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03-21-2009, 03:51 PM
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Need advise!!!!!!
I need a mans advise on my dumb ass boyfriend!!!!! I'm 4 almost 5 months pregnant and he changes his mind on having a baby due to financial stress and wants me to abort and then tells me if I dont Im on my own... He also says that he might change his mind but as of now he dosent think so. We have been talking about having a baby for a while now.. from picking out names to talking about what it would look like... He acts like there is a return policy if he changes his mind WTF.... it's not like he dosent have any kids he has one from his Ex wife... why did he cum inside me knowing we were using no birth control? we have done this are whole relationship ( we were together for 6 yrs broke up for 1 1/2 and then got back together 5 months ago.. What in the hell is going on in his head... what do i do????? I want to know what the hell he is thinking (we were planing on having a baby) It sucks raising a baby by yourself..
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03-21-2009, 04:20 PM
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OMFG!!! What? Seriously is this even a question your asking? Do what you want to do. Don't you have a brain of your own? If you want the baby, keep it, if not ... you're not on your own, the law will make sure he takes care of you.
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03-21-2009, 09:13 PM
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03-22-2009, 03:07 AM
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As a parent, yes, it is very hard, but I know great single moms who do a fantastic job with their kids - it can be done. Good luck.
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03-22-2009, 10:06 AM
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Hahahahahah my typing skills are not the best sorry for the mistake...... typical man pic on the lil crap that has nothing to do with the QUESTION!!!
---------- Post added at 11:06 AM ---------- Previous post was at 10:55 AM ---------- Thank you! I guess its hard facing the truth... I wish he would have backed out before I got pregnant.. or even talked about having a baby It just hurts alot. I thought maybe he might change his mind since this whole thing has been like a roller coaster for the past few months.. But as they say wishful thinking. But he made it clear again this morning he feels bad but he dosent think he will or can change his mind in the next 4 months.. Fyi I'm sure there area a few real men out there but not in Nevada!! It sucks doing this on my own.. Thanks again Last edited by little_tippler; 03-22-2009 at 10:15 AM.. Reason: repeated phrase removed |
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03-22-2009, 10:14 AM
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I don't think you should take your anger out on a stranger just because your man doesn't have the balls to face up to what the consequences are of having unprotected sex. And by the way, there were 2 of you when that happened no?
Forget about him and have your child. Move on from that idiot and be wiser in your next relationship. Try and give your child the best life you can. Lots of people raise children as single parents. You'll be alright.
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03-22-2009, 10:36 AM
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stumped, I sounded like an ass. I apologize.
I really know how it feels when it comes to making a joint decision only to have to follow through by yourself. Nothing of this magnitude of course but I'm hoping you get the drift. You need to get rid of your BF. I'm sorry but he's a fuckin' ASS. I'm not anti-abortion, really I think abortion should be the option of the lady in question. But I think you should keep the kid. Adoption is the way to go. There are other various options besides keeping and not keeping. Please look into them. Best of luck. |
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03-22-2009, 10:48 AM
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I was replying to the person who had something to say about a stupid spelliing error that was just the lil statement with the hahahaha.... Other then that everyone has been great with the advise giving, I respect what everyone has to say.. I know that there were two of us when we got pregnant it was a planned event he changed his mind well after the fact. if I knew this was going to happen I would have been taking or using some type of birthcontol. I like to believe that I'm very responible. I'm just stumped over his actions and I don't understand how he could do this...
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03-22-2009, 11:20 AM
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1. Keep kid and raise him/her. Don't expect this father to be in their life.
2. Give up for adoption. 3. Get an abortion. It's pretty late at this point, for me ethical issues begin to arise. Pick one. Your words indicate that you don't seem to feel responsibility for this situation. Surely I hope you realize that having kids without a committed partner isn't the ideal scenario. He also doesn't sound like a very upstanding guy but I have very limited knowledge about him and we are only hearing one side of the story. |
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