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Memalvada · 08-02-2003, 02:42 PM

Hi,

I was just wondering whats is your definition of a 'true friend'. I guess that for me, a true friend is someone in who I can rely on, no matter the circumstances; someone that will help me, and give me advice even if i dont ask for it; someone who will present to me the facts and the truth even if i might not like it.

How bout you?

lurkette · 08-02-2003, 02:51 PM

For me, a true friend is someone who doesn't judge me, who accepts me as I am, and who shares their feelings and is open to me sharing mine. It's someone I can call at 2:30 in the morning if there's a crisis. Someone you can not talk to for 3 days or 3 months and still pick up like no time has passed.

Katyblu · 08-02-2003, 02:55 PM

A true friend is someone who is always there, someone who supports me even though they don't like what I am doing. Someone who will tell me like it is and expect me to be a grown up and make my own decision. Someone I can communicate with about everything and accepts me. Someone that I don't have to talk to everyday... they are there whether its been one week or one year.

spectre · 08-02-2003, 03:03 PM

To me, a true friend is someone who will tell me if I'm about to do something stupid, but at the same time, won't judge me for it. They have to be able to keep things that I say in confidence a secret. They should also be there if there's an emergency.

Sadly, there aren't too many people like that.

AxelF · 08-02-2003, 03:38 PM

We should ask applejack, his mother knows. (According to his thred "spammed" in the newbie section.

Otherwise you're all listing the right qualifications. But I would also like to add that for me a true friend gives you some slack, in the sense that you don't expect too much of each other. We can't live our friendships like a marriages, we need our space and a good friend gives it. Too intense friendships tend to end abbruptly.

With time a friendship with some slack turns into true friendship because there was respect for each others individuality.

Nisses · 08-02-2003, 05:09 PM

a true friend is a part of you, every much as you are a part of him.

redravin40 · 08-02-2003, 06:17 PM

A good friend will come and bail you out when you wind up in jail.
A true friend will be sitting next to you going, "Damn, that was fun."

saucy knave · 08-02-2003, 09:49 PM

A true friend practically becomes family to you, even though you're not related.

BlueBongo · 08-02-2003, 10:22 PM

a true friend is honest, non-judging, understanding, and is very much a part of me. (gotta agree with saucy on that one)

Cynthetiq · 08-02-2003, 11:24 PM

a true friend? my wife.... sick, healthy, rich, poor, angry, happy, handsome, ugly, stinky, perfumey, smart, stupid.....

Konichiwaneko · 08-03-2003, 12:23 AM

a true friend loses the label. He's a brother by then.

rainheart · 08-03-2003, 12:52 PM

Someone who will never sell you out at any opportunity.

koli70 · 08-03-2003, 02:04 PM

Just someone who is there to listen to you. That you can talk to about anything or nothing. Someone u can trust will always be honest. Someone that loves you no matter what even if u like DBZ

Slims · 08-03-2003, 02:54 PM

A true friend is someone who is there for you when you need them with no strings attached.

Rodney · 08-03-2003, 03:27 PM

I agree, a true friend is like a brother or sister. If you don't see them for a month or year or five years, it doesn't matter; the moment you do see them, it's like no time passed.

Had one like that in high school, we were friends for 20 years even though we lived 200 miles apart much of that time. He's dead now, dammit.

How do you get to be friends that way? By going through a lot of stuff together, helping each other out, sharing a lot of good times and bad, always being there for each other when the other calls. Over time the two of you might grow apart in interests, but it doesn't matter; by that time you've got so much shared history and trust that you're part of each other. Like a brother or sister.

MSD · 08-03-2003, 11:03 PM

A true friend will help you bury a body and not ask questions.

Konichiwaneko · 08-03-2003, 11:33 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Rodney
I agree, a true friend is like a brother or sister. If you don't see them for a month or year or five years, it doesn't matter; the moment you do see them, it's like no time passed.

Had one like that in high school, we were friends for 20 years even though we lived 200 miles apart much of that time. He's dead now, dammit.

