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JStrider · 10-19-2003, 10:00 AM

Ok last night i went to meet some new people... and my friend seth was there with this girl amy who he met through me kinda... (him and my roomie were drunk here... she called my phone... they got her number off my phone and called her and then started chatting...) but anyways Seth and amy were looking rather close...

and now the problem... Seth has a girlfriend who was out of town this weekend... and i dont know if i should say anything to her about it to her or not...

my first instinct is to not... its not my relationship, not my business.. dont get involved... just gonna cause drama...

but at the same time i think she would want to know...

bermuDa · 10-19-2003, 10:49 AM

I'd sooner remind HIM that he has a girlfriend than tell her about it.

tekaweni · 10-19-2003, 10:59 AM

Well nothing seems to have actually happened, maybe it was just a meeting of minds? I wouldnt do anything yet in case I was wrong, but if things continue he should break off with his current g/f. Should he not, I'd talk to him. Should he continue, I'd consider telling her if I cared at all about her feelings.

JStrider · 10-19-2003, 11:32 AM

yah... i dont know for sure that they actually did anything beyond the sitting in lap and holding hands... they were hanging out beforehand and they left together pretty soon after i got there saying they were tired...

i guess ill just keep an eye on them and if i think i should do somethin about it ill talk to him first...

Stare At The Sun · 10-19-2003, 11:35 AM

Yeah, I'd talk to him, but dont talk to her, in the end it is his choice, and by the way, is your avatar from Equilibrium?(SP)

JStrider · 10-19-2003, 11:36 AM

yah its from equilibrium...

Averett · 10-19-2003, 11:58 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by bermuDa
I'd sooner remind HIM that he has a girlfriend than tell her about it.

What bermuDa said

JStrider · 10-19-2003, 01:17 PM

she called to go climbing and he was there too... he was wearing the same clothes as last night...hes usually pretty anal about changing his clothes every day and just stayin clean in general...

*shrug* i dunno...

Johnny Rotten · 10-19-2003, 10:59 PM

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Originally posted by JStrider
she called to go climbing and he was there too... he was wearing the same clothes as last night...hes usually pretty anal about changing his clothes every day and just stayin clean in general...

*shrug* i dunno...

I can take a guess.

Mephisto2 · 10-20-2003, 12:40 AM

Stay out of it.

It's not your business.

Mr Mephisto

JStrider · 10-20-2003, 07:01 AM

yah...

well his girlfriend is back in town now... so... im just gonna stand back and see how the turds tumble...

skysooner · 10-20-2003, 07:45 AM

Getting involved in other's relationships is just asking for trouble. When I was in college, I had two roommates. I had met one of them through my current girlfriend's roommate who was dating one of them. I got unhappy with my dorm situation and moved in.

I was sitting in the apartment one day when there was a knock on the door. It was a girl with a child on her arm that said she was looking for Bill (who she was married to). This was the first time I had heard about a wife (and here he was dating my girlfriend's roommate). I decided to stay out of it, but got drunk one night and mentioned it to the wrong person. It got back to my girlfriend's roommate who told her boyfriend (and denied it the asshole). He ended up putting a crowbar through my windshield, and I had him arrested for vandalism. I ended up living in very temporary quarters until the semester was over. I just don't believe in getting involved in things like that anymore.

prosequence · 10-21-2003, 11:07 AM

If you aren't willing to intervene and stop something from happening, you should not involved after something happens.

lurkette · 10-21-2003, 11:20 AM

I vote for talking to the friend rather than going straight to the girlfriend. One, you only have suspicions, not hard evidence; two, it's his mistake to make; three, if someone went behind my back about something like this and ratted me out for something I may or may not have done to someone else, I'd be super pissed.

canucker · 10-21-2003, 11:39 AM

I would stay out of it. You are just asking for trouble. Maybe those two have an agreement that they can see other people? Maybe they are swingers? Who knows, I would stay out of it.

gabshu · 10-26-2003, 06:08 AM

Definetly talk to him before you do anything. If he comes up with a lame excuse then you can tell him that HE should tell his girl. or you will.

