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Xerxys 09-01-2010 09:38 PM

^^ Dude, you have no idea, Plan9 is the blackest dude I have ever come to cybernetically know!

Wes Mantooth 09-01-2010 09:53 PM

I never understood why race would ever factor in to who you date, its not like you can tell somebodies personality from the color of their skin. I'm white guy, would and have dated outside my race and haven't really found that I find any one group more attractive then any other. People are so different from one another that I would think it impossible to dismiss an entire race of people from dating pool simply based on something like skin color or what have you.

Look all I know is after dating or at least being with women from many different races/ethnic backgrounds there is one thing that will never change no matter what the racial barrier. Ball busting, battle axes with a daddy complex come in all shapes, sizes and color. (okay, and so do the cool ones)

The_Jazz 09-02-2010 04:40 AM

It should come as no surprise that Plan9 is as black as my cold, dead heart.

That said, cwazy1, you should probably be very careful about potentially racist comments on a board dominated by college-educated African-Americans. Especially ones that only wear the color red.

Martian 09-02-2010 05:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Baraka_Guru (Post 2819285)
Also, Toronto is hella multicultural. There are all kinds of mixed marriages, mixed races, etc., going on. It's all good. We even have same sex marriage, so it's happening like you wouldn't believe.

I encountered a gay married couple with their young child on the streetcar the other day. The child didn't appear to be corrupted into a twisted evil hellspawn by their influence, but he was no more than 18 months so it might have just bee too soon.

The_Jazz 09-02-2010 06:06 AM

He needs 6-8 months to become hellspawn, Martian.

Amaras 09-02-2010 06:17 AM

Long live diversity!

StanT 09-02-2010 06:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Plan9 (Post 2819289)
I live in America, Baraka. Here in America men fight over the 1 in 10 (25?) women that can do a pullup and run 3+ miles without dying.

I'm thinking 1 in 25 might be generous.

I'm not sure my wife can do a pullup; but she can keep up with me on skis. She also rides her own motorcycle and carries a backpack for 10+ miles by choice.

Works for me.

She's utterly Caucasian; but that has more to do with whom I met than any preference.

Plan9 09-02-2010 06:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by StanT (Post 2819593)
I'm thinking 1 in 25 might be generous.

I'm not sure my wife can do a pullup; but she can keep up with me on skis. She also rides her own motorcycle and carries a backpack for 10+ miles by choice.

Totally, bro; I was thinking about that after I posted it. America has a lot of weaklings and most women seem to have this odd phobia around weightlifting and are afraid of gaining any muscle whatsoever ("I want to be feminine" is almost always their argument) because they've got zero clue that they won't bulk up like a man. Thus they hit the 15 pound dumbbells as their max and are completely incapable of doing any real work.

Oooo, all this talk of athletic women gets me excited. Like maybe I should start a thread about picking up girls at martial arts schools.

Something about a strong woman trying to choke me out on the floor in a sweaty gi makes me tingly.

Amaras 09-02-2010 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Plan9 (Post 2819598)
Totally, bro; I was thinking about that after I posted it. America has a lot of weaklings and most women seem to have this odd phobia around weightlifting and are afraid of gaining any muscle whatsoever ("I want to be feminine" is almost always their argument) because they've got zero clue that they won't bulk up like a man. Thus they hit the 15 pound dumbbells as their max and are completely incapable of doing any real work.

Oooo, all this talk of athletic women gets me excited. Like maybe I should start a thread about picking up girls at martial arts schools.

Something about a strong woman trying to choke me out on the floor in a sweaty gi makes me tingly.

Careful, that type of thinking killed Michael Hutchence (INXS).

Plan9 09-02-2010 07:07 AM

I said trying. It's no fun if I don't win.

Amaras 09-02-2010 07:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Plan9 (Post 2819605)
I said trying. It's no fun if I don't win.

Losing can be okay, if you have pay penance.........

StanT 09-02-2010 08:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Plan9 (Post 2819598)
Oooo, all this talk of athletic women gets me excited. Like maybe I should start a thread about picking up girls at martial arts schools.

Something about a strong woman trying to choke me out on the floor in a sweaty gi makes me tingly.

You've been stalking me? :eek::eek:


I met my wife in a judo class.

Sadman 09-02-2010 08:53 AM

Love is wherever you find it, or wherever it finds you, if you're open to it. Restricting your parameters, to certain races, colors, etc, seems somewhat self-defeating, although most of us probably do it, to a certain degree subconsciously. If the chemistry is right, you should just go for it.