How do you get to be friends that way? By going through a lot of stuff together, helping each other out, sharing a lot of good times and bad, always being there for each other when the other calls. Over time the two of you might grow apart in interests, but it doesn't matter; by that time you've got so much shared history and trust that you're part of each other. Like a brother or sister.

Your friend obviously lives in you, and that...is true.

Shades · 08-04-2003, 09:38 AM

Friends help you move. Real friends help you move bodies.

irseg · 08-04-2003, 10:11 AM

Damn, I was going to say what I thought of the matter, but everyone else pretty much nailed it. Sometimes it's creepy how much my true friends know about me, they'll know how I will react to a given situation before I do sometimes. And vice versa.

It's just a shame they are so few & far between. I know a bunch of people to kill time with if I have nothing better to do, but when it comes to true friends who I genuinely trust, I have two. And at the moment, the closest one is 1200 miles away. Costs me a fortune in plane tickets and phone bills, but it's well worth it.

mingusfingers · 08-04-2003, 01:39 PM

We have fun together, enjoy hanging around, and respect each other.

nowthen · 08-04-2003, 06:26 PM

I saw my friend a couple of months back, before that I had'nt seen him in over a year. It was like no time had passed at all. Thats when I knew he was my best friend.

Minx · 08-05-2003, 08:03 AM

A true friend is someone who is always with you even if they are miles away. Someone who can laugh and cry with you, someone you can relax and be yourself with without having to watch what you say or do. A true friend is there at three in the morning when you need a ride home. A true friend will listen to you, console and comfort you even if they disagree with you. A true friend will be honest without being cruel, supportive without being smothering, and will accept you for who you are not who you think you should be.
True friends are golden.

Double D · 08-05-2003, 10:22 AM

As corny as it sounds, when I was a kid, I liked this saying about friendship:

A friend is the first to be at your side, and the last to leave.

giblfiz · 08-05-2003, 01:12 PM

a true freind will take a bullet for you.

BentNotTwisted · 08-05-2003, 02:09 PM

Just about all the comments here apply to me. The one that applies the most is a friend I see rarely, but when I do see them or talk to them it's like we just talked the day before. My Best Man at my wedding is like that. We talk a couple of times each year, but it's always a great chat. Last month he called me and asked me for ideas on how to propose marriage to his girlfriend. So I guess another way to describe a true friend is someone who asks for your advice when they are going to do something very important. They might not take the advice, but at least they thought you were special enough to ask.

Mad_Gecko · 08-05-2003, 02:15 PM

My true Friends are too scattered now.

They are men I can say "I love you" to and understand, and they are women that I say "I love you" and not worry about sex.

Unfortunately they are few and far between.

When I was told as a child you will be lucky to have more than two true friends, I thought they were joking. Now I know I'm so very lucky.

Dedicated to those who love me.

gnort · 08-05-2003, 08:50 PM

I think i only have one "true friend" and i havent seen/talked to her in almost 2 weeks...it's getting kinda lonely

MacGnG · 08-05-2003, 10:14 PM

to me it's someone that you can always trust, someone who is there for you, someone who will just understand.

Quote:

Originally posted by spectre
Sadly, there aren't too many people like that.

so true...

laxative · 08-05-2003, 11:25 PM

yesterday i helped a guy spread gravel on his driveway. This morning he showed up and mowed my lawn.

frozenstellar · 08-06-2003, 05:06 AM

a person who is there for the good times - but is with you when shit hits the fan. i have only one true friend, and damn am i glad i have her. i cant imagine not having her there.

agentsmith · 08-06-2003, 09:51 AM

to me the most important thing in a friendship is loyalty. I've lost too many friends and I've noticed that a lack of loyalty is the big issue.

fuzzix · 08-11-2003, 04:44 AM

Someone who I actually like, who does their best to respect my beliefs and eccentricities. And who is dead honest.

GoldenOuroboros · 08-11-2003, 05:08 AM

and eccentricities you have fuzz..

