Who does the driving?
 

I'm curious to know, who in your relationship does the majority of the driving, and in couples that have two cars, whose car do you take?

Personally, I do the majority of the driving. It seems a bit backwards from what my parents do, and what my SO's parents do. Even if they're taking "her" car, my SO's dad drives. My parents only have one car, and my dad does most of the driving. I drive because I have the better car and more experience behind the wheel than my SO. Honestly, I'm also the better driver. My SO prefers to ride his bike everywhere and acknowledges that he's rusty behind the wheel as a result. We have two cars at the moment, but he's going to sell his.

So how about you? Please forgive the limitations of the poll. If you're single at the moment, respond as to how you prefer it to be when you are in a relationship.

If we're together I do the driving. My wife is horrible with directions. She's not comfortable in crowded traffic so I do it since I'm comfortable and she's more comfortable that way. Most of the time we're in our own vehicles. Both are mine, but she likes the Jeep the best (dumb! I tried to buy her an infinity she didn't want it) so I take the other one.

I almost always drive regardless of what vehicle we are using or with the kids or not. She doesn't mind being a passenger and I usually like to drive so it works out.

I've driven regularly for ovr 20 years, and am totally happy with it, alone or in company.

My wife has passed her test and is insured on our car, but has never been a regular driver (before she moved to London she didn't have enough money for a car, when she lived in London she didn't need a car, she moved out of London to move in with me).

Where's the "we drive equally" option?

Not that I need it right now, but still.

I do more of the driving, though we try to even it out. If we have kids, then we definitely plan to make sure we're both seen driving frequently. It always bugged me as a kid that my dad always drove when my parents went somewhere.

For a while, I just let him drive.
If given the option, my husband would happily drive every time.
Then I started to miss driving.
So now we switch it up.

Now he appreciates not driving sometimes. When he's feeling especially lazy, he can sit in the passanger seat and play video games, listen to the radio, or carry the conversation while I focus on driving. When we go out with friends, I'll always drive. He enjoys the freedom to chat with friends and the added plus of drinking a beer or two.

I'm not very good with directions, but with my trusty co-pilot at my side (or a GPS), I'm usually just fine.
I'm not as bad with crowded city traffic as I once was. Though a stream of bright oncoming lights does occasionally mess with my eyes.

I do most of the driving when going here and there. Road trips I drive as after 30mins in the passenger seat, I'm falling asleep and not much company...LOL!

We don't use the car often and I miss driving. I don't miss sitting in traffic I miss driving. I miss long, winding, wandering drives. This is why sometimes we drive to Philly for Pat's King of Steaks Cheesesteaks or have been known to go to Maryland for crabs.

She rarely drives, only if I'm tired and we have a deadline to get to the destination. Otherwise she's just fine sitting in the passenger seat.

I drive more often than my wife. She doesn't like driving that much. She gets really stressed out in traffic. She prefers to navigate. I wouldn't mind being a passenger though.

I do all the driving. I don't mind. I like to drive and she could do without it so it works well.

I like to drive, and have been carless for most of my 42 years, so when we are going somewhere, usually I'll drive. Also her ex, always made her drive (cause he's an asshat), so she's happy to let me. I'm the better navigator, (go figure, lol), so if we are going somewhere complicated or into another city, she'll drive so I can study the maps.

I love to drive-I've driven as far west as Colorado more than once, drive to Tennessee and NC several times (over 600 miles one way). Unfortunately, I am married to someone who grew up with the notion that the man of the house drives unless he's dying or drunk and whenever I'm in the car with him, I whiteknuckle it the whole time. He aims for people who stick their car out too far into the road, he steps on the gas at green lights, expecting the car in front to pound it as much as he does, then gets pissed when they don't. He yells all the time at other drivers, tailgates and has berated me when I get panicky at what he's doing.


Uhm...what was the question again?

