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I find it's a better conversation if you're confortable in the 'silent moments.' Once I was comfortable with the sounds of silence the conversations were always a little better and didn't seem quite so forced.
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Location: Manhattan, NY
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silent moments are just an evlolution of converstaion. One cannot just yammer awy for hours and hours. It also give someone time to digest what was said and formulate thoughts and impressions.
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Location: Up yonder
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I think the key to being a good conversationalist is to be a good listener first. And to not be afraid to say the words "I don't know". Amazing how much you can learn if you can admit that.
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"I think the key to being a good conversationalist is to be a good listener first."
Bingo. Listen intently, nod while you're doing so. Ask questions that can not be answered with one word. Listening can be work and it doesn't come naturally to some people. Take some time and develop this skill. |
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All my advice has been stated already. Listening to others, asking questions that show you're listening and letting them know you are genuinely interested are keys to being a good conversationalist IMO. Having said that, you'll no doubt come up against some poor communicators who just want to blather at you for hours at a time. For them, try your active not listening skills.
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Location: San Francisco
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Of how true I find the other advice to be, I think it's most imporant to be a good listener (which I suck at sometimes), and to also be natural. Yeah somepeople hate an akward silence, but I get really bugged by smalltalk as well. I think you should just go about yourself naturally. I find that most quiet people, after they feel comfortable to talk, have some pretty interesting things to say because they're busy thinking instead of flapping their lips
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Location: Baltimore
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One of the easiest ways to keep a conversation going is to ask questions. The best way to do this is to take something that they just said, or said a minute or two ago, and incorporate that into the question.
Them: "I love working with animals." You: "Animals eh? What kind are your favorite to work with?" This works for one of two situations... First, you are customizing the conversation to find out more about them, as well as proving that you are listening and paying attention which is important because you like and respect them and want to know more. The second situation is that they're basically a blathering idiot and you don't want to have to pay any more attention to them than absolutely necessary.
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