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bazkitcase5 · 01-28-2009, 06:00 PM

I'm mostly the type of user that browses on this site, thinking, learning, but rarely posting... so this post contains some thoughts of mine, hopefully not overkill, so maybe I could get some opinions about things I've been going through recently, so I can continue learning, even about myself. I broke it into 2 threads being they are seperate types of topics.

I am 25 years old, and I consider myself a simple person, maybe old fashioned. I do the things I enjoy doing, not really worrying what others think most of the time, but I also find that I am not very sociable. I am a friendly person, easy to get along with, I friends, I just find that I do not have good social skills, which tends to make me a shy person. I have no problem carrying on conversations with people who I get along with, I am just usually bad at initiating conversations with people I do not know that well.

I am single, have not had a lot of girlfriends, but this fact does not bother me. I enjoyed my time in college, but I was also there for a purpose, to get a degree. I went to my fair share of parties and hung out with friends, but also stayed away from a lot of the extra curricular stuff so that I could put school first. I fill in my free time by finding things I enjoy doing and I do not get bored easily, so I stay busy in that regard. So basically, I did not have a girlfriend in college, because I did not meet girls easily, and the ones I did meet were either not compatible or already taken. I live in MS, so its not exactly a booming place anyway.

I have now graduated and working as a computer programmer. It is a good steady job and I like where I live. It is close to home, close to friends and family, but in a new city, so I do not know a lot of people my age (I do know a lot of people older). My closer friends are still in college about an hour away, but that does not exactly help. I do not mind going to bars, but it feels strange to go to a place like that by myself. I play the sport of disc golf on the tournament level, so I travel a lot and meet other disc golfers often, but there are not a lot of single girls that play this sport yet, especially near me. I do not want to send the wrong impression by posting this thread. These things do not really bother me, I am not desperate and I am comfortable in my skin. I am just looking for opinions, thoughts, or advice. Thanks in advance.

Plan9 · 01-28-2009, 06:23 PM

Get a second (more popular) hobby that will allow you to expand your friends and network with other people?

I dunno. You sound like you know what you're doing... and if not, at least you're happy with where you are right now.

Lasereth · 01-29-2009, 05:48 AM

If you are happy then keep on cruising.

kramus · 01-29-2009, 06:51 AM

I always noticed the presence of attractive women in the evening art courses I have taken over the years. Beginner classes bring all sorts of folks together, and often these folks are personable, presentable ladies who are interested and interesting. I've tended to be in a relationship whenever taking a course, but always thought that if I wanted to meet women I would just keep taking interest courses in the arts. You don't have to be an artist to do this - the classes often have a third to a half of attendees who haven't done any sort of artwork since grade school.

something to think about

01-28-2009, 06:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
bazkitcase5 Crazy Location: Tupelo, MS	built up thoughts, part 1 I'm mostly the type of user that browses on this site, thinking, learning, but rarely posting... so this post contains some thoughts of mine, hopefully not overkill, so maybe I could get some opinions about things I've been going through recently, so I can continue learning, even about myself. I broke it into 2 threads being they are seperate types of topics. I am 25 years old, and I consider myself a simple person, maybe old fashioned. I do the things I enjoy doing, not really worrying what others think most of the time, but I also find that I am not very sociable. I am a friendly person, easy to get along with, I friends, I just find that I do not have good social skills, which tends to make me a shy person. I have no problem carrying on conversations with people who I get along with, I am just usually bad at initiating conversations with people I do not know that well. I am single, have not had a lot of girlfriends, but this fact does not bother me. I enjoyed my time in college, but I was also there for a purpose, to get a degree. I went to my fair share of parties and hung out with friends, but also stayed away from a lot of the extra curricular stuff so that I could put school first. I fill in my free time by finding things I enjoy doing and I do not get bored easily, so I stay busy in that regard. So basically, I did not have a girlfriend in college, because I did not meet girls easily, and the ones I did meet were either not compatible or already taken. I live in MS, so its not exactly a booming place anyway. I have now graduated and working as a computer programmer. It is a good steady job and I like where I live. It is close to home, close to friends and family, but in a new city, so I do not know a lot of people my age (I do know a lot of people older). My closer friends are still in college about an hour away, but that does not exactly help. I do not mind going to bars, but it feels strange to go to a place like that by myself. I play the sport of disc golf on the tournament level, so I travel a lot and meet other disc golfers often, but there are not a lot of single girls that play this sport yet, especially near me. I do not want to send the wrong impression by posting this thread. These things do not really bother me, I am not desperate and I am comfortable in my skin. I am just looking for opinions, thoughts, or advice. Thanks in advance.

01-28-2009, 06:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Get a second (more popular) hobby that will allow you to expand your friends and network with other people? I dunno. You sound like you know what you're doing... and if not, at least you're happy with where you are right now. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

01-29-2009, 05:48 AM	#3 (permalink)
Lasereth Knight of the Old Republic Location: Winston-Salem, NC	If you are happy then keep on cruising. __________________ "A Darwinian attacks his theory, seeking to find flaws. An ID believer defends his theory, seeking to conceal flaws." -Roger Ebert

01-29-2009, 06:51 AM	#4 (permalink)
kramus loving the curves Location: my Lady's manor	I always noticed the presence of attractive women in the evening art courses I have taken over the years. Beginner classes bring all sorts of folks together, and often these folks are personable, presentable ladies who are interested and interesting. I've tended to be in a relationship whenever taking a course, but always thought that if I wanted to meet women I would just keep taking interest courses in the arts. You don't have to be an artist to do this - the classes often have a third to a half of attendees who haven't done any sort of artwork since grade school. something to think about __________________ And now to disengage the clutch of the forebrain ... I'm going with this - if you like artwork visit http://markfineart.ca