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LLL2 · 11-02-2006, 04:04 PM

So I have this girlfriend. She starting to piss me off alittle bit We been seeing each other for like 3 months. The sex life is good I guess,couple times a week. But the thing that pisses me off is that we work around her schedule. So when I call her she acts like she doesn't want to talk to me. But when she calls me she wants to talk. Feels like when I'm telling her some stuff about me she always has to go. I ask her if she still wants to be my girlfriend she says yes. But she acts soo damn weird about it. I really do like her. But her shit is getting old and i have somehow got emotional attach to this chick. I know i should just find another girl and dump her , but it's hard right now. I have very little time, well maybe not. I just like her so i make time for her. I guess after typing this out, I kinda figure out what I have to do. I got to lose my feelings for her. I just gotta find another chick. Then it won't hurt as bad, Damn i hate catching feelings. But if you guys have any tips in what I should do give it to me.

I met her act a club, hmm i guess that my first problems

NCB · 11-02-2006, 04:39 PM

You ended up answering your own question. That's usually the best way to find out a solution. Good luck!

monkeysugar · 11-02-2006, 09:20 PM

You've answered your own question. Communication is key, but trust me, actions speak a lot stronger than words. I've quite recently learned this the hard way. It hurts, and it really sucks, but if you've done everything you can and they don't seem to give a shit, that's on them, and you deserve someone who will treat you right. (which I'm sure you've heard as many times as I have, and it probably doesn't make you feel any better than it does me.) You cannot make a relationship work if you are the only one who is trying, nor should you have to.

Lizra · 11-03-2006, 03:59 AM

Before you walk.....perhaps as a final experiment...treat her the way she treats you, and see what happens.

You never know....

Manic_Skafe · 11-03-2006, 07:51 AM

There are plenty of good people to be found everywhere - whether you met someone in a club or a back alley, it's unfair to gage how good a lover they'd be simply because of where you met them. Not to mention the fact that she met you at the club as well.

I know this will seem a bit radical but why don't you ask her for the reasoning behind the way she's been acting? If you're willing to ignore an aspect of your relationship that bothers you then you forfeit your right to complain about it.

You claim to have feelings for her but you post leaves me under the impression that you care as little about the relationship as she seems to.

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LLL2 · 11-03-2006, 06:40 PM

Damn you guys are right , I'm going talk to her face to face when I see her again. But she said she would call me today, she hasn't called me, so whatever. Home on a friday.

I'm not going call her until she calls me. Am'i wrong for that or is she wrong for saying she is going to call and hasn't.it's only 930pm though

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Ugh oh well, Hopefully she still has feeling for me because when I cut her loose she is going feel the same way I do. Damn to bad my friends are busy with school and work. I need someone to drink with.

It's weird though, i never fell this way for a woman. Most of the time when i break up with a chick it's alot easier on me , because we both know it would never work out. But i feel this could work out, only if she could show me some damn respect. Well i'll find out when i see her again. Because were going to talk.

DaElf · 11-04-2006, 05:36 AM

It's only been 3 months. Still in development. Keep the status and let it grow see how it works. Keep an emotional arms length until you know what's in her head or she makes it definitive that she wants a monogamous and dedicated relationship with you. That way you keep your options open and you don't get hurt.

Just an idea you can tumble on.

DaElf · 11-08-2006, 02:40 AM

So what's up with this sitchiAtion?

LLL2 · 11-08-2006, 02:15 PM

Damn it's hard. I like her, she gives out. I mean she called later that night and we went out sunday night. When i'm with her, i feel great. But i know i can find someone better ,but i do really like her. She's kinda cool to hang out with, and we somewhat like doing stuff together. I guess i'm just going talk to her and ask her what kind of thing she wants out of this relationship , does she want to get serious relationship. But if she leaves it's her lost. I'm pretty sure she would come backfor me because i'm very good too her. Maybe too good.

Also another thing is when we was having sex week(2 weeks?) the condom kinda broke, and she accidently forgot to take her birth control. So I'm waiting for period to start in 1 week. Damn this sucks dude. We haven't even talk for 2 days now.

thingstodo · 11-11-2006, 08:05 AM

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all! If she pisses you off now what do you expect to change? So many people meet, fall in love and then get married, all the time hoping to change the person they are with. That's kind of like insanity. I guess what I'm saying is that if you aren't cool with everything when the romance is going on it won't get any better when reality sets in!

shesus · 11-11-2006, 01:23 PM

Honestly, it doesn't sound like you are that into her. The only good things you've said about her that is that she puts out and you are happy when you are out with her. You started right in with the complaining and then as an afterthought...oops, she might be pregnant, yea I'm happy with her. You are on your way down a miserable path if you just stay with her because she is pregnant. Hopefully for you she isn't then it will be a clean break. But don't stay with someone just because of a child. It isn't good for anyone involved.

Sounds to me like you are both young and a bit selfish, but that's just what I got from what you wrote. Cut your losses and move on.

LLL2 · 11-13-2006, 07:39 PM

Alright she isn't pregnant. Don't get me wrong. When were together we actually talk, oh and she does give out. We talk about all types of stuff. But it just seems like when were not face to face it isn't the same, I know it sounds crazy.

