going to a club tonight and..
 

i need some advice on what to do to talk to the ladies ;) ..so clubbers, would it be best to go out on the dance floor and just start grinding with them or should i maybe just go up to someone and start a conversation? i'm just 18 so i can't by one a drink or anything like that. thx

Careful about 'grinding with them'.

If you try to do it, approach them carefully, and pay attention to their body language. if they turn away, that's a good sign to go away.

some chicks like to dance alone. ;)

no grinding!
go to girls that look young, that have no 21 and over wrist band and you should be fine about the drinking thing. Just be yourself and have fun. What kind of club are you going to anyway?

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Re: going to a club tonight and..
 

Just go up to some girls and say hello. Say something like "You two seem to be having fun" or "Sounds like the party's over here!" It doesn't really matter what you say, it's how you come off when you say it. Be relaxed and confident and just talk to them at first like you would a new friend. Then ask em to dance, or move on to other stuff ;). And don't buy drinks for girls, you'll just be throwing away your money.

Re: Re: going to a club tonight and..
 

That was supposed to be a joke right?

Personally when I go to a club I just get really drunk.

The best way to meet girls is to go with a group of people, and then you can all approach a group of girls. Well, anyway, for me, cos Im too scared to approach girls in places like that on my own.

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That's very true (sorry to all girls). I have a LOT of female friends that go to bars with only their ID, no money, knowing that they can drink any amount of any drink that they want, as long as they dress right. If a girl seems genuinely interested in you, then I'd consider buying her a drink as a nice gesture. I wouldn't do it as an opening to someone you don't know though, otherwise you're just funding their night.

SO FREAKING TRUE!!!!

Seriously, i think any reasonably attractive...well..close to reasonably attractive..well..Ok, any girl with boobs...or butt...large or small...or rather any girl with a heartbeat could go all night w/out spending a dime if they dress properly or act in a certain way. I've seen it thousands of times. I'm talking women you'd normally be scared of if they walked your way in a dark alley getting shot after shot at a bar from guys too drunk to realize what they're doing.

Sorry girls, i know some of you are great, but i've seen way too many manipulators.

Don't buy them a drink until well after you get to know them.

And especially don't buy them a drink if they suggest it.

You can offer to trade them a drink for a french kiss. At least then you'll be direct about the whole supplication thing.


No joke. Well it is sorta, it's an old cliche, and it'll usually get a chuckle from the group I introduce myself to. It'll be completely forgotten after a few seconds, and you've broken the ice, talking to some girls. It really does not matter what the first phrase/word is, you can just say "Hello, my name's ___." The important stuff is right after that, where the girl/group decides whether you're interesting enough to talk to. People go to bars to have fun! They are willing to give you a chance, and if it doesn't work, just go to the next group/available female.

Edit: sorry denim, meant to quote Jim Kata there

Or just ask her what her price is. Slightly more direct. :p

FIRST RULE OF THE CLUB! DON'T talk about the club...
Second rule of the club... DO NOT talk about the club

hehehe No shirts no shoes... you know the drill

I'm with Strange Famous I go to the club to get drunk. Usually when I get well beyond tipsy I'll start grinding with complete strangers, and while this has led to a few make-out sessions and groping on the dance floor didn't really do much for getting ass for the evening.

If I really want to go out and try and hook-up with a women, I'll go with my old work-buddies. They almost always go to the club in a large group, some of them show up early to snag a large table so you always have a "base" to return to. The girlfriends, and wives, and their friends generally get out on the dancefloor and go wild. I usually join in with the wives and girlfriends dancing (husbands and boyfriends don't like to dance), and I'll grind with them. Eventually some stranger women will notice you're having way too much fun with three-four girls you know and you can make your move for that stranger and dance just with her. It's amazing how well this has worked for me. Watch out though, make sure the husband or boyfriend of the girl you're dancing with isn't a jealous-aggressive drunk. Gotten into two unnecessary tussles because of this.