Someone who's able to discuss things outside their world and not hound you for it. Someone who can respect you and give advice.. And someone who can take a good joke every now and then

s8ins child · 08-11-2003, 06:07 AM

A true friend will give you weed for free!

nash · 08-11-2003, 07:33 AM

A true friend is someone who if they have a problem, I'll listen and offer up solutions and if it's ok with them, I'll "fix it myself". And if not, I'll stick with them til the end. If they're in trouble, I'll protect them, stick up for them, and hide them if it comes to that. If someone is "messing" with them, I'll "take care of it".

I think a true friend to me is not about what they can offer you, but about what you're willing to sacrifice for them. How they get to that point with me is different for different people. In the end, I think it's all about loyalty and trust.

dragon2fire · 08-11-2003, 08:11 AM

a friend is some one who will help you move. a true friend who help you move dead bodys

nullPointer · 08-11-2003, 10:37 AM

dragon2fire...very funny, never heard that before...

A true friend is someone with whom you can be completely honest and whom you know will give you honest input.

Jaseca · 08-12-2003, 05:37 PM

A friend will bail you out of jail, a true friend will be in jail with you.

Othello · 08-13-2003, 04:18 PM

- Someone who would put everything aside to help you out when needed,
- Will not be the one who call just when they need something from you,
- Someone who you can open your soul too.

wry1 · 08-23-2003, 11:52 AM

Simply put: a "True" friend is a person who you feel is as much a part of yourself as is possible. Someone who, when you're not around, you feel the loss of.

But as for me, I always went with the same one dragon2fire went with....

A friend will help you move; a true friend will help you move the body.

08-02-2003, 02:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
Memalvada Psycho Location: South of the border	Define 'true friend' Hi, I was just wondering whats is your definition of a 'true friend'. I guess that for me, a true friend is someone in who I can rely on, no matter the circumstances; someone that will help me, and give me advice even if i dont ask for it; someone who will present to me the facts and the truth even if i might not like it. How bout you? __________________ "The weak are food for the strong, so die and let me feast!" - Makoto Shishio (RK)

08-02-2003, 02:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	For me, a true friend is someone who doesn't judge me, who accepts me as I am, and who shares their feelings and is open to me sharing mine. It's someone I can call at 2:30 in the morning if there's a crisis. Someone you can not talk to for 3 days or 3 months and still pick up like no time has passed. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

08-02-2003, 03:03 PM	#4 (permalink)
spectre Junkie	To me, a true friend is someone who will tell me if I'm about to do something stupid, but at the same time, won't judge me for it. They have to be able to keep things that I say in confidence a secret. They should also be there if there's an emergency. Sadly, there aren't too many people like that. __________________ "Fuck these chains No goddamn slave I will be different" ~ Machine Head

08-02-2003, 03:38 PM	#5 (permalink)
AxelF Crazy Location: Europe	We should ask applejack, his mother knows. (According to his thred "spammed" in the newbie section. Otherwise you're all listing the right qualifications. But I would also like to add that for me a true friend gives you some slack, in the sense that you don't expect too much of each other. We can't live our friendships like a marriages, we need our space and a good friend gives it. Too intense friendships tend to end abbruptly. With time a friendship with some slack turns into true friendship because there was respect for each others individuality. __________________ Coffee

08-02-2003, 05:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
Nisses Shade Location: Belgium	a true friend is a part of you, every much as you are a part of him. __________________ Moderation should be moderately moderated.

08-02-2003, 02:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
Katyblu Crazy Location: Here and there and everywhere	A true friend is someone who is always there, someone who supports me even though they don't like what I am doing. Someone who will tell me like it is and expect me to be a grown up and make my own decision. Someone I can communicate with about everything and accepts me. Someone that I don't have to talk to everyday... they are there whether its been one week or one year.

08-02-2003, 06:17 PM	#7 (permalink)
redravin40 Loser Location: With Jadzia	A good friend will come and bail you out when you wind up in jail. A true friend will be sitting next to you going, "Damn, that was fun."

08-02-2003, 09:49 PM	#8 (permalink)
saucy knave Tilted Location: West Siiide	A true friend practically becomes family to you, even though you're not related.

