UKking

This seems to be happening to me a lot lately.

A few times, I've found myself looking for things to do with certain girls who I've already, frankly, judged to be.... Well... uninteresting.
They're not the hottest thing ever, or aren't interested in what I think is fun, or act generally strange and cumbersome. Nothing about them seems to stick out to me. Yet, I've been compelled to pursue them. I have no clue why, especially since I know a number of fun, interesting, inspiring, smart, nice girls. It makes no sense, I tell you!

The last person, she was very cute. She'd call me every so often, usually at midnight. Even though she's the one that calls, she wouldn't have anything to talk about. And when I'd suggest getting together for like a movie or lets cook something, she declines. Then she assures me that she wants to, just some other time......Huh?
It's happened four times now over the past 3 months. WEIRD.
Meanwhile when she calls up, after some prodding, she'd talk about either how little she has going on in her life, or how fun mine sounds. I'm not sure why I bother to call her or send texts to tell her whats coming up, she'll never accept...

But something makes me curious about her even though I know she's got nothing to offer and probably isn't even that thrilling in the more physical sense. Is it the intrigue that's keeping my attention? Bleh. Stupid.

What about you?

allaboutmusic

Attraction is illogical.

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Jenna

I've always been attracted to the type of guys you don't want to date. The type of guys who don't prioritize you. It's kind of odd that way. I think I just like the chase.

fresnelly

I don't see what's so confusing here.

Who wouldn't be intrigued by a very cute girl (your description) that appears interested? Have you been feeling particularly bored or lonely lately?

If so then ANY interest will have more pull, no matter what your usual standards.

Why is she behaving this way? The thrill of the flirt of course. She gets an ego boost from the interest in her as well. You get the proverbial carrot infront of the donkey.

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UKking

Well, some very apt observations there. I'll have to watch out, I guess!

Anyone else have this sort of deal before?

Fotzlid

Maybe they are safe. If they reject you, you weren't that interested in the first place.
Maybe these girls are the type you are really interested in but the fun, interesting, etc ones are the ones your friends like and you are following the crowd.
Maybe you feel like you don't deserve the fun, interesting, etc girls, so you go for the others.

Maybe I don't know what the hell I'm talking about.

Seer666

Some good observations but the simplelest one has been missed. You're male and she has a pussy.

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Mephex

Nothing like a good break down.

I've been in situations similar to the OP's. A level of interest in trying to pursue relationships for the simple fact of finding out "what will happen". Nothing good comes out of it though, you know it already before it begins, yet you continue to try different things just to see the result.

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Daniel_

I've never been attracted to someone for no good reason, but it's clear that it's happened to many women I know...

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Charlatan

This happens more often than is good for me.

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ruggerp11

sometimes it's a look you get or it's a smell they have. That's what gets you hooked. Then especially if someone seems to be half interested or 'meh' about you you wonder why, you try and change it only to realize they just weren't interested at all. You get hooked and then you chase. There is something primal there for sure.

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