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Old 08-10-2008, 09:30 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Should a relationship be hard work?

I think any relationship takes work, at times. I wouldn't seek or stay with a partner where it always seemed like hard work to make the relationship work.

However, good relationships don't stay that way by going on "autopilot." Sometimes they take a lot of work, especially as the years go by and the first glow wears off. Couples often have to try harder to stay connected at that point.

Additionally, couples may face challenges of illness, unemployment, infertility, depression, etc which add complexity and work to the mix. No relationship will be unchallenged in some manner, if the couple is together for any amount of time. To me, working through those issues is worth it.
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Old 08-10-2008, 02:26 PM   #2 (permalink)
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"...working through those issues is worth it."

That's the measure of a healthy relationship. Two people recognizing issues and working through them together. Sometimes, one partner seems to work harder than the other, but things tend to even out, over time.

Eventually, if you're lucky, you get to the point where most "issues" are just dealt with in the flow of everyday life, without much extra effort. Love, trust, and the ability to compromise are keys to a long, happy relationship.

(gawd, I've been sounding like a freakin' Pollyanna lately!)
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Old 08-10-2008, 04:07 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Hmmm... I think the moment you think "This isn't worth the good times" is the moment it's done.

Anything in life means work.
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Old 08-10-2008, 06:48 PM   #4 (permalink)
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What is causing the work? Is it setting up dates, activities, and things to talk about?

Is it trying to keep together with some major incompatibility?

Or i it working on things after a few years to keep things interesting?

I would/will be easy to date. I'm not very demanding and just need some touching to be happy.

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