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Old 07-02-2011, 10:37 AM   #1 (permalink)
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First Date

So its been a while for me, going on a date and crap. Well I finally landed one. Unfortunately I really don't know what to do for it. All I have is this kick ass Sushi place in mind, and this youtube video.

youtube.com/watch?v=PGlUSgR6uEs

Any advice is welcome
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Old 07-02-2011, 10:54 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Well now, my generic advice is to ask her how she feels about sodomy before marriage.

And let me know if she answers affirmative to the first question and likes Hall & Oates.

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I'm confused. Is this a trick question? Vague "what do I do" plus YouTube hilarity = ???

You'll have to talk more about yourself and the girl. We need history, personalities, etc.
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Old 07-02-2011, 10:59 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Advice? How about trying not to appear at all like a spammer?
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:01 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Good question.

Do spammers usually go all out with the avatar, location and About Me tab?
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:06 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Usually? No. Sometimes? Yes.

Hobbes, I'm not saying this is spam so much as spamish.
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:07 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Maybe he was trying to be funny by putting that youtube video there? Sort of like loosening the mood, but completely misplaced? (Don't open youtube links here since Afghanistan's internet is too crap, so I don't know the content of the video.)

I'd love to give him tips on his first date, but I've never been to one. Which still seems odd, now that my fiancée and I are having our first anniversary since getting engaged in 2 months time.
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:09 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I browsed through that one convo on the Tilted Sexuality Board, the one with sclose, and getting the ladies, seems like I might be getting some of that same treatment, simply for sharing a funny youtube video, and trying to start a conversation.

That youtube video was supposed to be an invite to a joke here and there, like what Plan9 did there.

I also gotta say, I like how Jazz is all about spam blocking. That is honestly what I mostly have seen him do. Of course its my first day, and this my third post, calm down, I will find the groove of this place eventually.
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:09 AM   #8 (permalink)
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what are you like 14?
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:11 AM   #9 (permalink)
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what are you like 14?
Naw man, I'm a 23 year old loser, who asks forums for dating advice.
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:12 AM   #10 (permalink)
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yes, we're very aggressive about spam blocking. BE AGRESSIVE. BE BE AGRESSIVE!

Sadly there isn't much room for us to interpret fun and sarcasm in text. Sometimes it just gets lost in the transmission.

23 is a good age. I remember it well.

you gotta start someplace.

Did you not date when you were in high school?
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:17 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Well not to worry, I hate spammers as much as the next guy. Its just kind of funny, one youtube link and all of a sudden theres a vote for a crucifixion.

---------- Post added at 02:17 PM ---------- Previous post was at 02:15 PM ----------

That was actually sarcasm, I'm 21, home schooled for a bit, then for my last two years of high school, I went to an all guys Catholic boarding school. Life really has not fed me a whole lot of time with women, I blame my mother, for being so damn religious.
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:17 AM   #12 (permalink)
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I like my jokes to be , ya know, funny, but maybe I'm weird like that.

Hobbes, if you know anything about me, you should have already figured out that grinding up against me isn't a constructive use of your time. But maybe I'm just being overly sensitive due to a lack of sleep.
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Old 07-02-2011, 11:22 AM   #13 (permalink)
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I'm sorry if you felt like I was grinding against you man, I tend to be a tad snide to authority figures when I first meet them. I also don't swing that way...
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Old 07-02-2011, 02:31 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Old 07-02-2011, 07:03 PM   #15 (permalink)
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I'm glad I'm drunk.