11-02-2006, 04:04 PM	#1 (permalink)
LLL2 Crazy	Ugh...What should I do ? So I have this girlfriend. She starting to piss me off alittle bit We been seeing each other for like 3 months. The sex life is good I guess,couple times a week. But the thing that pisses me off is that we work around her schedule. So when I call her she acts like she doesn't want to talk to me. But when she calls me she wants to talk. Feels like when I'm telling her some stuff about me she always has to go. I ask her if she still wants to be my girlfriend she says yes. But she acts soo damn weird about it. I really do like her. But her shit is getting old and i have somehow got emotional attach to this chick. I know i should just find another girl and dump her , but it's hard right now. I have very little time, well maybe not. I just like her so i make time for her. I guess after typing this out, I kinda figure out what I have to do. I got to lose my feelings for her. I just gotta find another chick. Then it won't hurt as bad, Damn i hate catching feelings. But if you guys have any tips in what I should do give it to me. I met her act a club, hmm i guess that my first problems

11-02-2006, 09:20 PM	#3 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	You've answered your own question. Communication is key, but trust me, actions speak a lot stronger than words. I've quite recently learned this the hard way. It hurts, and it really sucks, but if you've done everything you can and they don't seem to give a shit, that's on them, and you deserve someone who will treat you right. (which I'm sure you've heard as many times as I have, and it probably doesn't make you feel any better than it does me.) You cannot make a relationship work if you are the only one who is trying, nor should you have to. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good.

11-03-2006, 03:59 AM	#4 (permalink)
Lizra Insane Location: rural Indiana	Before you walk.....perhaps as a final experiment...treat her the way she treats you, and see what happens. You never know.... __________________ Happy atheist

11-03-2006, 07:51 AM	#5 (permalink)
Manic_Skafe More Than You Expect Location: Queens	There are plenty of good people to be found everywhere - whether you met someone in a club or a back alley, it's unfair to gage how good a lover they'd be simply because of where you met them. Not to mention the fact that she met you at the club as well. I know this will seem a bit radical but why don't you ask her for the reasoning behind the way she's been acting? If you're willing to ignore an aspect of your relationship that bothers you then you forfeit your right to complain about it. You claim to have feelings for her but you post leaves me under the impression that you care as little about the relationship as she seems to. ... __________________ "Porn is a zoo of exotic animals that becomes boring upon ownership." -Nersesian

11-04-2006, 05:36 AM	#7 (permalink)
DaElf Tilted Location: Washington	It's only been 3 months. Still in development. Keep the status and let it grow see how it works. Keep an emotional arms length until you know what's in her head or she makes it definitive that she wants a monogamous and dedicated relationship with you. That way you keep your options open and you don't get hurt. Just an idea you can tumble on. __________________ I'm sitting at my desk right now waiting for you to reply to the above message.

11-03-2006, 06:40 PM	#6 (permalink)
LLL2 Crazy	Damn you guys are right , I'm going talk to her face to face when I see her again. But she said she would call me today, she hasn't called me, so whatever. Home on a friday. I'm not going call her until she calls me. Am'i wrong for that or is she wrong for saying she is going to call and hasn't.it's only 930pm though . Ugh oh well, Hopefully she still has feeling for me because when I cut her loose she is going feel the same way I do. Damn to bad my friends are busy with school and work. I need someone to drink with. It's weird though, i never fell this way for a woman. Most of the time when i break up with a chick it's alot easier on me , because we both know it would never work out. But i feel this could work out, only if she could show me some damn respect. Well i'll find out when i see her again. Because were going to talk.

11-08-2006, 02:40 AM	#8 (permalink)
DaElf Tilted Location: Washington	So what's up with this sitchiAtion? __________________ I'm sitting at my desk right now waiting for you to reply to the above message.

11-08-2006, 02:15 PM	#9 (permalink)
LLL2 Crazy	Damn it's hard. I like her, she gives out. I mean she called later that night and we went out sunday night. When i'm with her, i feel great. But i know i can find someone better ,but i do really like her. She's kinda cool to hang out with, and we somewhat like doing stuff together. I guess i'm just going talk to her and ask her what kind of thing she wants out of this relationship , does she want to get serious relationship. But if she leaves it's her lost. I'm pretty sure she would come backfor me because i'm very good too her. Maybe too good. Also another thing is when we was having sex week(2 weeks?) the condom kinda broke, and she accidently forgot to take her birth control. So I'm waiting for period to start in 1 week. Damn this sucks dude. We haven't even talk for 2 days now.

11-11-2006, 08:05 AM	#10 (permalink)
thingstodo A Storm Is Coming Location: The Great White North	Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all! If she pisses you off now what do you expect to change? So many people meet, fall in love and then get married, all the time hoping to change the person they are with. That's kind of like insanity. I guess what I'm saying is that if you aren't cool with everything when the romance is going on it won't get any better when reality sets in! __________________ If you're wringing your hands you can't roll up your shirt sleeves. Stangers have the best candy.

11-11-2006, 01:23 PM	#11 (permalink)
shesus Fancy Location: Chicago	Honestly, it doesn't sound like you are that into her. The only good things you've said about her that is that she puts out and you are happy when you are out with her. You started right in with the complaining and then as an afterthought...oops, she might be pregnant, yea I'm happy with her. You are on your way down a miserable path if you just stay with her because she is pregnant. Hopefully for you she isn't then it will be a clean break. But don't stay with someone just because of a child. It isn't good for anyone involved. Sounds to me like you are both young and a bit selfish, but that's just what I got from what you wrote. Cut your losses and move on. __________________ Whatever did happen to your soul? I heard you sold it Choose Heaven for the weather and Hell for the company

11-13-2006, 07:39 PM	#12 (permalink)
LLL2 Crazy	Alright she isn't pregnant. Don't get me wrong. When were together we actually talk, oh and she does give out. We talk about all types of stuff. But it just seems like when were not face to face it isn't the same, I know it sounds crazy.