08-02-2003, 11:24 PM	#10 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	a true friend? my wife.... sick, healthy, rich, poor, angry, happy, handsome, ugly, stinky, perfumey, smart, stupid..... __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

08-03-2003, 12:23 AM	#11 (permalink)
Konichiwaneko The Dreaded Pixel Nazi Location: Inside my camera	a true friend loses the label. He's a brother by then. __________________ Hesitate. Pull me in. Breath on breath. Skin on skin. Loving deep. Falling fast. All right here. Let this last. Here with our lips locked tight. Baby the time is right for us... to forget about us.

08-03-2003, 12:52 PM	#12 (permalink)
rainheart Psycho	Someone who will never sell you out at any opportunity.

08-03-2003, 02:04 PM	#13 (permalink)
koli70 Crazy Location: South Dakota	Just someone who is there to listen to you. That you can talk to about anything or nothing. Someone u can trust will always be honest. Someone that loves you no matter what even if u like DBZ __________________ Woman is a danger cat

08-03-2003, 02:54 PM	#14 (permalink)
Slims Eccentric insomniac Location: North Carolina	A true friend is someone who is there for you when you need them with no strings attached. __________________ "Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill "All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." Seven Pillars of Wisdom, T.E. Lawrence

08-03-2003, 03:27 PM	#15 (permalink)
Rodney Observant Ruminant Location: Rich Wannabe Hippie Town	I agree, a true friend is like a brother or sister. If you don't see them for a month or year or five years, it doesn't matter; the moment you do see them, it's like no time passed. Had one like that in high school, we were friends for 20 years even though we lived 200 miles apart much of that time. He's dead now, dammit. How do you get to be friends that way? By going through a lot of stuff together, helping each other out, sharing a lot of good times and bad, always being there for each other when the other calls. Over time the two of you might grow apart in interests, but it doesn't matter; by that time you've got so much shared history and trust that you're part of each other. Like a brother or sister.

08-03-2003, 11:03 PM	#16 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	A true friend will help you bury a body and not ask questions.

08-04-2003, 09:38 AM	#18 (permalink)
Shades Insane	Friends help you move. Real friends help you move bodies.

08-04-2003, 10:11 AM	#19 (permalink)
irseg Junkie Location: Florida	Damn, I was going to say what I thought of the matter, but everyone else pretty much nailed it. Sometimes it's creepy how much my true friends know about me, they'll know how I will react to a given situation before I do sometimes. And vice versa. It's just a shame they are so few & far between. I know a bunch of people to kill time with if I have nothing better to do, but when it comes to true friends who I genuinely trust, I have two. And at the moment, the closest one is 1200 miles away. Costs me a fortune in plane tickets and phone bills, but it's well worth it.

08-04-2003, 01:39 PM	#20 (permalink)
mingusfingers Psycho Location: uhhhh	We have fun together, enjoy hanging around, and respect each other. __________________ Still Looking

08-04-2003, 06:26 PM	#21 (permalink)
nowthen Insane Location: Republic of Panama	I saw my friend a couple of months back, before that I had'nt seen him in over a year. It was like no time had passed at all. Thats when I knew he was my best friend. __________________ "People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them." George Bernard Shaw

08-05-2003, 08:03 AM	#22 (permalink)
Minx Junkie Location: Up yonder	A true friend is someone who is always with you even if they are miles away. Someone who can laugh and cry with you, someone you can relax and be yourself with without having to watch what you say or do. A true friend is there at three in the morning when you need a ride home. A true friend will listen to you, console and comfort you even if they disagree with you. A true friend will be honest without being cruel, supportive without being smothering, and will accept you for who you are not who you think you should be. True friends are golden. __________________ You've been a naughty boy....go to my room!

08-05-2003, 10:22 AM	#23 (permalink)
Double D Junkie Location: Chicagoland	As corny as it sounds, when I was a kid, I liked this saying about friendship: A friend is the first to be at your side, and the last to leave.

