high_jinx

I spent a large part of my youth in the electro/underground/rave scene, and used to love to go out dancing.

i also spent a large part of my youth dating, and playing the field, and having fun out with girls.

however, i never really combined the 2.

dancing seems like a very individual thing to me. i used to dance for hours when i went to see dj's. and sure, there'd be moments where i connected with someone on the floor, or a group of people would pick up on the same vibe and share it... but these moments were for me fleeting, and i'd always end up either retreating back in my own world, or taking a girl off the dance floor to go talk and hang out and take a break.

so my Questions to TFP on this are...

How do you feel about dancing?

How do you dance as a couple? How long can you dance with your partner if you're in a relationship, and what sustains it?

If you go "out dancing" for a whole evening, how long does it last for you and what does it entail?

any general phiosophical comments or stories would be appreciated too... i'd just like to hear others experience with this.

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allaboutmusic

I hate clubs and always felt like I missed out on the whole meeting-women-in-a-club thing because of it. I just don't understand how you can meet potential dates somewhere you can't hear your own internal monologue over the thumping bass.

I wouldn't object to going salsa or ballroom dancing, but they seem less commonplace.

jewels

How do you feel about dancing?
I love dancing, any kind. Love to watch it, love to do it, but not all that great at it anymore.

How do you dance as a couple? How long can you dance with your partner if you're in a relationship, and what sustains it?
Sadly n/a -- someday soon I'll let you know.

If you go "out dancing" for a whole evening, how long does it last for you and what does it entail?
Don't do it anymore, but back "in the day" I was a bit of a disco queen :blush: Used to start evenings dancing with a friendgirl and would dance with anyone and everyone on the floor. Spent probably about 6 hours per night dancing.

I was in school for dance from the age of 2 til about 11 for ballet, jazz, tap and modern dance. I decided it wasn't "cool" anymore when all my friends were playing and I was busy. Shame, huh? I've always admired Broadway dancers, love watching any kind of dance.

The only freestyle dance I do is in my living room while I'm cleaning on my kidless weekends, although you can often find me bopping in front of any computer or behind the wheel.

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little_tippler

I love dancing and I have posted a thread in here before about men and dancing (or lack thereof).

When I hear music I like, I usually feel like dancing. I do resist the urge, say, on the subway for example :P

I don't know, I feel music deep inside. It makes me want to move. It gets me excited. I can dance for hours. If I go out dancing I will dance most of the night.

Sadly I have never been with a man who will dance with me, like seriously dance with me. Most guys stand there and I dance around them (literally not figuratively). Even slow dancing seems like a chore. I would love to find a guy who loves to dance as much as I do.

Recently I have taken up salsa and its a whole different world - so refreshing! I have been to salsa clubs and it's so easy to meet people who want to dance. Strangers will ask you to dance and everyone dances in couples. It's pretty awesome. It really is dancing for the pure enjoyment of it.

I really recommend it to couples because it's amazing to dance that way plus it's not hard to learn. It takes a little effort but trust me it's so worth it.

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We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

Fernando Pessoa, 1918

soma

Going out and dancing is great.
It's fun to get tipsy, listen to dance music, and just let loose.
And the fact that girls dress themselves provocatively and drink themselves silly makes it all the better.

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Shauk

yeah, i never really "got" dancing. I was always "the DJ" but then I get a few drinks in me and someone plays some crazy intense psy trance for 4 hours straight and I'm just like "social awkwardness be damned, I have to express my love of this music NOW" in the most silent yet oh so clear manner possible.

I just communicate.

body language, and for couples dancing, well, thats fun too but I still like to do my own thing.

inBOIL

I wouldn't mind learning to dance... if it were a dance with steps, so I'd know what to do. But the freestyle, move-to-the-music-do-what-you-want kind of dancing would be all but impossible. Kind of like trying to play baseball without knowing anything about the game.

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PonyPotato

I really enjoy dancing, but hardly ever go out to a public place to do it. I've been to a "club" I think three times ever.. all three times were a lot of fun, but it's not something I find myself compelled to do regularly. I guess I prefer to dance around at home in my underwear when I'm in the mood to move.

I want to learn ballroom dancing, though. Especially the tango. I'm going to a class on Saturday and I hope it's easier to learn than I think it will be. I can be good at moving with music and enjoying myself, especially when I don't feel eyes on me, but I know nothing about actual dance steps and whatnot (other than basic ballet).

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