I'm not the best driver. Needless to say, I don't volunteer to be the driver if there is a choice. When we had 2 cars we took whichever car had the most gas or was the most convenient.

If going on a road trip we switch off, but he generally drives more because I have a nasty (and unsafe) habit of dozing off behind the wheel.

When growing up my dad generally drove and scared the holy shit out of me. Now my mom drives and it's a much better experience for everyone involved I believe. My dad doesn't get yelled at and my mom doesn't have extra gray hair from fear.

I never saw it as a gender thing, just a who feels like doing this nasty little chore of going from one place to another. I despise driving which is why I love living in Chicago so much. My feet or the bus drivers take me where ever I need to go and I don't care if the driver is male or female.

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Mom? :confused:

:lol:

He usually drives us to a location and I drive us home. So it's about the same amount. Or it depends on if we take my car. He hates my car and won't drive it. But I'd say with a 10% window in either direction at times, we drive the same amount.

Unless it's a road trip. Then, I drive. He has no patience. But I don't mind driving the FJ. It's gnarly fun.

We have two cars but mine is busted so he drives us whenever the car is needed. I don't have insurance on his car yet which is why I don't drive his car. I love driving but sometimes having another person drive me is nice.

Magpie doesn't have her licence, so I do all of the driving.

I haven't heard that word in awhile. I love it!

ive been driving for a lot longer, have many more miles under my belt, and generally a more confident all round driver.

i do all driving when we are together unless she-lish speciaficaly asks.

I'm not in a relationship, but when I'm in a car I usually prefer to drive. It depends on the driver though. There are very few people that I am completely comfortable being a passenger with, and many more that I want no part of being in the car with them when they are driving.

On our honeymoon, my new wife wanted to share the driving. She complained that the cars ahead weren't going fast enough, and I suggested she pass them. The next thing I know, she was looking over her left shoulder to see if it was safe to change lanes, then over her right to see if it was ok to get back in the slow lane. I asked what was wrong with using mirrors and she said she doesn't like them. I slid down in the seat and said, "let me know if we make it." That was the last time she drove with me in the car (that was a long time ago). I have driven cross country twice and even my daughter won't let her drive when she is in the car.

Oh wow. I'm a bad driver, but I'm an ace at positioning the mirrors. I have no blind spot whatsoever when I drive. I'm very proud of that fact.

I'm not currently in a relationship, but I don't drive period, so, if there's any driving going on at all, she's doing it.

We follow the naural order of things - I drive.

I do most of the driving, we mostly take my car. My car is the larger of the two and fits the kids and whatever we need to bring with us. Besides, his car smells like softball. blech. In the beginning of our relationship, he did not have a driver's license; therefore, I had to do all the driving. I am not sure if we just got used to it that way or not. As time went on, and he became a better driver, we share the driving on long trips. Usually, he takes over when I am too tired. He now does better when their is too much traffic and we have to maneuver through the bridges. On a day to day basis, I do it all.

I drive all the time. The only time my wife drives is if she is alone. As far as the cars, we don't have her car and my car, they are our cars.

Ummm, cheater, you have to look over your shoulders to check your blind spots which aren't covered by the side mirrors.

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I've been known to suffer from "Road Glee" a little too often, usually at guys who tromp on the gas, and then get taken down by the speed trap at the next bend, or guys who try to jump lanes to get ahead of me, but end up behind.

Just remember, everyone faster than you is a maniac, and everyone slower than you is an asshole!

I drive for a living so I always tend to be stuck on driving duty. Although it also depends on who's in the mood and whose vehicle it is. I can drive whatever but not everyone else can drive stick.

The only time she drives is when we she comes to see me, of if we're taking two cars. If we're going somewhere, I drive regardless of whose car it is. She's not so good with direction and she drives all the time so when we're in the car, she likes to sit back and relax...and fall asleep most of the time. The only time I don't drive is when I'm tired or drunk. It's just how things naturally work out between us.