Otherwise, this thread would be a prime of example of something that Lasereth and/or Manic Skafe would use as Exhibit A in the Murder of TFP trial.
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Old 07-02-2011, 07:11 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I'm glad you have drunk to use as an excuse. TFP isn't murderable.
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Old 07-02-2011, 08:19 PM   #17 (permalink)
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100% serious answer to the OP. Go bowling. You suck at bowling, she probably sucksat bowling, there's abundant beer, and the whole game or two lets you guys open up about yourselves because you both suck or are average at bowling and it gives you a lot to tease each other, make fun of yourselves, and make pseudo-innocent ball jokes.
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Old 07-02-2011, 10:49 PM   #18 (permalink)
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I fucking love first dates. They're exciting, nerve-racking, incredibly important and yet at the same time silly. The best first date I ever went on was at an out of the way coffee shop that's never really that busy, but that has outstanding coffee. I just asked her to coffee and two days later we spent like 3 hours just talking and having fun over coffee. While a creative date idea can be fun, what makes a date is a mutual emotional/intellectual/humorous/attraction connection. Having a great conversation with an interesting and beautiful person you're just getting to know is a blast.

All that having been said, go out to local restaurants of varying price just to get an idea of where to take a date. Be a local tourist and explore the place you live. Do you live near the beach? Do you have some interesting museums? Any hiking? How about about clubs and other nightlife locations? My only specific advice would be to avoid movies and other performances for a first date. Save those for later, after you've gotten to know each other, just as time to spend in close proximity facing the same direction instead of facing one another.
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Old 07-03-2011, 04:36 AM   #19 (permalink)
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Along the lines of MSD's bowling suggestion, fly a kite.

Go to a hobby store and find a simple, inexpensive kite. Pack a cooler with wine, cheese, artisan bread, and other sandwich fixings. Don't forget a comfortable blanket, just large enough to sit comfortably together to chit-chat. Look for a state park with a beach or a large grassy area, preferably with sail boats or occasional people - someplace where crowds won't be too big, with wide open spaces to fly the kite, but plenty of distractions to give you things to discuss.
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Old 07-03-2011, 07:25 AM   #20 (permalink)
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100% serious answer to the OP. Go bowling. You suck at bowling, she probably sucksat bowling, there's abundant beer, and the whole game or two lets you guys open up about yourselves because you both suck or are average at bowling and it gives you a lot to tease each other, make fun of yourselves, and make pseudo-innocent ball jokes.
I totally agree! My first date that was really a date--not going to a dance or whatever--was bowling and we had a fantastic time. We then had dinner and went minigolfing. Minigolfing is another good idea. It's always fun.

Personally, I never liked going to movies on dates. You don't get a chance to talk to your date at all. However, if you have a hard time talking with girls, going to a movie then out for dessert gives you something to chat about while you're eating.
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Old 07-10-2011, 02:23 PM   #21 (permalink)
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My first date with the man I loved - and whos memory I still do - drink with a couple of friends in the local pub - or one of them. We left one pub and walked down the road to another, decided we preferred the first one, and last orders were just about to be called, so we ran, he with his 6ft 2 athletic built, me near a foot shorter - level with a bank he stopped and turned to wait for me, not realising how close I was, as he opened his arms to catch me, I ploughed into him and he went down on the pavement. There was this horrible echoing thunk. Said he was okay though, and we still made it before time. He offered to walk me home, and on the way we stopped, and he picked me up and stood me on a bench and kissed me on the mouth - then, pulling away he told me he had known it would be special. On the way home I noticed he was walking with one foot on the pavement, and the other in peoples fenced off front gardens - long legs you see. If you are reading this over my shoulder Tim, the answer is 'moderately, and of course I will never forget so long as I still have me marbles. You know I do - I would love to push your hair back at the temples just once more. I miss you, and would welcome the kick up the arse you will undoubtedly decide I deserve besauce I am most certainly not running at life like you told me it was for my dearest,
Sorry op - what does she like and yourself. Ask her if she uses iodine on cuts ever and what was it like (if you have seafood allergies, you cant use iodine - descrete way of finding out if she is sea food tollerant after bowling without it being because she has done a champion hurl across the table).
I know this is a tad outdated - rather like myself - a gentleman should treat a woman as a lady - unless she shows herself to be otherwise. Little courtesys mean a lot as they seem to be becoming rare.
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