Milky

Going to bed with a guy for the first time?

SiN

I dunno, how long do you usually wait before going to bed with a guy for the first time?

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point being, it's good forum etiquette to elaborate a bit more in the opening post.
either, explain the situ, or give your own opinion, or something.
a better opening post generally creates better discussion, and, why would people want to open up and be honest if you can't do it first?

...... and now that that is out of the way ....

I usually ... don't 'wait'. It happens when it happens. I'm pretty comfortable with sex, and certainly don't need to have 'love' going along with it .. waiting just for the purpose of waiting seems almost game-playing-ish to me, which is really not cool ..

relationship i'm in now, we slept together the night of our first date, which was like, 2 months ago, and things are all going spectacularily, so i don't think there's any harm in it.

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ShaniFaye

with my husband I wanted approx 3 hours of meeting him

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Second date with my guy... would've been the first, but I was raggin' it.

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snowy

Well, I met my guy one night...went on our first date two days later...slept with him that night.

He's an exception to every rule though

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veruca

I don't believe in a "time frame"...that is just stupid, you are an adult.

I waited a long time to actually do it in the first place, I was 19 and madly in love, and it was 2 months into the relationship with him. 2 weeks into the relationship with the second, and 3rd date with my husband. You should do it when you are comfortable.

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Eowyn_Vala

wow my story is a lot like veruca's only I married the first one. We dated for about 2 months, I was 19 and we were both madly in love. It's been that way since and we are now married. Since he was my first and only I can't contribute much to this thread other than I think you'll know when the time is right.

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kylie

i think it just happened , sometimes you waited forever cos you just dont think that guy is the one you want to spend more than 2 dates with . but some you just totally get attracted with and want to do it right away ! haha for me i dont set myself a time cos it will make me feel uncomfortable if it happens

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Naked Communist

I think it depends on the situation. My first serious boyfriend I waited a month or so, if memory serves. With my husband, however, we slept together on the 1st date and literally weren't apart from each other for 2 weeks after (we're disgusting). We've been together 2 1/2 years now and going strong. So, it just depends on the guy, & what you want - relationship? fling? one-night-stand?
Every guy and every situation is different - you try to set restraints on any act of intimacy and you're just going to screw things up (no pun intended). Just let things happen naturally.

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rlynnm

Well, I've seen both sides. With one guy I dated, I waited just about a year or so. And another guy I dated, I don't think a time frame existed haha. I had him checked, made sure he was clear and took out all the horny aggression out on him.

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TotalMILF

Second date with hubby... didn't get out of bed for days...

shesus

I think that waiting is overrated, unless it's going to be your first time. In that case, you should put some thought into it, but that's my opinion.

I waited about 2 months, maybe 1 with my first...I can't exactly remember how long it was, I'm horrible with time and that was about 10 years ago.

With my husband. we were friends for 2 years before we started dating. The sex happened within the first week of dating.

Every situation is different and it depends on the guy and your feelings. Some are just immediate physicail attractions which can be one-night stands although those can become something more at times. I don't think that you should have a set time for things like that. It happens when it feels right. You shouldn't plan for it because it takes away from the joy and pleasure imo.

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10 months

raeanna74

First three guys I dated, I never slept with any. One of whom I never even kissed and one of whom I became engaged to but never went farther than necking with.

Then there was hubby. I made out with him frequently within the first 2 or 3 months of dating him. Later on we engaged in oral sex. But it took a year before I actually had sex with him. We were both virgins and raised conservative Baptist. Intercourse outside of marriage was taboo and we were living in a very restrictive environment where the opportunity for time alone was seldom.

Now - I'll have sex within 10 minutes of meeting a guy. BUT that's because we swing and I'm not planning on a long term relationship with these guys. It's not intimate - it's just fun.

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Sweetpea

When you feel it's right and when you feel the relationship is mature enough to handle it... sex is pretty intense. Go with your gut feeling, if you feel like waiting a while, then do. Number one rule: whenever you have sex, whether is's the first date or the 80th.... be safe, use a condom.

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Atropos4

Alpha phi actually was my first and I waited till I was comfortable to go for it. I believe it was a month or so.

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Apache

I've only been with my hubby and we waited a month after we met.

sexymama

With Lebell -- the first night we met (Although we had been chatting online and the phone and were introduced through friends, so there was some safety net there.)

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MindBabble

with my partner we fooled around 2nd night we'd know each other although it took about 1mth to sleep with him. Now we've been together 2yrs and we have a beautiful baby boy.
However im with the whole just seeing where things go and if theres chemistry well hook in . These days sex is about fun and excitement love doesnt have to go hand in hand with it.

little_tippler

knowing a little more now than I did some years ago, I would now say make him wait a little - if you don't want to have sex straight away. If he's there for the longterm, then it shouldn't be a big issue. Perhaps if they wait a little they will learn to like YOU better before they get into your pants too easily. No offense intended to any other posters, I guess I have trust issues.

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