Cimarron29414 09-02-2010 09:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Martian (Post 2819589)
I encountered a gay married couple with their young child on the streetcar the other day. The child didn't appear to be corrupted into a twisted evil hellspawn by their influence, but he was no more than 18 months so it might have just bee too soon.

I read a comprehensive study a couple of months ago which statistically concluded that children raised with same sex parents are FAR less likely to grow up homosexual than children raised to heterosexual parents.

Xerxys 09-02-2010 09:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414 (Post 2819644)
I read a comprehensive study a couple of months ago which statistically concluded that children raised with same sex parents are FAR less likely to grow up homosexual than children raised to heterosexual parents.

Now I don't think that study was at all accurate because being gay has nothing to do with how you are raised. It's usually in your head. Not psychologically in your head, more like your brain is wired differently.

Leto 09-02-2010 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by The_Jazz (Post 2819286)
Baraka, we're talking about PEOPLE, not Canadians.

ooo very ouch!

lostgirl 09-02-2010 12:13 PM

Race has never influenced who I have found attractive.

I have dated many different races, and types.

One of the most attractive men I dated, is a guy that looks like an Indian (from India) Johnny Depp. I love how he spikes his hair. Too bad he's a major player, he still wants to date, but I am currently taken.

I am currently with a Italian/Polish man, he is different than any man I have ever dated. I love his fire, and super sexy romanesque body.

I have noticed, I have a fetish for men with big noses. I call them noble noses.

Plan9 09-02-2010 12:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lostgirl (Post 2819699)
I have noticed, I have a fetish for men with big noses. I call them noble noses.

That's funny, I've got a thing for women with large noses.

Terrell 09-03-2010 06:24 AM

I don't hold race against a woman when it comes to dating them. Being at least somewhat good looking with a good personality is what matters first & foremost.

I have dated more Caucasian women, than women of any other race, but that's largely a matter of which women have said yes the most overall.

TheDragonlady 09-07-2010 06:44 PM

I'm a woman and I've dated outside my race. I dated a Chinese man from Beijing who I found very attractive but ultimately we didn't click. There are some hot Asian guys out there! I usually date white men but have dated Pakistani, Persian, Swedish, Dutch, Hispanic and Black men. I guess if I had to choose, I'm primarily physically attracted to white men, but personality is what will ultimately win me over.

Just have confidence in yourself and know there are always girls who are shallow out there. But there ARE girls who find Asian men attractive - especially if they have great personalities.

robot_parade 09-07-2010 07:06 PM

I don't have anything against elves, but I'd never date one. Does that make me a racist?

chelle21689 10-04-2010 09:02 AM

I'm Asian (Chinese, Filipino, Thai) and I used to only really be attracted to black guys. Their whole look, the darker skin, not the stereotypical black guy though lol. But over the few years I've noticed I started liking other races with dark skin whether black or not. Well, now I don't really care and I find other guys attractive and it's not really determined by their race. I still think I have a preference for guys that are darker skinned than me. I've been attracted to all races. I guess if I have to break it down with the amount of guys I used to like it'd be black, latino, asian and white is about the same level haha. My bf is black but I didn't date him cuz of his race...I didn't even like him like that when he kept trying to talk to me, until I got to know him a lot better.

G5_Todd 10-04-2010 09:02 PM

I would date a girl of any race...It's all about attraction...typically I am mostly attracted to girls of my own race...but asian is a close second followed by hispanic...

passthru 10-11-2010 01:32 AM

All races have uglies. It's that simple.

Personally, I admit I have developed a bit of prejudice towards the French, but it's only by chance; most of the (very few) French I've known have had a weird personality defect. But then again, remember when our wonderful government disliked the name "French fries"? I guess I hate us sometimes, too..

pan6467 01-15-2011 10:33 PM

I stumbled upon this and thought I'd throw in my 2 cents.

I am attracted to intelligent, caring females..... race/age/culture (economic class)/religion/political views have never had anything to do with my attraction for them. I have been attracted to white, hispanic, ebony, asian, older, younger, of different culture, religion and so on. The reason being is I hope they can teach me about the differences of our upbringings and my own culture, thus rounding me even more.

What would get me back in my younger days would be to see male and female alike say, "I only date this race, so I can't be prejudice." My feeling was that in itself was prejudicial because they limited themselves to a specific ethnicity/race/religion/etc. And limiting yourself to who you allow yourself to fall in love with is ridiculous and doing yourself a severe injustice, as love, IMHO, truly is blind.

Perhaps this idea stems from one of my first crushes. The girl/lady stated she could only date a certain religion's boys/men because of her family's belief. Thus ending any hope I thought I had with her. It really opened my 9th grade eyes as to how selfish and difficult dating outside of culture can be.


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