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bluestars87 · 08-30-2007, 06:20 AM

Hey. Yeah so I have some kind of issue and I was seeking some suggestions.

Alright, so I'm a 19 year old student that attends an art college in San Francisco. Let's just say life has been kind of "quiet" for me. I don't live at my college. I actually commute there. And most of my friends have moved elsewhere to attend their respective colleges. School is out for now, but the new semester starts in about a week for me.

Now...here's the thing I wanted some advice for. At first, I didn't even want to make a thread about this, thinking I could deal with it on my own, but I want to be sure. Okay, so there's this pretty Korean girl that was in a class of mine that I met about a year ago. She's 4 years older than me. I didn't talk to her that much when I met her, but during the middle of the semester a year ago we just talked every now and then. We had a conversation where I learned a little bit about what she's been doing, why she went to this college, etc. You know, just small talk.

So a year passed, and up until several days ago, I hadn't really heard from her or seen her around school. I was looking on my Facebook (a networking program that connects friends) and just out of curiosity, I looked to see who had the same birthday as me that attends my college. Strange, but she happened to have the same birthday as I do. So then I asked her to be my friend on Facebook and she accepted and we had a few nice conversations. Here they are:

Me

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Hey thanks for the add. Kinda crazy how we have the same birthday. It's been a while since I've seen you. How have you been? What are you doing for the upcoming semester?

Her

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haha wow that IS crazy. i'm taking 5 classes this semester.. can't say i'm looking forward to it. how about you? how was your summer?

Me

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Whoa five classes!!??? That's a lot. I wish I was as brave as you hahaha. Anyways, summer was okay. I mostly worked. Nothing too special. How about you? What did you do during the summer? See anything fun and exciting? Do something cool?

Her

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yeah, i don't know if i'm insane or stupid.. or perhaps both. i just want to get some of these classes over and DONE with! my summer was mellow.. went back to nyc a couple times. good luck with the new semester. perhaps i'll see you around campus =)

Me

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Psssh...oh no, you're not insane or stupid. You're actually quite smart for wanting to get all of those classes out of the way. Hey nice to hear you went back to NYC. Hope you had a fun time. Yeah maybe we'll see each other around campus. Best of luck to you this semester!!!

So yeah, then I thought about maybe pursuing this in the hopes that something special might happen, but...then I thought that my "desperate" side was just speaking it's mind. Which is why I kind of closed the idea within the last comment I left. I mean, she's 23 and really pretty. I don't think she has a boyfriend, but who knows. And we're not really friends, just acquaintances. I'm planning to say hi to her on her birthday, our birthday I should say. But I'm not sure if I should just continue this or just keep things friendly. Honestly though, I think this is just a pathetic attempt by my inner self to try and get a pretty girlfriend or something. I just wish I could let things be. So anyone want to help me out?

squeeeb · 08-30-2007, 06:44 AM

first off, age has nothing to do with anything, it's irrelevant.

um....it seems pretty straight forward. she is a girl, you are attracted to her. usually the next step is trying to somehow "date" her. it's not pathetic or desperate, thats what people do every day. maybe she only wants to be freinds, but maybe something might come of it. you are already past the biggest hurlde, which is getting the girl to talk to you. ask her out on a freindly date and see how that goes. the only deal breaker is if it's a long distance relationship, they never work unless you are together for a while and solidify the bond before hand.

bluestars87 · 08-30-2007, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by squeeeb

first off, age has nothing to do with anything, it's irrelevant.

um....it seems pretty straight forward. she is a girl, you are attracted to her. usually the next step is trying to somehow "date" her. it's not pathetic or desperate, thats what people do every day. maybe she only wants to be freinds, but maybe something might come of it. you are already past the biggest hurlde, which is getting the girl to talk to you. ask her out on a freindly date and see how that goes. the only deal breaker is if it's a long distance relationship, they never work unless you are together for a while and solidify the bond before hand.

Yeah, it's just that whenever I meet a pretty girl for the first time or get to know them barely, I feel like she's the girl of my dreams and I should pursue her. That's why it seems like I'm feeling desperate to get any cute girl to be my girlfriend.

Midnight · 08-30-2007, 07:51 PM

nothing wrong with saying "hey, if you arent doing anything *X* night, I was thinking of *insert activity that is benign like going to movies*, you dont happen to want to come along do ya?"

worst she will say is "oh i'd like to, but ive got *activity* already..."

and you say ""cool, no prob. eh.. im gonna be late for class. see ya around sometime" and take off

bluestars87 · 08-30-2007, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Midnight

nothing wrong with saying "hey, if you arent doing anything *X* night, I was thinking of *insert activity that is benign like going to movies*, you dont happen to want to come along do ya?"

worst she will say is "oh i'd like to, but ive got *activity* already..."

and you say ""cool, no prob. eh.. im gonna be late for class. see ya around sometime" and take off

Well I'm not sure if I'm ever going to see her around campus. So...would you still relay that type of message through cyberspace?

08-30-2007, 06:44 AM	#2 (permalink)
squeeeb part of the problem Location: hic et ubique	first off, age has nothing to do with anything, it's irrelevant. um....it seems pretty straight forward. she is a girl, you are attracted to her. usually the next step is trying to somehow "date" her. it's not pathetic or desperate, thats what people do every day. maybe she only wants to be freinds, but maybe something might come of it. you are already past the biggest hurlde, which is getting the girl to talk to you. ask her out on a freindly date and see how that goes. the only deal breaker is if it's a long distance relationship, they never work unless you are together for a while and solidify the bond before hand. __________________ onward to mayhem!

08-30-2007, 07:51 PM	#4 (permalink)
Midnight Banned Location: Chicago's western burbs	nothing wrong with saying "hey, if you arent doing anything X night, I was thinking of insert activity that is benign like going to movies, you dont happen to want to come along do ya?" worst she will say is "oh i'd like to, but ive got activity already..." and you say ""cool, no prob. eh.. im gonna be late for class. see ya around sometime" and take off Last edited by Midnight; 08-30-2007 at 07:53 PM..