lindalove

We did our usual Sunday shopping thing... grocery shopping, picked up pet food, yada,yada,yada. Before we went to the grocery store we stopped by Wally World to get my nephew snacks for his lunches for during the week.

When I walked into the store, there was a woman probably in her mid 50's or so struggling with 2 carriages that were stuck together.

Since I needed one as well, I got behind the one that refused to let go of the one that she wanted, put my right foot on the back right wheel so it wouldn't move, held on the handle and told the woman to pull the other one.

She hesitated and gave me this really weird look as if to say "Yeah, right! You're going to let go as soon as I pull and I'm going to end up on the floor!" I took her "look" for what it was worth and told her to pull again, so she did although I could tell she was still wondering whether to trust me or not.

The carriages came apart and she never hit the floor as I didn't let go of the one I was holding on to, not that I was planning on doing that anyway. I saw that she was getting frustrated and wanted to help.

I wasn't mad at the woman for not trusting me, but it does suck that people in general have to be so frickin' suspicious because some stranger wants to lend a hand. I didn't do it expecting anything other than not having to watch the woman throw her hands up in the air because she was aggravated.

Sheesh! Apparently random acts of kindness are a thing of the past....

ngdawg

While I find that the simplest kindnesses are met with rudeness, I still do them because that is how I am. I am, however, prone to say rather loudly,'You're welcome' as they walk away without so much as a half-hearted 'Thanks'.
My son was always a gentleman, even as a 3 year old. It's amazing how someone will be sure to acknowledge when a child holds a door for them, but expect it when an adult does.

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Siege

I don't do kind things expecting anything in return. Simply because, I usually don't get anything in return.

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Elphaba

Lindalove, perhaps that woman had already had a bad experience. My mother was assaulted and robbed in broad daylight at a grocery store a few blocks from where she lived. She was hospitalized and required a year of treatment on her broken hand, which she will never have full use of again.

The creep and accomplice that attacked her? Both women who found it easy to attack elderly women.

skier

Strange... I can count the number of times i've helped someone where they were not appreciative on one hand.

I can't be the only one that gets thanked on a regular basis?

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match000

Yeah these days people are not very nice. Even when I lend a helping hand (something small), sometimes people do not show any appreciation at all.

I don't think this would happen in Canada.

Siege

The lack of appreciation? Or the act of showing appreciation?

I live in Canada, and well, my other post is above.

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lindalove

Sorry to hear it. What happened to the people that did it?

snowy

Actually, there have been places in Canada where I have done things, like held doors open for people, and been widely ignored.

I think it's more that people are just completely oblivious to anything outside of themselves anymore, so they don't notice when people are being polite, or they have a hard time believing that anyone else in this world is still polite--God forbid.

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Yakk

Linda, let's remove your observations of the lady's emotional state:

That is what happened. A pretty positive story.

On top of that, we have your interpritation of her emotional state, which turned the incident into a rather negative and bleak one.

I can't tell if you where accurate or not -- but I can tell that your interpritations of other's motivations, from subtle emotional clues, where pretty negative.

Be careful what emotions and motivations you read into other people. It can quite often backfire and make the world you experience a worse place.

I know someone who assumes the worst motivations from some other people. She may be right or wrong -- but quite often her interpritations and reactions to those interpritations do absolutely no good.

I don't know if that is you -- it probably isn't -- but do be careful and check to make sure!

Opening doors for people isn't politeness. It is minimium public behaviour! One should expect to be noticed & thanked for doing that about as often as one should be noticed & thanked for using the public toilets intead of the street...

(just kidding)

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Elphaba

Witnesses got the license plate number, and the driver turned on her accomplice. The "lady" had 13 priors and will be in prison for a very long time.

The additional "crime" was robbing my mother of her sense of safety. She is not as openly trusting as she once was.

Margarita

Ugh, it's so annoying when folks jump the wrong conclusions. Interesting though, I think I've read something like this happening on another board that I frequent - maybe it's a regional thing.