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Old 03-22-2006, 08:23 AM   #41 (permalink)
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Really, my main off-limits language isn't about what words he uses, but how he uses them. Nothing's that bad if you can discuss it and work it out and everyone apologizes for being unnecessarily mean or whatever. When it's an issue? When there's a pattern of behavior that is negatively affecting your partner and you're not willing to adjust that pattern. It wasn't that Q was calling me stupid, it wasn't the WORD, so much as the implied attitude that went with it. It was disrespectful on a regular basis, so that is why I brought it up. I don't generally worry about particular statements past the argument unless they're a recurring theme.
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Old 03-22-2006, 09:30 AM   #42 (permalink)
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Um, so ratbastid could call you a stupid fucking moron who doesn't know jackshit about anything and who would improve the world by killing herself, and you would be fine with that as long as he were tired or stressed or angry when he said it?

Sorry, but there are just certain things that should never be said no matter how tired or stressed or angry a person is. And not just what I said above, but also things like, "fuck off/you" or "I could do better than you."
If we're dealing in hypothetical SO's, then yes, an SO who said that to me would have a lot of explaining to do. It would not, however, be unforgivable.

If, however, we're dealing with real SO's, then ratbastid would never say that and if he did I would KNOW there was something really wrong.

I don't think I said I'd be "fine" with anything ratbastid said, and if I did, I misspoke. There's just not much he could say to me that I would find "inexcusable."
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Old 03-22-2006, 09:48 AM   #43 (permalink)
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I guess Astrocloud excused her for her comments: http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=101926
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Old 03-22-2006, 10:44 AM   #44 (permalink)
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I don't think I said I'd be "fine" with anything ratbastid said, and if I did, I misspoke. There's just not much he could say to me that I would find "inexcusable."
Oops, yeah you didn't say that. I get what you mean now.
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Old 03-23-2006, 01:49 PM   #45 (permalink)
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wow, from all the things ive heard, i have had it easy!

The only thing that got to me is name calling. Jokes are one thing, but a consistant onslaught of such words wears me down. I dont know why, but it does.

however, in comparison to astrocloud's, my experience doesnt seem that hurtful.

Im just wondering why we feel implored to say such things in the first place? have we forgotten that relationships are supposed to be about happiness??
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Old 03-26-2006, 04:53 PM   #46 (permalink)
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The bf once told me I had floppy boobs. I have no idea why. But really - I think that classifies (at least for me) as something you should never say to the SO. Everytime he talks about my breasts now all I hear is 'floppy boobs'.
ps. I have issues with negative self-talk.
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