slimpi66y

Baby Hunter, still born on Sept. 19, 2008 at approximately 2am, was gonna grow up with older brother Hugh and the rest of our family, Hunter was a boy.

Your dad loves you, Hunter, good bye.

jorgelito

My sincerest condolences. God be with you and rest his soul.

Take good care.

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little_tippler

that is terribly sad news.

my condolences.

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healer

My deepest sympathies and condolences.

Keep your head up, and stay strong. Get plenty of hugs...they really help.

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Ayashe

I am very sorry to hear of your family's loss.

Poppinjay

Ten positive touches a day, it really helps.

My sincerest condolences.

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Meditrina

I am so sorry to hear this. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

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*Nikki*

That is so awful, I cannot imagine your pain. I really hope you find the strength to lead your family through this hard time, my deepest sympathy to you.

ottopilot

Sweet little one...

My sincerest condolences.

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slimpi66y

thank you all for the kindest words, they really help, I've had some adversaries in my life and loss of a child is by far the most devastating of them all.

My parents lost my younger brother the same way and to this date they would not talk about it...

curiousbear

I am so sorry, our prayers for your family

slimpi66y

We are jumping through hoops with the City to have Hunter cremated and bring him into our house, originally I thought about burying him in the backyard, but I kept having nightmares of my dead son complaining it's wet, dark and cold in the backyard, now I am determined to bring his remains into the house, since the baby was so little I am not sure if the ashes would amount to anything.

Does anyone know of any support group for this sort of thing? After arguing at the Supreme Court of Canada a human rights case at the age of 28 for the Office of Attorney General, I thought I was ready to face any challenges in life, and I've had some serious adversaries in my life (I am 37 now), but loss of a child is easily the most devastating of them all.

thank you all again for your kind words, my wife is in denial of the whole thing and wouldn't talk about it, and I am barely hanging on to carry myself as each day goes by

thespian86

The only thing I have to say other then you have my thoughts and prayers is that it is fine to not be okay about it. Do what you need to help you cope.

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Anormalguy

You have our sincererist condolences.

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Spartanx9

Just a word of advice from me, if you need to talk to people, then do it. Don't hold it in, it only makes things worse. It is a great loss indeed, but not allowing other people to comfort you by keeping it in won't bring much of coping.

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.

noodle

I'm assuming you're in Canada?
Check with the Canuck Place and see if they have support or can refer you to support in your area.
Most hospitals in the US have a perinatal and antenatal loss support groups.
You're not alone... unfortunately.
Spend time with family. It's very important.
And there is NOTHING wrong with keeping ashes in your home, close to you.
I worked with a single mom that put her child's ashes inside a Build-A-Bear so that she could take him with her wherever she went and could feel part of him was still there.
Some wear ashes around their necks in a little vial.
Grief is rarely wrong. But it can be complicated. Good for you for reaching out.
Sorry, I'm a pediatric Hospice social worker and this is one of my soapboxes... making sure people realize that everyone grieves in their own way and helping connect families to groups that will ensure their grief remains healthy.
My thoughts go out to you.

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Cynthetiq

sorry....

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The_Jazz

I can only echo everyone else and extend my sincerest condolences. I hope you and yours deal with the pain in the healthiest and easiest way possible.

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slimpi66y

Build a Bear is a great idea, I will probably do that,

thank you for your kind and constructive thoughts

genuinegirly

Sending you and your family comforting thoughts.

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Seer666

My worst fear is your reality. There are not words for how sorry I am for your loss.

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