-10-2005, 12:09 PM

I've always wondered about Craigslist. It did seem like there was always a large group gay people on that site. I have nothing against that; it just caught my attention the one time I looked at it. Anyway I wouldn't be able to make a judgment from your ad if I saw it. I guess it seems like it could go either way.

thingstodo · 06-11-2005, 07:25 AM

I can't figure a thing you said that indicated anything specific other than having a generally good time. That delete key is a handy thing!!

mulletJeb · 06-12-2005, 07:57 PM

not gay, per se, but it doesn't quite specify exactly what you're looking for. It's vague enough for a gay man to reply, thinking you just gave some ideas for a first date. I'd rework it and be very specific. After all, you wouldn't post a classified ad for a house without giving total detail, and this should be no different.

Prince · 06-13-2005, 11:05 AM

I don't know what people mean when they ask if something "sounds" or "looks" gay... I am just uneducated on the matter.

That's odd, and kind of funny and creepy at the same time, that ad business.

06-04-2005, 12:44 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	Maybe you just seem so cool, guys wants to hit on ya? Or maybe it's because you put it under "friends" . . . ? hmmmmmmmm, doesn't send off those "i'm gay" vibes to me and i would know . . . so hmmmmmm, Don't know... *shrug Sweetpea __________________ Having a Pet Will Change Your Life! Looking for a great pet?! Click Here! "I am the Type of Person Who Can Get Away With A lot, Simply Because I Don't Ask Permission for the Privilege of Being Myself"

06-04-2005, 01:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Wow...27?!? Doesn't strike me as particularly gay...maybe it got temporarily misposted, or perhaps you just got spammed? __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

06-04-2005, 03:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	I think you have fallen victim to personal ad syndrome... any woman who has ever placed a personal ad has generally fallen victim to it... Where they will get responses from people who clearly have reading comprehension problems and never read the ad... You didn't state in the first sentence that you were a male looking for a female... so therefore the rest of the ad got ignored... doesn't matter if it was in platonic or not because people don't always read the details. Wasn't gay sounding at all -- you didn't say you were not looking for sex so the assumption is that you were... doesn't matter if it was inplatonic or not - you're a guy - of course you were looking for sex __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

06-04-2005, 04:08 PM	#6 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	I was going to say something just like Maleficent... I was just imagining what would have happened if a woman posted something like this... She probably would have recieved more than 27 but they would have been very similar... Women are less likely to respond to this, especially if you don't say you are looking for a woman.... By the way... I read you ad... how are your skills at sucking cock? __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

06-04-2005, 04:48 PM	#7 (permalink)
Irishsean edited for content Location: Austin, TX	Dunno about that, never had the inclination to try! I got one response that was fairly decent, so I'm gonna go try and have some fun tonite. __________________ There are no absolute rules of conduct, either in peace or war. Everything depends on circumstances. Leon Trotsky

06-04-2005, 03:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	Sounds like a nice guy to me...someone I would like to hang with. Not gay at all.

06-05-2005, 12:08 AM	#9 (permalink)
Irishsean edited for content Location: Austin, TX	Tonite was awesome! Good food, great live band, had a blast! I now know why they call Austin the live music capital of the world! __________________ There are no absolute rules of conduct, either in peace or war. Everything depends on circumstances. Leon Trotsky

06-05-2005, 08:30 AM	#11 (permalink)
Irishsean edited for content Location: Austin, TX	I went with a girl, thank you very much! But I do prefer to be on the bottom with a woman, it leaves my hands free to roam! __________________ There are no absolute rules of conduct, either in peace or war. Everything depends on circumstances. Leon Trotsky

06-05-2005, 11:38 AM	#12 (permalink)
Astrocloud Apocalypse Nerd	The law of large numbers states that even with a small percentage chance of an event happening -if you just have enough tries -the event will eventually happen. So translated into the world of gay sex -the event is having your dick sucked by the 'nice guy' who just moved to the area. They just have to keep asking until their fantasy comes true. Now if only women were that easy.

06-05-2005, 12:31 PM	#13 (permalink)
Disk_Pusher Tilted Location: Fresno, soon to be Sacramento!	Please forgive me for saying, but it IS Craigslist. Not exactly the creme of society right there. I use Craigslist quite a bit, but take everything with a hefty grain of salt. I posted an ad there for a room for rent specifing we were only looking for roommates close to our own age (18-25, we are both 21), and got at least 10 replies from men in their 40s and 50s who claimed they "looked very young" and that they "wanted to live with a young couple". Creepy.

06-06-2005, 12:29 AM	#15 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Hm? I don't have any more of an urge to suck your dick then I did before. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

06-06-2005, 08:45 AM	#16 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	Ever go into a cheap public bathroom to find some of the most disgusting, vile, probably illegal messages and poorly drawn pictures often including gay undertones? Well, Craigslist can be an internet version of that sometimes. That's the way a lot of people are. While I suppose it's possiblee that some of the messages are real, I'd bet most of them are from 16 year olds that don't realize that their homophobia is actually a sign that they'll be dating a guy named Tim someday. Take it in stride and know that it was not your message. Oh, and next time next time say "I'm looking for a woman...".

06-07-2005, 09:06 PM	#17 (permalink)
oblar Über-Rookie Location: No longer, D.C	I basically did the same thing, but didn't get near the responses you did (and not any that were too creepy.. just a few).. granted, the only differences between our two adds were: 1. I didn't say I worked out... 2. I mentioned museums... apparently museums are a turn off for gay culture where I am atgrin I actually ended up with about 4:1 ratio of girls:guys, so I didn't do that bad, but actually the only one I ended up actually hanging out with was one of the guys.. He actually had a decent band playing that he was friends with and I hadn't been drinking in a while so we went.. Had a blast and I plan to go again when the band plays next... I would have to agree though.. craigslist is definatley... well, you get what you pay for

06-09-2005, 02:25 PM	#19 (permalink)
Beccarain Upright Location: Right here, right now	Irishsean, in reading your ad, it doesn't sound like you're gay at all . . . but you did use the term "laid back guy" ;-) __________________ Onward, through the fog . . .

06-10-2005, 12:09 PM	#20 (permalink)
avhg1 Insane Location: MD	I've always wondered about Craigslist. It did seem like there was always a large group gay people on that site. I have nothing against that; it just caught my attention the one time I looked at it. Anyway I wouldn't be able to make a judgment from your ad if I saw it. I guess it seems like it could go either way. __________________ I shake the devil's hand daily... I'd do it hourly, but my hand gets tired.

06-11-2005, 07:25 AM	#21 (permalink)
thingstodo A Storm Is Coming Location: The Great White North	I can't figure a thing you said that indicated anything specific other than having a generally good time. That delete key is a handy thing!! __________________ If you're wringing your hands you can't roll up your shirt sleeves. Stangers have the best candy.

06-12-2005, 07:57 PM	#22 (permalink)
mulletJeb Insane	not gay, per se, but it doesn't quite specify exactly what you're looking for. It's vague enough for a gay man to reply, thinking you just gave some ideas for a first date. I'd rework it and be very specific. After all, you wouldn't post a classified ad for a house without giving total detail, and this should be no different.

06-13-2005, 11:05 AM	#23 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	I don't know what people mean when they ask if something "sounds" or "looks" gay... I am just uneducated on the matter. That's odd, and kind of funny and creepy at the same time, that ad business. __________________ Who is John Galt?