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little_tippler · 09-01-2004, 09:18 AM

Does anyone else have this problem? I can bet you do. That and coupled with a complete incapability to say "no" when it's needed. So what do you do? Make a choice? What if you really WANT to do all those things because a) some you really enjoy b) others you really HAVE to do.

My situation: I work 9 hours every day (except weekends), work-out most mornings, live in my own house so need to take care of all that shit (bills, shopping, cleaning, bla bla bla), have 2 cats (caring for them, vet trips, etc), my SO who lives with me and I always wish I had more time to spend with him, I also on top of this give lessons part-time (in 2 different subjects), have a music band, a duo, (this all implies weekly rehearsals, gigs, what have you...) and a project to start a small company, and and and...get my drift? I need some guidance...or some comforting words...lol

Can you have it all? I think not, I enjoy all these things but I feel I neglect each one in turn for the other...what to do? Sometimes I feel I might explode...

absorbentishe · 09-01-2004, 09:29 AM

Prioritize my friend. Get a list together and see what can wait until the weekend, or longer.

la petite moi · 09-01-2004, 10:56 AM

Yeah, definitely prioritise. Can some of these things wait a bit? For instance, your boyfriend and cats have feelings and cannot be neglected...however, you could perhaps start that project a little later. You can't do it all at one moment, but you can over time.

Good luck!

Willravel · 09-01-2004, 11:30 AM

I find that life seems less busy if you are doing things that you love. I could be busy with my gf or school or work forever, and I wouldn't mind. I love all three to death. You can have it all. Sorry to be repeating what others have said, but yea, prioritize.

9 hours of work a day can be tedious, espically if you don't like where you work. I don't know if you like it or not, but I really like waht Jamie Fox's character in Colateral did. He had a picture of a secluded island with perfect beaches that he's look at and take 'mini-vacations'. He'd just look at the picture every time he felt over streesed. I started doing it a few weeks ago, mostly when I'm doing my weight set. I don't really like lifting weights, but I need to in order to keep in shape, so I try to seperate my mind from what I'm doing.
You can do it.

little_tippler · 09-03-2004, 01:57 AM

thanks for your advice guys. As I said I really do enjoy what I do, but it's still too much sometimes, a person needs to get some sleep, lol. Some of the things I can't just pass on right now, the project I mentioned is in the throes of just getting comissioned for work so if I dropped out I'd be left behind. Other stuff I just don't want to give up, I'm not getting any younger, and certain things if you leave them then it's not likely you'll come back to them with a chance of making it a career. So yes, it's all my own fault and I should just deal with it. Thanks for listening to my little rant anyway...cheers

09-01-2004, 09:18 AM	#1 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	My life is way too busy... Does anyone else have this problem? I can bet you do. That and coupled with a complete incapability to say "no" when it's needed. So what do you do? Make a choice? What if you really WANT to do all those things because a) some you really enjoy b) others you really HAVE to do. My situation: I work 9 hours every day (except weekends), work-out most mornings, live in my own house so need to take care of all that shit (bills, shopping, cleaning, bla bla bla), have 2 cats (caring for them, vet trips, etc), my SO who lives with me and I always wish I had more time to spend with him, I also on top of this give lessons part-time (in 2 different subjects), have a music band, a duo, (this all implies weekly rehearsals, gigs, what have you...) and a project to start a small company, and and and...get my drift? I need some guidance...or some comforting words...lol Can you have it all? I think not, I enjoy all these things but I feel I neglect each one in turn for the other...what to do? Sometimes I feel I might explode... __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

09-03-2004, 01:57 AM	#5 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	thanks for your advice guys. As I said I really do enjoy what I do, but it's still too much sometimes, a person needs to get some sleep, lol. Some of the things I can't just pass on right now, the project I mentioned is in the throes of just getting comissioned for work so if I dropped out I'd be left behind. Other stuff I just don't want to give up, I'm not getting any younger, and certain things if you leave them then it's not likely you'll come back to them with a chance of making it a career. So yes, it's all my own fault and I should just deal with it. Thanks for listening to my little rant anyway...cheers __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

09-01-2004, 09:29 AM	#2 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	Prioritize my friend. Get a list together and see what can wait until the weekend, or longer.

09-01-2004, 10:56 AM	#3 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Yeah, definitely prioritise. Can some of these things wait a bit? For instance, your boyfriend and cats have feelings and cannot be neglected...however, you could perhaps start that project a little later. You can't do it all at one moment, but you can over time. Good luck!

09-01-2004, 11:30 AM	#4 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	I find that life seems less busy if you are doing things that you love. I could be busy with my gf or school or work forever, and I wouldn't mind. I love all three to death. You can have it all. Sorry to be repeating what others have said, but yea, prioritize. 9 hours of work a day can be tedious, espically if you don't like where you work. I don't know if you like it or not, but I really like waht Jamie Fox's character in Colateral did. He had a picture of a secluded island with perfect beaches that he's look at and take 'mini-vacations'. He'd just look at the picture every time he felt over streesed. I started doing it a few weeks ago, mostly when I'm doing my weight set. I don't really like lifting weights, but I need to in order to keep in shape, so I try to seperate my mind from what I'm doing. You can do it.