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anti fishstick · 08-10-2003, 07:47 PM

i was debating posting this on tilted sexuality.. but i figure this could be more general..

i recently broke up with my bf and was wondering what you all do to cope with any heartbreaks, etc. it doesnt have to be breaking up but.. losing a loved one, getting laid off, loosing hope, inspiration, ambition.... what do you do when you're down?

i like to sit back with a good sappy movie and let out a much needed tearfest.
go out with friends.. talk it out.
sit on the computer for hours.. chat with people i don't know anonymous to my circle of friends.. talk it out.
post on the tfp

eat a lot of ice cream. hehe.
or..don't eat at all.
sit in my room..listen to music. lay down.
paint pictures... read a book. write in my journal.

i just try to distract myself and carry on i guess. life goes on. but most importantly, i cry when i feel like crying. and i laugh when i feel like laughing. i don't resist my emotions.. i honour them and respect them and just... go with it.

wario · 08-11-2003, 03:41 AM

Work on one of those projects you always meant to get to, but could never find the time for. I've got a ton of those lined up, just waiting for a rainy day.

Silvy · 08-11-2003, 04:08 AM

I sleep alot when I'm down.
Don't think it helps me any though. I'm not much of a talker and I guess sleeping keeps me from having to 'talk' to myself about it.

When not sleeping I usually work on something like wario said. life just goes on for me. But bad things do tend to stick with me for a long time... (probably because of my 'keep shut' way of coping with it)

Sparhawk · 08-11-2003, 06:28 AM

I try to get myself wrapped up in work and my extra-curricular activites. The busier I am (with work), the less I have to think about it. And the more fun I'm having (with my e-c activities), the less I am thinking about it.

Leviathan[NCV] · 08-11-2003, 07:07 AM

Just ignore everything. They tell me it will come back and bite me later in life, but we shall see.

onetime2 · 08-11-2003, 07:20 AM

One of two routes. Either do things that are totally time wasting (going online and checking out every site you have in your favorites) or do things that will take my mind off things. Projects around the house, trips to faraway places, etc.

anti fishstick · 08-11-2003, 09:29 AM

oh yea i take a lot of naps too

cliv · 08-11-2003, 02:56 PM

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Originally posted by Sparhawk
I try to get myself wrapped up in work and my extra-curricular activites. The busier I am (with work), the less I have to think about it. And the more fun I'm having (with my e-c activities), the less I am thinking about it.

That's what works for me too. And after a few days, I can usually think about it with much less pain and with clearer reasoning.

For me, any sleep at all is usually not an option, so keeping busy is my only other choice.

MacGnG · 08-11-2003, 06:57 PM

its kinda funny that people say using drugs to get away from your problems is wrong but gettin lost in work is ok. personnally i dont really know what i do but when it happends i deal. the thing is that no matter what you do, sex, work, drugs, etc..., you are still gonna have the problems when you get back to reality.

so the way i see it is that just do whatever u need to do *without hurting yourself* to get your mind off the subject for a bit, then come back to life and say ok i gotta sit down and deal with this shit.

if you can just realize what you gotta do with out that first step, than u are awsoem and go for it. but i dont think most ppl can.

just my thoughts.

08-10-2003, 07:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	what do you do? i was debating posting this on tilted sexuality.. but i figure this could be more general.. i recently broke up with my bf and was wondering what you all do to cope with any heartbreaks, etc. it doesnt have to be breaking up but.. losing a loved one, getting laid off, loosing hope, inspiration, ambition.... what do you do when you're down? i like to sit back with a good sappy movie and let out a much needed tearfest. go out with friends.. talk it out. sit on the computer for hours.. chat with people i don't know anonymous to my circle of friends.. talk it out. post on the tfp eat a lot of ice cream. hehe. or..don't eat at all. sit in my room..listen to music. lay down. paint pictures... read a book. write in my journal. i just try to distract myself and carry on i guess. life goes on. but most importantly, i cry when i feel like crying. and i laugh when i feel like laughing. i don't resist my emotions.. i honour them and respect them and just... go with it. __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin Last edited by anti fishstick; 08-10-2003 at 07:54 PM..

08-11-2003, 04:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
Silvy paranoid Location: The Netherlands	I sleep alot when I'm down. Don't think it helps me any though. I'm not much of a talker and I guess sleeping keeps me from having to 'talk' to myself about it. When not sleeping I usually work on something like wario said. life just goes on for me. But bad things do tend to stick with me for a long time... (probably because of my 'keep shut' way of coping with it) __________________ "Do not kill. Do not rape. Do not steal. These are principles which every man of every faith can embrace. " - Murphy MacManus (Boondock Saints)

08-11-2003, 06:28 AM	#4 (permalink)
Sparhawk Dubya Location: VA	I try to get myself wrapped up in work and my extra-curricular activites. The busier I am (with work), the less I have to think about it. And the more fun I'm having (with my e-c activities), the less I am thinking about it. __________________ "In Iraq, no doubt about it, it's tough. It's hard work. It's incredibly hard. It's - and it's hard work. I understand how hard it is. I get the casualty reports every day. I see on the TV screens how hard it is. But it's necessary work. We're making progress. It is hard work."

08-11-2003, 07:20 AM	#6 (permalink)
onetime2 Junkie Location: NJ	One of two routes. Either do things that are totally time wasting (going online and checking out every site you have in your favorites) or do things that will take my mind off things. Projects around the house, trips to faraway places, etc. __________________ Strive to be more curious than ignorant.

08-11-2003, 09:29 AM	#7 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	oh yea i take a lot of naps too __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

08-11-2003, 03:41 AM	#2 (permalink)
wario Insane	Work on one of those projects you always meant to get to, but could never find the time for. I've got a ton of those lined up, just waiting for a rainy day.

08-11-2003, 07:07 AM	#5 (permalink)
Leviathan[NCV] Well... Location: afk	Just ignore everything. They tell me it will come back and bite me later in life, but we shall see.

08-11-2003, 06:57 PM	#9 (permalink)
MacGnG Know Where!	its kinda funny that people say using drugs to get away from your problems is wrong but gettin lost in work is ok. personnally i dont really know what i do but when it happends i deal. the thing is that no matter what you do, sex, work, drugs, etc..., you are still gonna have the problems when you get back to reality. so the way i see it is that just do whatever u need to do without hurting yourself to get your mind off the subject for a bit, then come back to life and say ok i gotta sit down and deal with this shit. if you can just realize what you gotta do with out that first step, than u are awsoem and go for it. but i dont think most ppl can. just my thoughts.