08-05-2003, 01:12 PM	#24 (permalink)
giblfiz is a shoggoth Location: LA	a true freind will take a bullet for you. __________________ Use the star one and you'll be fighting off the old ones with your bare hands -A Shoggoth on the Roof

08-05-2003, 02:09 PM	#25 (permalink)
BentNotTwisted Optimistic Skeptic Location: Midway between a Beehive and Centennial	Just about all the comments here apply to me. The one that applies the most is a friend I see rarely, but when I do see them or talk to them it's like we just talked the day before. My Best Man at my wedding is like that. We talk a couple of times each year, but it's always a great chat. Last month he called me and asked me for ideas on how to propose marriage to his girlfriend. So I guess another way to describe a true friend is someone who asks for your advice when they are going to do something very important. They might not take the advice, but at least they thought you were special enough to ask. __________________ IS THAT IT ???!!! Do you even know what 'it' is? When the last man dies for just words that he said... We Shall Be Free

08-05-2003, 02:15 PM	#26 (permalink)
Mad_Gecko Pro Libertate Location: City Gecko	My true Friends are too scattered now. They are men I can say "I love you" to and understand, and they are women that I say "I love you" and not worry about sex. Unfortunately they are few and far between. When I was told as a child you will be lucky to have more than two true friends, I thought they were joking. Now I know I'm so very lucky. Dedicated to those who love me. __________________ [color=bright blue]W[/color]e Stick To Glass "If three of us travel together, I shall find two teachers." Confucious

08-05-2003, 08:50 PM	#27 (permalink)
gnort Psycho Location: MA	I think i only have one "true friend" and i havent seen/talked to her in almost 2 weeks...it's getting kinda lonely __________________ You had me at Qapla'

08-05-2003, 11:25 PM	#29 (permalink)
laxative Loser Location: the bathroom	yesterday i helped a guy spread gravel on his driveway. This morning he showed up and mowed my lawn.

08-06-2003, 05:06 AM	#30 (permalink)
frozenstellar Without Wings Location: Australia	a person who is there for the good times - but is with you when shit hits the fan. i have only one true friend, and damn am i glad i have her. i cant imagine not having her there.

08-06-2003, 09:51 AM	#31 (permalink)
agentsmith Crazy	to me the most important thing in a friendship is loyalty. I've lost too many friends and I've noticed that a lack of loyalty is the big issue.

08-11-2003, 04:44 AM	#32 (permalink)
fuzzix Psycho Location: Australia	Someone who I actually like, who does their best to respect my beliefs and eccentricities. And who is dead honest. __________________ I'm most definately not 'lovin' it'.

08-11-2003, 05:08 AM	#33 (permalink)
GoldenOuroboros The Cheshire Grin... Location: An Aussie Outback	and eccentricities you have fuzz.. Someone who's able to discuss things outside their world and not hound you for it. Someone who can respect you and give advice.. And someone who can take a good joke every now and then __________________ Can you see me grin grin grrriiiiinnnning?!

08-11-2003, 06:07 AM	#34 (permalink)
s8ins child Tilted	A true friend will give you weed for free!

08-11-2003, 07:33 AM	#35 (permalink)
nash Psycho	A true friend is someone who if they have a problem, I'll listen and offer up solutions and if it's ok with them, I'll "fix it myself". And if not, I'll stick with them til the end. If they're in trouble, I'll protect them, stick up for them, and hide them if it comes to that. If someone is "messing" with them, I'll "take care of it". I think a true friend to me is not about what they can offer you, but about what you're willing to sacrifice for them. How they get to that point with me is different for different people. In the end, I think it's all about loyalty and trust.

08-11-2003, 08:11 AM	#36 (permalink)
dragon2fire Junkie	a friend is some one who will help you move. a true friend who help you move dead bodys

08-11-2003, 10:37 AM	#37 (permalink)
nullPointer Upright	dragon2fire...very funny, never heard that before... A true friend is someone with whom you can be completely honest and whom you know will give you honest input.

08-12-2003, 05:37 PM	#38 (permalink)
Jaseca Tilted	A friend will bail you out of jail, a true friend will be in jail with you.