10-19-2003, 10:00 AM	#1 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	Say something or not... Ok last night i went to meet some new people... and my friend seth was there with this girl amy who he met through me kinda... (him and my roomie were drunk here... she called my phone... they got her number off my phone and called her and then started chatting...) but anyways Seth and amy were looking rather close... and now the problem... Seth has a girlfriend who was out of town this weekend... and i dont know if i should say anything to her about it to her or not... my first instinct is to not... its not my relationship, not my business.. dont get involved... just gonna cause drama... but at the same time i think she would want to know... __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

10-19-2003, 10:49 AM	#2 (permalink)
bermuDa don't ignore this--> Location: CA	I'd sooner remind HIM that he has a girlfriend than tell her about it. __________________ I am the very model of a moderator gentleman.

10-19-2003, 10:59 AM	#3 (permalink)
tekaweni It wasnt me Location: Scotland	Well nothing seems to have actually happened, maybe it was just a meeting of minds? I wouldnt do anything yet in case I was wrong, but if things continue he should break off with his current g/f. Should he not, I'd talk to him. Should he continue, I'd consider telling her if I cared at all about her feelings. __________________ If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten

10-19-2003, 11:32 AM	#4 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	yah... i dont know for sure that they actually did anything beyond the sitting in lap and holding hands... they were hanging out beforehand and they left together pretty soon after i got there saying they were tired... i guess ill just keep an eye on them and if i think i should do somethin about it ill talk to him first... __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

10-19-2003, 11:36 AM	#6 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	yah its from equilibrium... __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

10-19-2003, 11:35 AM	#5 (permalink)
Stare At The Sun Eh? Location: Somewhere over the rainbow	Yeah, I'd talk to him, but dont talk to her, in the end it is his choice, and by the way, is your avatar from Equilibrium?(SP)

10-19-2003, 01:17 PM	#8 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	she called to go climbing and he was there too... he was wearing the same clothes as last night...hes usually pretty anal about changing his clothes every day and just stayin clean in general... shrug i dunno... __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

10-20-2003, 12:40 AM	#10 (permalink)
Mephisto2 Junkie	Stay out of it. It's not your business. Mr Mephisto

10-20-2003, 07:01 AM	#11 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	yah... well his girlfriend is back in town now... so... im just gonna stand back and see how the turds tumble... __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

10-20-2003, 07:45 AM	#12 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Getting involved in other's relationships is just asking for trouble. When I was in college, I had two roommates. I had met one of them through my current girlfriend's roommate who was dating one of them. I got unhappy with my dorm situation and moved in. I was sitting in the apartment one day when there was a knock on the door. It was a girl with a child on her arm that said she was looking for Bill (who she was married to). This was the first time I had heard about a wife (and here he was dating my girlfriend's roommate). I decided to stay out of it, but got drunk one night and mentioned it to the wrong person. It got back to my girlfriend's roommate who told her boyfriend (and denied it the asshole). He ended up putting a crowbar through my windshield, and I had him arrested for vandalism. I ended up living in very temporary quarters until the semester was over. I just don't believe in getting involved in things like that anymore.

10-21-2003, 11:07 AM	#13 (permalink)
prosequence Psycho Location: YOUR MOM!!	If you aren't willing to intervene and stop something from happening, you should not involved after something happens. __________________ And now here I stand because of you, Mister Anderson, because of you I'm no longer an agent of the system, because of you I've changed...

10-21-2003, 11:20 AM	#14 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	I vote for talking to the friend rather than going straight to the girlfriend. One, you only have suspicions, not hard evidence; two, it's his mistake to make; three, if someone went behind my back about something like this and ratted me out for something I may or may not have done to someone else, I'd be super pissed. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

10-21-2003, 11:39 AM	#15 (permalink)
canucker Crazy	I would stay out of it. You are just asking for trouble. Maybe those two have an agreement that they can see other people? Maybe they are swingers? Who knows, I would stay out of it. __________________ Go hard or go home; Just don't go home hard.

10-26-2003, 06:08 AM	#16 (permalink)
gabshu Psycho Location: The capital of the free world??	Definetly talk to him before you do anything. If he comes up with a lame excuse then you can tell him that HE should tell his girl. or you will. __________________ Go Kool Aid. OH YEAAHH http://www.retrocrush.com/archive2003/koolaid/