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streak_56 · 05-25-2005, 05:54 PM

My step family and I get along somewhat badly. My step Mom and I get along the best out of all of them. I atleast can have a intelligent conversation with her. But for the rest of my family, it's really bad. I know that my step-sister ( J, I'm only using the first letter of their name) hates me. I really think low of my step-brother ( C ) because of the way he acts. Thats just the family I live with.

My step-father, I really do not like him at all. His actions just piss me off almost instantly, with the way he treats me compared to his own daughter. My other step sister ( Ca ), she got pregnant at 18, and though as helpful I wish I could've been, shes probably the one on my mothers side of the family that I get along with the best. My step-brother ( T ) is an absolute idiot, my mother and I took care of his son for the most part because he couldn't take care of him properly... he has two sons plus a daughter. He has taken care of them properly but couldn't understand that Kool-Aid is not juice that should've gone to a baby.

Now, my father treats my step family really good if not better than my brother and I. I don't mind this, I know we're expected more of because we're been recreational farmers and they've lived in the city more, so hence why we have more responsibility. The same goes with my mother, but responsibility is shared with my sister ( D ) and that seems to be fine with her, but I haven't talked to her in such a long time so I wouldn't know her opinion.

Now onto my question.... I know there is a sterotype where the step children are treated differently because they're not related at all. But what have been your experiences with your step family, or just your step parents?

2sheds · 05-26-2005, 12:34 PM

on my dad's side, i've been very lucky. he's been remarried for about 25 years to a great lady. i refer to her as my "other mother" rather than "step mother". her two daughters have also always been great. the only trouble was that one of my step-aunts and her husband used to treat my and my brothers (the step sons) differently than their blood neices (my step sisters). my other mother stood up to them and demanded they treat us all the same. in the long run the husband was the real problem (a real asshole) and ever since they split up, the aunt has been cool.

on my mom's side it's been pretty much a non-issue. she short second and third marriages, and there weren't any real problems, but they didn't last long enough to make much of an impression. i never spent any real time with my step-siblings from those marriages. she was single for about 15 years after that, and just remarried recently to a nice guy who seems to be a keeper. he has two children which are nice enough, but being that i'm grown and gone now i don't have much contact with them.

diddagirl · 05-26-2005, 03:28 PM

Step Family's are tough. My sister, brother and I were extremely hard on my step mother when my dad first married her. We just couldnt accept her, and see my dad with someone else. Everyone's life was pure hell for about 8 years from all the hate and the fighting. It got to the point where we only saw my dad once every few months (even though he only lives 5 minutes away). We all got along very well with my step sister (she tended to side with us, instead of her mom during the fights), and as for my step brother, I knew very little of him before he was kicked out of his house. I do have a vague memory of him trying to kill me.....that bastard. Things with the step mom are cool now, although I think she is still wary and holds alot of resentment towards us, because of how mean were all were to her. I dont know if she ever really gave us a fair chance or was sensitive to our vulnerability.

cj2112 · 05-26-2005, 04:17 PM

I have the most awesome step-parents in the worls, my stepdad has NEVER treated me any different than one of his own blood children, and is the most awesome grandparent my kids could ever hope for. I love and respect him just the same as I do my own father. My step-mom
is also an amazing lady, she accepted me into her life as if i'd been there all along, she is also an amazing grandma.

05-25-2005, 05:54 PM	#1 (permalink)
streak_56 who ever said streaking was a bad thing? Location: Calgary	The good ole step family My step family and I get along somewhat badly. My step Mom and I get along the best out of all of them. I atleast can have a intelligent conversation with her. But for the rest of my family, it's really bad. I know that my step-sister ( J, I'm only using the first letter of their name) hates me. I really think low of my step-brother ( C ) because of the way he acts. Thats just the family I live with. My step-father, I really do not like him at all. His actions just piss me off almost instantly, with the way he treats me compared to his own daughter. My other step sister ( Ca ), she got pregnant at 18, and though as helpful I wish I could've been, shes probably the one on my mothers side of the family that I get along with the best. My step-brother ( T ) is an absolute idiot, my mother and I took care of his son for the most part because he couldn't take care of him properly... he has two sons plus a daughter. He has taken care of them properly but couldn't understand that Kool-Aid is not juice that should've gone to a baby. Now, my father treats my step family really good if not better than my brother and I. I don't mind this, I know we're expected more of because we're been recreational farmers and they've lived in the city more, so hence why we have more responsibility. The same goes with my mother, but responsibility is shared with my sister ( D ) and that seems to be fine with her, but I haven't talked to her in such a long time so I wouldn't know her opinion. Now onto my question.... I know there is a sterotype where the step children are treated differently because they're not related at all. But what have been your experiences with your step family, or just your step parents?

05-26-2005, 12:34 PM	#2 (permalink)
2sheds Crazy Location: dfw - texas	on my dad's side, i've been very lucky. he's been remarried for about 25 years to a great lady. i refer to her as my "other mother" rather than "step mother". her two daughters have also always been great. the only trouble was that one of my step-aunts and her husband used to treat my and my brothers (the step sons) differently than their blood neices (my step sisters). my other mother stood up to them and demanded they treat us all the same. in the long run the husband was the real problem (a real asshole) and ever since they split up, the aunt has been cool. on my mom's side it's been pretty much a non-issue. she short second and third marriages, and there weren't any real problems, but they didn't last long enough to make much of an impression. i never spent any real time with my step-siblings from those marriages. she was single for about 15 years after that, and just remarried recently to a nice guy who seems to be a keeper. he has two children which are nice enough, but being that i'm grown and gone now i don't have much contact with them. __________________ Depression is just anger without enthusiasm. It’s having an empty beer bottle but no one to throw it at.

05-26-2005, 03:28 PM	#3 (permalink)
diddagirl Addict Location: Calgary, AB	Step Family's are tough. My sister, brother and I were extremely hard on my step mother when my dad first married her. We just couldnt accept her, and see my dad with someone else. Everyone's life was pure hell for about 8 years from all the hate and the fighting. It got to the point where we only saw my dad once every few months (even though he only lives 5 minutes away). We all got along very well with my step sister (she tended to side with us, instead of her mom during the fights), and as for my step brother, I knew very little of him before he was kicked out of his house. I do have a vague memory of him trying to kill me.....that bastard. Things with the step mom are cool now, although I think she is still wary and holds alot of resentment towards us, because of how mean were all were to her. I dont know if she ever really gave us a fair chance or was sensitive to our vulnerability. __________________ "Is it so small a thing to have enjoyed the sun, to have lived long in the spring, to have loved, to have thought, to have done." -Matthew Arnold

05-26-2005, 04:17 PM	#4 (permalink)
cj2112 Unbelievable Location: Grants Pass OR	I have the most awesome step-parents in the worls, my stepdad has NEVER treated me any different than one of his own blood children, and is the most awesome grandparent my kids could ever hope for. I love and respect him just the same as I do my own father. My step-mom is also an amazing lady, she accepted me into her life as if i'd been there all along, she is also an amazing grandma.