I do the bulk of the driving. My wife doesn't like to drive, I don't like being a passenger, so that works out well. We used to always take her car because it was much nicer than mine, but we've since replaced my car w/ a pretty nice truck, so we take thaat whenever the family goes anywhere together.

I honestly have no blind spot. I adjust my mirrors so that car moves seamlessly from the rear view mirror to the side mirror and then into my peripheral vision. I did a lot of long distance driving when I was younger and mastered the mirror arranging challenge to keep me busy so I'd stay awake. I am now quite obsessive about it. I do occasionally glance over my shoulder before switching lanes, but it is not a necessity.

It used to be my wife because she tended to get motion-sickness easily unless at the wheel. I suspect it was part control issue becuase now that she's used to my driving style and so on, I do most of the driving. She still can't read while in the car however.

Together we've driven all over North America and even in Europe on tour. It's not a big deal to us, either way.

The one firm rule we have no matter who's driving, is that the navigator can't second guess parking spots. The driver gets to search and choose without any interference. It's the kind of thing both our sets of parents argue haplessly about and we don't want to imitate it.

I didn't vote because I'm single. I prefer to drive myself, although I didn't much in my last relationship because I went over to his place most often, and I did NOT know his end of town.

ive driven thousands of miles in my lifetime and i am constantly on the rd. i check and double check over my shoulders and not just my mirrors.

you may have forgotten that you may be a competant driver but the person next to you in the other car isnt.

ive lost count the number of times ive taken a lane before some silly driver decides to take the same lane from the otehr side without checking. ive saved at least 20 accidents in the process. this is all due to a quick check over the shoulder.

in saying that, if i was an assessor and you didnt check over your shoulder, id fail your driving test. thats how strongly i feel about it.

I drive whenever we are together (male in a male/female relationship). She says I make her nervous. She has offered to drive on occasion, but I know she's just being nice. We drove across Canada together, twice. (Toronto to Vancouver - 5 days, and back). I drove all of it.

But I like driving, so no big deal.

She's had 3 at fault accidents, including two write-offs, and put us on facility insurance back in the 90's. Asian female that she is, well, is it a stereotype? She actually blamed her first one on an Asian driver in front of her that stopped too quickly for her.

(male) I drive mostly, but then I get carsick easier so it helps to drive.

I drive only when she isn't there simply because I'm lazy but I live alone now so I drive myself everywhere.

OMG yes thank you!!!! I just came from Wilmington, NC (2 hrs) and it took me 1 1/2 hour to and fro because I'm a FREAGGIN' GOOD DRIVER, DAMMIT. I hate the dude who passed me then slowed down in front of me. I was doing 85, he had to be doing 90 while passing me. For the love of god ... !!!

She drives. Mainly because I can't.


Although I have a few times, when she was drunk or we were on my scooter.

I drive more often, but I'm really not a fan of driving with him... he tends to tell me which way to go, when to slow down, when the light's green... ugh.

Then again, we don't really go "out" much, so it's usually just me driving over to his house.

I'm a male and my wife does more of the driving when we drive together. She likes to drive and I'm indifferent to it really, so it is easy to hand over the job of driving to her. She's a good driver for the most part, though she does have a tendency to get aggressive or righteous if another driver is not following the rules of the road.

I voted "I'm female and he drives most often." It's actually more half-and-half when we're driving locally.

When we go on long road trips, he does most of the driving. Not because I like his driving better ... I really really don't because he drives like he's in a tank or a humvee dodging IED's since he came back from the war. BUT ... when I drive far from home or even into Portland, I tend to get very lost. We take turns driving on long road trips, but he ends up reading or sleeping. And wondering why I missed my turn 30 miles back. Or why we're now in a town 90 minutes east of the highway when I was supposed to have turned west.

He, on the other hand, doesn't get lost very often. And if he does get lost, I'm too busy covering my eyes to notice that he's lost.